Iirc another part of the transcript included him talking about how his son can't go to school without kids telling the kid "your dad beats women." She claimed her kid is experiencing the same thing. People have been accusing him of gaslighting her
Reasons I am an advocate help for battered men.
It is fucked up we live in a world where a man who is abused by their wive/gf can't get any help from the government.
When a woman is in any way possibly abused they don't even have to say they were and the man is arrested. But when a man shows actual proof he is being abused the cops tell him to just get away from her.
There is no home for battered men and their kids. When a woman is arrested for the abuse it is considered physical assault not abuse. And the women get off easy. When men go to jail for a long time for just verbal abuse.
I saw my friend cry and shake uncontrollably because his gf abused him so much he couldn't handle being around women anymore. If he is in a room with only women he has PTSD. He has trouble even watching tv and movies. Because he can't handle hearing a woman scream.
Yet the GOD DAMN BITCH STILL WALKS FREE!
Something I find fucking bizarre is how often you get backlash for speaking up in defence of men - or calling out abusive women. The subject immediately becomes "oh, you're just trying to distract from the REAL issues," or "you're an apologist/enablist/sexist/whateverist."
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Like no. That person we're talking about is another human being. Having a penis doesn't change that. Why are they less worthy of getting support? Compassion? Defence? Why are they expected to stand on their own and defend themselves from people they're not allowed to defend themselves from?
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Not all of them need or want it and that's fine. But we shouldn't be demanding they deal with it on their own if they DO want or need help.
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Abuse is abuse. Abusers are abusers. Gender or sexuality or fame or race or religion or freaking number of toes on their left feet or ANYTHING else should never be a shield for an abuser to hide behind.
He been with a therapist for a long time now and it helps him alot. It's been around 8 years now but he still can't date another woman.
He doesn't want to be alone but he says he just isn't ready. There are days where even woman he knows and trust he can't handle being around. It took him almost a year to get where he could handle his own mom hugging him. He has been on dissability for a long time now which kills him because he loved having a job. He believes in working for what you get.
Because being afraid of women isn't something considered as a disability he has to register as goraphobia which he hates.
It breaks my heart seeing him like this. He was a great guy hard worker and all he wanted was some one to love, support, and grow old with but that BITCH took it all away from him. She beat him and verbally abused him to the point where he fears his own shadow.
Everywhere you look there is help for women so I know they don't need my support. It's the men who need it now.
Where I live there are some shelters specifically for helping men, but theyre focus is more on helping them overcome addictions etc than abuse. I'm sure they WILL help if you show up and say that's what happened, but it's not their main reason for existing.
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Good god. I can only imagine what she put him through. I know there's people even on here that have been victims of women and by the end of it it seems men are just so entirely grateful to be OUT of the relationship. Figuring out how to try again with someone new is beyond a low priority
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That's the thing with abusers. Especially female abusers. They know how to get inside your head. Twist what they did and make it their victims' fault.
I'm a male domestic violence survivor, gender doesn't matter with violence, my ex used two knives on me not to mention the numerous other times she pinned me to a wall, blocked me into a bedroom or bathroom and berated me for hours, threw stuff at me. Fuck anyone with a cactus that says men can't be victims! And frankly she needs to go down twice as hard as Johnny did!
I half wondered if you'd show up on this post
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Tbh I'm not pro-violence but this is why I've never believed in the "it's never okay to hit a woman" policy. If ANYONE puts their hands on you (exception maybe being a child) then they damn well better be prepared for reciprocity. If a woman doesn't want to go fisticuffs then the very simple solution is not attacking anyone in the first place. It's not hard. Not sayng a guy should necessarily punch a woman with all his might, but expecting anyone to stand by and take abuse because their abuser produces more estrogen than testosterone is ridiculous.
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Sadly men are often not only conditioned not to defend themselves, a lot of them aren't comfortable doing so.
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If they DO then they also end up in a catch 22 where unless they somehow recorded the entire incident, they'll likely be treated as the villain.
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Even if they manage to get past all those barriers and finally get away from their abuser, there's almost no one there to support them
And the abusers walk free
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It's such a messed up system
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Tbh your comments on this site were one of the first times I'd seen a guy openly talk about being abused by a woman
I very much prefer non violence myself I rather avoid conflict as much as possible, sometimes it's unavoidable like in the case of the final dust-up between my ex and myself, she pursued me after I left the house and continued to attack. I kept on the defensive take several wounds but not injuring her, I did use a wrist pressure point to disarm her of one knife (not knowing she had two) refusing to speak about such things does exactly zero good for anyone, if me being open about my experiences convinces one person to speak up and get help against an abusive person what I lived through is not in vain! I stepped up to voice for not only myself but a small child and an infant that were also being victimized by an unstable 'mother' I recently spent several months in weekly trauma therapy sessions to finally come to terms with my damage and help overcome it, while I still have regular anxiety attacks and ptsd, I can cope better with the problems now.
That being said, I encourage ANYONE being abused to seek help, tell the truth about it. If you think someone isn't taking you seriously talk to someone else. Don't suffer in silence and don't suffer alone because you're not alone!
Have to say. I always thought this story was a fishy one. Honestly she could still be of the hook by saying that "yes tell them lets see if they think it was a fair fight" if it actually wasn't and he is trying to manipulate her by saying he will lie about it.. but then she said "i know it was a fair fight" and shot herself in the foot.
There is a lot more to this (and various other transcripts) than what's in this post.
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Iirc Depp has submitted more than 50 videos of security footage. It was a toxic relationship all around, but from the looks and sounds of it so far she instigated a lot of the fighting, threw things at him repeatedly (pots and pants admitted to, and he also claims she threw an glass bottle at him that shattered and severed the tip of his finger. She claims he cut his finger off himself).
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During one of their fights, Depp had to call the building Manager (guy named Travis) to come because he was worried things were escalating. Her response was to call him a baby, mock him for needing someone to defend him, and tell him to go "jerk Travis off."
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Just take a moment and think about that. Two people are fighting. One is scared the fight is going to get physical and calls for help. The other one mocks them for it and tells them to go fuck the person they called for help.
If Depp had said that to Amber, he would already be being flayed alive in the streets.
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As for whether she'll get away with it - it's hard to say. She works for DC and they already have shown they take PRIDE in employing women who are abusive to men. But this is like the 5th or 6th time in the last 400 or so days a woman has been caught blatantly lying to destroy a guy's life. People are getting tired of it.
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She might just find herself in the unfortunate position of being made an example of
It is fucked up we live in a world where a man who is abused by their wive/gf can't get any help from the government.
When a woman is in any way possibly abused they don't even have to say they were and the man is arrested. But when a man shows actual proof he is being abused the cops tell him to just get away from her.
There is no home for battered men and their kids. When a woman is arrested for the abuse it is considered physical assault not abuse. And the women get off easy. When men go to jail for a long time for just verbal abuse.
I saw my friend cry and shake uncontrollably because his gf abused him so much he couldn't handle being around women anymore. If he is in a room with only women he has PTSD. He has trouble even watching tv and movies. Because he can't handle hearing a woman scream.
Yet the GOD DAMN BITCH STILL WALKS FREE!
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Like no. That person we're talking about is another human being. Having a penis doesn't change that. Why are they less worthy of getting support? Compassion? Defence? Why are they expected to stand on their own and defend themselves from people they're not allowed to defend themselves from?
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Not all of them need or want it and that's fine. But we shouldn't be demanding they deal with it on their own if they DO want or need help.
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Abuse is abuse. Abusers are abusers. Gender or sexuality or fame or race or religion or freaking number of toes on their left feet or ANYTHING else should never be a shield for an abuser to hide behind.
He doesn't want to be alone but he says he just isn't ready. There are days where even woman he knows and trust he can't handle being around. It took him almost a year to get where he could handle his own mom hugging him. He has been on dissability for a long time now which kills him because he loved having a job. He believes in working for what you get.
Because being afraid of women isn't something considered as a disability he has to register as goraphobia which he hates.
It breaks my heart seeing him like this. He was a great guy hard worker and all he wanted was some one to love, support, and grow old with but that BITCH took it all away from him. She beat him and verbally abused him to the point where he fears his own shadow.
Everywhere you look there is help for women so I know they don't need my support. It's the men who need it now.
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Good god. I can only imagine what she put him through. I know there's people even on here that have been victims of women and by the end of it it seems men are just so entirely grateful to be OUT of the relationship. Figuring out how to try again with someone new is beyond a low priority
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That's the thing with abusers. Especially female abusers. They know how to get inside your head. Twist what they did and make it their victims' fault.
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Tbh I'm not pro-violence but this is why I've never believed in the "it's never okay to hit a woman" policy. If ANYONE puts their hands on you (exception maybe being a child) then they damn well better be prepared for reciprocity. If a woman doesn't want to go fisticuffs then the very simple solution is not attacking anyone in the first place. It's not hard. Not sayng a guy should necessarily punch a woman with all his might, but expecting anyone to stand by and take abuse because their abuser produces more estrogen than testosterone is ridiculous.
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Sadly men are often not only conditioned not to defend themselves, a lot of them aren't comfortable doing so.
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If they DO then they also end up in a catch 22 where unless they somehow recorded the entire incident, they'll likely be treated as the villain.
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Even if they manage to get past all those barriers and finally get away from their abuser, there's almost no one there to support them
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It's such a messed up system
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Tbh your comments on this site were one of the first times I'd seen a guy openly talk about being abused by a woman
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Iirc Depp has submitted more than 50 videos of security footage. It was a toxic relationship all around, but from the looks and sounds of it so far she instigated a lot of the fighting, threw things at him repeatedly (pots and pants admitted to, and he also claims she threw an glass bottle at him that shattered and severed the tip of his finger. She claims he cut his finger off himself).
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During one of their fights, Depp had to call the building Manager (guy named Travis) to come because he was worried things were escalating. Her response was to call him a baby, mock him for needing someone to defend him, and tell him to go "jerk Travis off."
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Just take a moment and think about that. Two people are fighting. One is scared the fight is going to get physical and calls for help. The other one mocks them for it and tells them to go fuck the person they called for help.
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As for whether she'll get away with it - it's hard to say. She works for DC and they already have shown they take PRIDE in employing women who are abusive to men. But this is like the 5th or 6th time in the last 400 or so days a woman has been caught blatantly lying to destroy a guy's life. People are getting tired of it.
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She might just find herself in the unfortunate position of being made an example of