No, that's not really how it works. Kids do not take directly after their parents, and tend to be rebellious. So, if a parent tries teaching their children to be respectful, the kid could do the opposite if they wanted to, just because they're mad. Yes, shitty parenting can make bad kids, but, asshole kids are sometimes just asshole kids. I've seen and met some of the nicest, and honestly most tired people, who had to deal with their kids wanting to be bratty at the store I work in. People always are like, 'Well thats the parents fault, they did something wrong.' Tell me, just go ahead and tell me exactly every thing I need to do to be a 'good' parent. Teach me how to micro-manage everything about a child, to make them the perfect being, and so that they'll never even think about rebellion. Sorry, what was that? People aren't all the same, and have distinct personalities?
Either way in this situation the patents should be teaching their kids to not act like lil brats when on their games, if they just did that a long time ago then this situation wouldn't have had to happen. I was a lil brat too when I was younger (autistic anger problems and all that), so when I got too rowdy on my games my parents would tell me to put it down and walk away, and if not then they'd take it from me for a few hours/days, depending on the level of punishment. I got the message, I learned what not to do, and if this mom just did the same a long time ago then I bet she'd be singing a different tune rn
I have seen kids literally be punished, and then immediately try and do the same exact thing about a minute later. The point I'm trying to make here, is blame is NOT 100% the parents fault. They cannot control everything the child does, all the time, and honestly most don't deserve this hard, and negative judgement. Because of all the blame people place on them, I've seen grown adults, who apologize unnecessarily, and are nearly hysterical about how sorry they are. Does that sound mentally healthy to you? Maybe we can all just stop being judgemental assholes, and maybe try to understand what kind of shit they might have to deal with?
Dr, they ARE punishing the kids, by taking away the thing they are obsessed with that is triggering the bad behaviour. It exactly what parents should do. Also, this never says how old the sons are, they could be anywhere from 8-18, but are most likely teenagers.
Taking away game consoles is kind of a temporary solution. It never taught me anything growing up, it just made sure that my one and only hobby was off the table leaving me with zero outlet while my parents patted themselves on the back for being good parents even though it was the tenth time it hadn't worked.
Like hey, there's an argument to be made about online games specifically being toxic. I think there's a lot of truth to the idea that shit like Fortnite and GTA Online can skew young boys in negative directions. Most parents don't even acknowledge the ESRB, let alone monitor their kids online. That's not their fault, I'm sure a lot of parents probably don't even know that their kids chat with complete strangers in a mostly unmoderated setting.
However, I still think talking to your kids is better, yeah?
I get it, sometimes that shit just doesn't work with teenagers and you gotta discipline a kid in a way he'll respond to.
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I mean, you can't just let them keep doing that shit right? It is kinda lose-lose. I seldom get the impression that parents have really tried with their kids, though. My parents definitely didn't.
TL;DR Some parents are shitty but some kids are even shittier
Like hey, there's an argument to be made about online games specifically being toxic. I think there's a lot of truth to the idea that shit like Fortnite and GTA Online can skew young boys in negative directions. Most parents don't even acknowledge the ESRB, let alone monitor their kids online. That's not their fault, I'm sure a lot of parents probably don't even know that their kids chat with complete strangers in a mostly unmoderated setting.
However, I still think talking to your kids is better, yeah?
I get it, sometimes that shit just doesn't work with teenagers and you gotta discipline a kid in a way he'll respond to.
TL;DR Some parents are shitty but some kids are even shittier