Someone changes their relationship status on Facebook then a family member comments about their dying grandma on it ( which imo is rude and intensive, you call for that shit and don't post it on FB)
They may not have been responding. I've actually known a couple of people who were like that, they were all over social media but wouldn't respond privately even in an emergency, but then would post something along the lines of "so sad, if only I'd known" or "No one tells me anything", so family literally had to start commenting big things like serious illness on their posts so they couldn't play that shit.
I think it’s circumstantial, but it’s a game you can’t win. It’s called “attention seeking behavior” when someone ignores you so you escalate to a point that they can’t. For example if there is slow service at a store, so you walk behind the counter and start playing with the register so that someone is forced to come stop you, and then you ask for help. The slow service may or may not have been selfish or legitimate as well as your unrgency may have been to need service. It doesn’t change the fact that it is not polite behavior- however if you’re drowning likely no one will fault you for showing lack of tact in desperately seeking attention, and likewise most people would want you to try every method to inform them they are on their likely last chances to say goodbye to a loved one. That said- publically displaying the notification to deter later claims your family didn’t tell you is a losing move. It just changes the narrative and they an say something like:
“This is the kind of thing that they do. They couldn’t even call me or tell me in person. They put it on my Facebook and I didn’t see it until later and missed my chance because they couldn’t call me...” or so on. So not saying it is right or wrong. I’m saying that the circumstances and individuals dictate the appropriateness of an action. If your doctor touches your privates in an exam- appropriate. If a stranger on the bus does it- likely not appropriate. If your doctor touches your privates on a bus- also likely inappropriate. If your doctor is also your lover and that’s your kink and they touch your probates on the bus- technically appropriate. Context and the people involved dicatate it. It’s not for outsiders to judge really.
@riyriamistborn like I said, in each of the cases I know of, every avenue of private messaging was ignored until after the poster was able to make a pour-pitiful-me post. This was we know they are at least aware of what is going on. If the poster really has an issue with it, or the commenter is just being an ass, the poster can always delete the comment from their post.
@guest_ those last two lines actually describe how I feel about a lot of the screenshot facebook exchanges/out of context candids ect we see online. For example, the "grown ass kid in the cart/stroller" or "kid on a leash". We don't know their circumstances. There are a lot of kids with mental/behavioral problems that make them a risk to themselves if they aren't contained so. But we don't know their story.
@guest_ those last two lines actually describe how I feel about a lot of the screenshot facebook exchanges/out of context candids ect we see online. For example, the "grown ass kid in the cart/stroller" or "kid on a leash". We don't know their circumstances. There are a lot of kids with mental/behavioral problems that make them a risk to themselves if they aren't contained so. But we don't know their story.