I mean there’s nothing wrong with looking. Looking isn’t always a choice and can be subconscious. It only becomes creepy when looking turns into staring, because that is a choice and you are voluntarily continuing to look.
Unpopular opinion: I never understood why people got so angry about dress codes. In the cases where a dress code is required because it actually affects other people, it's pretty obvious. Also, is it that hard to dress appropriately? It should be common sense that you don't wear a sweater with the twin towers on them. Teachers should also chill out. A hat ain't gonna kill you, it ain't gonna kill anyone, and it certainly is counter-productive to chew out a student for the hat.
tl;dr, dress codes are stupid, teachers should be less bitchy, and students should dress better.
Dress code that are reasonable and equal are fine, but when you start having BS rules like no collar bones exposed, that's goes well beyond ridiculous.
The reason the dress code is so hated it because of how biased it is towards women. At my school, 90% of the dress code handbook is for women.
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For boys:
- must wear a shirt at all times
- no underwear showing
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For girls:
- no tank tops
- no underwear showing
- no leggings without something covering your butt
- regulated shorts length
- regulated shirt length
- clothes cannot have ANY holes or rips
- no cleavage at all
- no bra straps visible
- no sheer shirts, even if you wear a tank top underneath
- high heels under 3"
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Now do you see what I mean?
Also @gummy, guys dont typically wear things as tight as leggings or things like short shorts or short skirts. And at my school they had the same rules. But when the guys at school thought it’d be funny to disobey the girls side of the dress code, they got in trouble as well. It was just labeled girls and guys because of who typically wore those clothes.
There is much truth in this thread. Or- many truths. Both men and women often feel dress codes are biased based on sex, in one way or another. It’s not a contest to see who is more oppressed in society or who has it worse. We can acknowledge each other’s feelings without invalidating our own. Dress codes often also are disliked because they hinder self expression and the adopting of a self image in the formative years, they are often economically biased as well with uniforms being as bad or worse in those respects. However dress codes and uniforms do have advantages too. Many times the primary subconscious rejection of dress codes is a manifestation of culture values like prison individuality- some cultures like American culture stress autonomy and the value of individual being over a place in a social hierarchy or structure, or a sense of cohesion and equality which requires some loss of that value of “self.” There is also a general...
... objection to authority- which is also often a cultural value. The idea that to some extent most people do not like being told what to do, for their own or a “greater” good or not- and even if a person were not going to or unlikely to act against a rule- simply having the rule in place upsets many. What’s important to remember with dress codes, like many things, is it is a relative matter of perspective. Everyone here has said something true from one perspective or another.
tl;dr, dress codes are stupid, teachers should be less bitchy, and students should dress better.
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For boys:
- must wear a shirt at all times
- no underwear showing
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For girls:
- no tank tops
- no underwear showing
- no leggings without something covering your butt
- regulated shorts length
- regulated shirt length
- clothes cannot have ANY holes or rips
- no cleavage at all
- no bra straps visible
- no sheer shirts, even if you wear a tank top underneath
- high heels under 3"
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Now do you see what I mean?