Depends on what the topic is. If it's about physical appearance then it's a perfectly fine way to raise kids. If it's about basically anything else then you're just signing them up for a lesson in failure and disappointment
Plus you can't face a problem without first accepting it. The title is like saying patch the wounds before you cut off the shirt that hides them.
That's just turning the problem into a pretzel and misplacing blame though. It's overly complex and ultimately a waste of time. Work out or eat right; the solutions are simple in 95% of cases (screwed up genetics being the 5%)
I'm not changing the problem in the slightest. The problem is their health. I'm changing the source of motivation. Teaching children the reason they should get health is because they'll look terrible is terrible parenting. Not only will that make them self conscious about their looks it will make them not consider the health aspect as important. Health should always come before appearance and convincing kids to be health by making them feel their appearance is inadequate is very problematic.
Also what to do about getting healthy was never a part of the discussion nor was blame.
It somewhat depends on the age of the child doesn’t it? It’s not much of a thing your doctor will make an issue of from a health standpoint if your infant or young child is “chubby” versus dangerously obese. There is a level of body fat in between being unhealthily skinny and unhealthily overweight- in that range our fat effects primarily appearances. If you want an example look at Hollywood or media, where a normal healthy man or woman are often considered too “fat” for the image of “normal” used in media. While someone extremely obese may be easily seen and assumed to be unhealthy, it is much harder to tell by just looking if someone’s weight is causing a health problem that distinction is best left to doctors. You can just as easily instill in your child an unhealthy obsession with “good” behaviors as you can set them up for “bad” ones. You should in my opinion teach your child proper grooming and health habits out of a healthy self respect and respect for others.
Mister Rogers always said "I like you just the way you are," but never "you're perfect" which I think is the right way to go about it. It leaves room for improvement (which he always encouraged) while still being warm and fuzzy and all.
No ones perfect. End of story. The lesson is that all people have flaws, but a flaw alone is not reason to discount a thing. To have a healthy self respect is key to happiness and success in life. It’s key to being loved and able to love another in a healthy way as equals. To achieve healthy self love you first need true self respect. True self respect comes from knowing yourself as a person. It’s those who don’t know themselves who’s lives are so easily torn apart by their own unexpected actions and emotions. Who’s worlds can easily be flipped by the challenges of another. Perfect, if it even exists, is not a realistic goal. Teaching children in stages the basic mechanisms of self respect such as self care, teaching them to respect others, and teaching them that it’s ok to not be perfect are a good start. Building with: not being perfect isn’t an excuse to not try to be the best you can. So no, they aren’t “perfect” but they should learn to love themselves.
Plus you can't face a problem without first accepting it. The title is like saying patch the wounds before you cut off the shirt that hides them.
Also what to do about getting healthy was never a part of the discussion nor was blame.
Bc children are naturally selfish, they don't know any better. It's not their fault
And we have to teach them to be better than that