She wants him to suffer. That's literally what she says : someone who wants her for himself, desperately, but having to deal with the fact that he can't, but still not get over her. What a wonderful person.
She wants jealousy as validation, she wants to know she means something to him- but at the same time she doesn’t want to give up her freedom. It’s not so strange- most all relationships involve some sort of power dynamics. The “nice guy” often wonders why despite doing everything a woman always wants, not letting his wants or feelings interfere with hers, always putting her opinion first, that she still goes for “a jerk” who argues with her, makes her angry, inconveniences her or doesn’t go too far out of his way to perform simple tasks or give her what she wants. There has to be some level of push and pull in most relationships. It is not only about earning respect but showing mutual respect as an equal and not being a subservient or treating them as lesser. That said, she needs to mature. She wants a partner to validate her. She wants jealousy to know she’s valued, but she doesn’t want to show them value back. She’s looking for an object and likely values passion and sex most.
But what she needs is some common sense and a cactus up her ass to wake up her brain