Not here to start a whole thing. Just an observation. I find it interesting. This post is now 5 hours old. If you make a post showing an example of social acceptance towards larger women, or larger people but with a female image- this thread would likely be full of folks already going off 8 ways from Sunday about how it’s wrong to normalize unhealthy behavior etc. Yet here we are looking at this male mannequin and things are very quiet- civil. No mention of how adopting a male mannequin who is a great example of a body type of a likely unhealthy life style promotes or normalizes being unhealthy. It’s just funny because I’ve been in many threads where people have insisted that it wasn’t a gender issue but a health issue. Yet- I don’t see them here? Well- maybe they are asleep still.
I mean, from what I've seen woman have always been shamed over their weight more than men, but I've noticed lately on this website there's been an influx of posts and commenter's more or less attacking anyone moderately overweight
Tbh I'm not sure how to respond to them. Not that I necessarily need to but sometimes it's just like "good LORD did someone larger than you beat you as a child or something?"
Lol. Yeah. The frothing vitriol some people seem to have on issues like this- or this one specifically. I laugh but it’s also not funny. It’s just so intense how much people seem to care what other people do or how they live. Yet- it’s often many of the same people who would cry about obesity or acceptance of plus sizes- who would be quick to mock people for trying to lecture them on eating and living healthier. I think it primarily comes from two places. One is a need to feel better than someone. To have a pariah that it’s ok to look down on and mock because they “did it to themselves.” I think the other is a general objectification. That they don’t like the look of larger people and don’t want them to be accepted because then not only will you be more likely to see “plus sized” people in media instead of “perfect people,” but you are also taking pressure off of many people to maintain some “perfect” “flat bellied” slim standard of beauty which many hate living unde but adhere to..
... for social acceptance. So I think there’s a healthy mix of lack of self value and lack of valuing other humans emotions over ones own desires as primary motivators.
It makes sense. Most of them try and use the argument "but it's not healthy for them to be that way! We must stop encouraging this!"
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And then they offer absolutely nothing productive to show they actually care or want to help people who do want to lose weight accomplish that. They basically seem to just want to scream into the void and hope they can make someone feel bad about their life in the process
It’s about right. What I get most common ad a response when presenting the argument of “how are you personally invested in helping these people loose weight beyond making them feel bad...” is some version of “it’s not my job...” or “I’m already shaming them, you expect more? They have to do the rest...” it comes off as more a desire to be self righteous, or as a way to justify needless cruelty than genuine concern. Sure- we all sometimes like to hear ourselves speak, to just “have a voice,” or to feel a little self righteous. Not all are ideal traits of humanity, but some are understandable. But where there is a human cost, we are balancing our bed against suffering. Write/read/watch a story. Go torture people in the sims or GTA or something. It’s 2019 and you can be a digital sociopath without involving other thinking and feeling beings.
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And then they offer absolutely nothing productive to show they actually care or want to help people who do want to lose weight accomplish that. They basically seem to just want to scream into the void and hope they can make someone feel bad about their life in the process