I'm sorry for anyone who is so bad at picking a partner and taking care of themself that they end up "destroying themself as a person" for the sake of what they call "love"
Amen to Rosi. @guest- you’ve obviously never been truly in love. Real love builds you up as a person. It makes you want to be the best you that you can be. It makes you the truest and most real version of you. Unhealthy relationships can destroy you- but that isn’t the love doing it- it’s picking a person who isn’t healthy for you and not staying true to who you are. You destroy yourself in that case. Unrequited love could possibly destroy you if you let it. But REAL love is to love and be loved back- to love yourself as much as you love that person and then some. So to destroy yourself for love would mean that you’d be willing to destroy them or watch them be destroyed- and I can’t call that real love either. That sounds like codependency or mutual pathologies.
and that is not love, it's stupidity.