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honeybumblebee
· 5 years ago
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Or until you turn into an abusive monster that cannot be changed back to the person i once fell in love with.
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deleted
· 5 years ago
...seriously though, you alright??
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honeybumblebee
· 5 years ago
I'm fine, I was referring to people in general that are stuck in dead end relationship. But thank you for asking.
deleted
· 5 years ago
Good, here to talk if you need to.
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guest_
· 5 years ago
Umm... actually no. It’s still a load the other way too. “Because you are worth it” is the key point there. You are deciding they are worth it at that point in time and from your current life perspective- but as the two of you gain experience and both change, maybe you see them as not worth as much as you thought, or maybe their worth to younis the same, but the work to keep things going exceeds that worth. That says nothing of the idea that love is something that simply takes work, and not something you feel or you don’t. If it just takes a willingness to work, could anyone love anyone with enough work? Why are there so many unrequited loves, were they all just lazy? In essence the two statements still say the same thing more or less, just phrased differently. The second one literally says: “marriage means I’ll love you as long as I think you’re worth loving” which can be simplified to say: “until I stop loving you.”
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garlog
· 5 years ago
It's way more complicated than that.
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celia
· 5 years ago
If you stop loving someone don't force yourself to stay, because it's not making anyone a favour.
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guest
· 5 years ago
no, marriage is a promise to love someone until they completely suck the life out of you, turn you into a cold heart-ed bitch, who quite frankly, ins't going to take your shit anymore! Marriage is simply a promise to work at a relationship - but lets just say it can't be a one way street...it is not worth it when they change into someone you no longer know, to the point where they treat you like crap, treat you like you don't exist, abuse you, use you, and trow you away...at no point should anyone stay because they are married, it is not worth it when you are the one being changed because of the way your partner treats you. Fact of life, people change, its ok, but that does not mean you have to stay with someone who is no longer what you want.
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guest_
· 5 years ago
No. And yes. Marriage is... what it is to any one person. With any luck it means the same thing to any two (or more) people marrying each other. To someone it’s a tool for politics or security or practicality. To another it’s a way to get citizenship, two celebrities may do it for PR, it could be puppy love or a long waiting formality to an already happy and established couple, a religious compulsion, a tax break, an act of defiance, an attempt at control... the list goes on. Marriage simply is what it is. One should be wary of any promise that contains “forever” because by default, of time isn’t finite, our lives, the earth, none will last forever. How serious you take that promise, and what you expect from it (as well as what you get!) varies greatly. Marriage is a cultural and personal thing. Society can’t define marriage for you and no one else can either because their ideas and experiences will likely differ from yours.
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