Iirc there was a study at some point that found women generally prefer being the more attractive partner and men generally prefer having the more attractive partner
Huh. Interesting. I’d never heard that before and my first thought was women being the more attractive partner - if he’s wealthy. Found an article that might be about the study you mentioned: ‘The husband who's less physically attractive than his wife is getting something more than maybe he can expect to get... He's getting something better than he's providing at that level. So he's going to work hard to maintain that relationship. Physical attractiveness of husbands is not as important to women... Rather, wives are looking for supportive husbands.’ (https://www.livescience.com/7483-beautiful-women-marry-attractive-men.html)
That page won't actually load for me, so I'm not sure. It's been a long time since I read it, also (there may actually have been more than 1).
I found this one though, so maybe this is it:
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https://www.studyfinds.org/body-image-wives-husbands-attractiveness/
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Basically women often feel pressured to be attractive anyway, and the more attractive their partner, the more they feel they have to compete I think is the findings of this one. (I didn't have time to peruse it too thoroughly atm)
Putting the two articles together, I think the less attractive women are competing against the ‘grass is greener’ syndrome in men. A more attractive man who valúes beauty might be more likely to cheat with a better looking woman and the less attractive women compete against an ‘imagined mistress’ to keep their mate. I’m not a behavioral scientist but that’s my guess. Food for thought. Thanks for passing that on.
I'd say that's definitely probably a large contributing factor. Also a lot of men I've met are way more visually based than women. And I don't even necessarily mean shallow. I guess I'll use porn as an example since it's simple:
Men are way more likely to go for picture porn, whereas women seem more drawn to novel forms. (There may be research backing this, Im pretty sure I've read some articles about it, but I also once worked in a place that sold soft core versions of both, and the women always bought the harlequin romances while the men went straight for the magazines).
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Since there seems to often be a lot higher emphasis on womens' appearances over men's, I imagine a lot of women subconsciously may feel like they're value is at least partially tied to their appearance
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Not that this even applies to everyone, it's just a bit of speculation and observation
Not what I was even remotely talking about. But that's good, I guess. I'm getting quite porkish myself, hopefully that makes me more physically pleasing to the female goddesses.
So, in my experience, sometimes when someone posts a new comment it appears directly below a previous comment and has a blue bar beside it that can give it the illusion of being a reply. Possibly that's what's caused the confusion here
Yeah the comment section is a bit confusing sometimes. Usually the difference between a regular comment and a reply is how much space there is to the left of them. It also sometimes helps to reload the page so that the comment no longer appears as new and the blue bar disappears.
Sorry for being a buzzkill, I was legit trying to help with distinguishing the types of comments. For someone who uses sarcasm in 90% of my daily dialogues, my joke radar sure sucks.
Also, all the power to your porkishness. Light chub is so much healthier than trying to be perfectly sculpted, anyway.
I found this one though, so maybe this is it:
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https://www.studyfinds.org/body-image-wives-husbands-attractiveness/
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Basically women often feel pressured to be attractive anyway, and the more attractive their partner, the more they feel they have to compete I think is the findings of this one. (I didn't have time to peruse it too thoroughly atm)
Men are way more likely to go for picture porn, whereas women seem more drawn to novel forms. (There may be research backing this, Im pretty sure I've read some articles about it, but I also once worked in a place that sold soft core versions of both, and the women always bought the harlequin romances while the men went straight for the magazines).
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Since there seems to often be a lot higher emphasis on womens' appearances over men's, I imagine a lot of women subconsciously may feel like they're value is at least partially tied to their appearance
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Not that this even applies to everyone, it's just a bit of speculation and observation
I'm fine with my boyfriend being a little chubby, chub makes for a good cuddle pillow
Also, all the power to your porkishness. Light chub is so much healthier than trying to be perfectly sculpted, anyway.