Ok now listen I am going to say something I once heard from a drag queen.
"When a man dresses like a woman he is not trying to be just any woman. He is trying to dress like if he was born a woman what would he look like.
Woman dress to look like a woman they want to be. Not who they are. Girls see these beautiful tall slender woman every where they go and they think ok I am supposed to look like her. So they try to look like them.
Meanwhile drag queens are going around and some of us look more beautiful than any real woman. Why? Because we are just being ourselves. We are taking our true beauty and instead of turning it into something it isn't we make it shine and say...
HERE I AM WORLD THIS IS ME!!!
So till girls do that they will always be out shined."
It was why I never go extrame on make up or cared so much on what name was on my clothes or purses. Just as long as I looked good. Because I refused to compare myself ever again.
@mrscollector has a good post. But something I want to add- most of these Pagents are men’s IDEA of women. So this isn’t an example of men being better at being women- you could argue that it could be a man being better at living up to a male standard of what it is to be a woman. Of course that ignores the fact he is transgender. “He” isn’t “a man.” This contestant is a woman who was born male. She won a prestigious contest wether one put stock in such things or not, and I would never diminish her or her achievements. I just want to be clear that “being a woman” is much more than winning a beauty pageant, and that what “a woman” is or “should be” is individual and even social concepts of femininity vary by culture and region. There is no “better” between men and women. Both have strengths and weaknesses, and an individual situation determines what traits have an advantage in that case. Men and women don’t need to compete, we are part of a natural symbiosis which benifits us all.
Not completely related, but I hate when people try to claim that sexual dimorphism isn't real. Men and women have actual differences and it's biological not social like many feminist try to argue.
It gets to splitting hairs. Anyone who would argue that the binary sexes do not have differences better have some REVOLUTIONARY prof behind them or be labeled a dolt. Where the splitting hairs happens is when people associate a gender with a sex. Biological sex is related to physical traits, and if we want to get picky we could go to genetic markers- with some room to debate. Gender is a social construct. That’s where the confusion and fighting often happens. When we discuss the matter as if the two concepts are interchangeable, or when people fail to realize the distinction there is room for misunderstanding. It’s a pet peeve of mine when people can’t dofferentiate between them. One is easily fluid and the other is not.
"When a man dresses like a woman he is not trying to be just any woman. He is trying to dress like if he was born a woman what would he look like.
Woman dress to look like a woman they want to be. Not who they are. Girls see these beautiful tall slender woman every where they go and they think ok I am supposed to look like her. So they try to look like them.
Meanwhile drag queens are going around and some of us look more beautiful than any real woman. Why? Because we are just being ourselves. We are taking our true beauty and instead of turning it into something it isn't we make it shine and say...
HERE I AM WORLD THIS IS ME!!!
So till girls do that they will always be out shined."
It was why I never go extrame on make up or cared so much on what name was on my clothes or purses. Just as long as I looked good. Because I refused to compare myself ever again.