Tell them

@shrekislove_ coco

The truth is that some people come off as “plastic” or “shallow” and honestly- some of us are more than others. Often there is much more under the surface, in fact, often, a person who’s been judged a certain way and expected to be a certain way by others and even admonished or discouraged for not fitting that role- may just settle in to the role society seems to reward them for playing. I wouldn’t say this to another human being. Saying this to a person says more negative things about me than it ever would say about them.

And perhaps it isn’t that they are so bland or vacant and can only offer sex- perhaps the people they’ve encountered and who Evers is saying this, only value them for sex, are only looking for sex and not any of the other wonderful things about them.

Not at all. Thank you for including this poignant truth that I all but forgot in the moment. A person who sees themselves and their life as largely defined by others (think like a celebrity on a smaller scale-) still has all the insecurities of anyone else, but also may feel pressured not to “disappoint” by going against their “image.” They may not show, or may not even pursue, things they enjoy, from fear. If they are made to feel safe they might show you a deeper part of themselves, or come to discover it. But you’ll seldom bring that out of people by being nasty to them. In a world of “personalization” and etc etc we are perhaps more than ever inclined to “judge books by their cover”

since from ratios to clothes to backpacks or even phones and stickers etc etc people “advertise” who they are and what they like more so than really ever. But even in this day of internet information and “personalization” of every aspect of life- people have deeper sides to them that can take effort to discover.