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mrscollector
· 5 years ago
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Talk to the mom first always they may already know it isn't the Dad's kid. Maybe adopted or step kid or what have you. Better to speak with he mom alone before making an ass of yourself or worse make a bad moment even worse. Their daughter is already going into surgery don't tac on more stress.
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guest_
· 5 years ago
It’s not particularly your business or your place. But if you feel so inclined you could mention it off hand. Like “She’s lucky both her parents arenunibersal donors- Either of you can donate blood to a type B person.” Or something like that. Daddy can connect the dots. Or not. That’s on him. Or maybe he knows. Either way their isn’t a real professional way to gingerly probe wether momma bear found a bed other than papa bears that fit just right. We all want to “do right” but what is right? Maybe he’s relieved to know- maybe he already knew and they have or are working past it, maybe there’s another reason, maybe he finds out and it ruins his marriage and his life. Maybe he goes home and murders them both in a rage before turning the gun on himself, maybe... lots of maybes. It isn’t “would you want to know?” Some people would and some are fine living a lie if it is a happy lie. Maybe momma cheated once over a decade ago and well- life is complicated. Maybe he suspects but hasn’t dug...
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guest_
· 5 years ago
... because he doesn’t want to know. Blah blah. Look- the girl is your patient. Your duty is to care for your patient. How does telling the father this enhance your patients care? Take yourself out of the equation. Take away that you found a “secret” you must tell or the threads of of a mystery and need to satisfy your curiosity or be st the center of some juicy drama. You’re a medical professional. You provide medical care to your patients. No one asked you to run a paternity test and there isn’t a legitimate medical reason to tell the father anything. Yeah yeah. Justify it based on genetic risk factors and family histories. She’s underage so that isn’t a big factor and either way proper history requires moms cooperation in telling the truth about who dad really is. If you think it’s that big a deal talk to mom and voice your concerns that her daughter might be put at risk by not knowing. Or slap a braclet or put on the board in big letters her blood type. Personal morality vs ethics.
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creativedragonbaby
· 5 years ago
Pretty sure at some point you're not allowed to withhold important information but idk
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guest_
· 5 years ago
At some point yes. If the medical practitioner has a legitimate and defensible reason to suspect an eminent danger to the patient, if certain laws have been broken, if it is in the best interest of the treatment of the patient- the medical professional must act. For instance if we say that a child is about to undergo a surgery or treatment for a genetic condition they have almost no chance of having because of their paternity- it is in the best interest of the patient to disclose this information. HOW it is disclosed is also important though. Laws can get pretty complex as can the precedent set by ethics panels. In much of the world, children are under the care of parents and a parent is given the information as they are the ones who make the decisions on treatment as well as what the child is to be told if anything. Medical ethics can be quite sticky- but you are there to care for your patient first and foremost. If you have no indication that harm will come to them and the...
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guest_
· 5 years ago
... information isn’t relevant to what is going on- it is gossip and not under the professional banner. I would be very careful in either case and acquaint myself with laws and arbitration pertaining to the situation and the jurisdiction to make sure all my bases were covered and I wasn’t creating liability for myself- but in general it isn’t a doctors business who is or isn’t the father unless they require information on the biological father in which case they should ask for what they need. It’s a bridge one crosses when they need to- not just to “get it out of the way” under the assumption it’ll be crossed someday.
joshary
· 5 years ago
Hey, this isn't really pertinent to the conversation and I'm not trying to be nitpicky, just a small bit of info just in case OP's first language isn't English or whatever. O- or O+ is all you need. No need to worry about the "ve" at the end. Sort of like how if you were using percentages, you wouldn't need to say 100%cent. The - or + do the trick. :] Okay byeee.
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