As someone who hasn't had an active father in my life, nor child support from that missing parent... I actually don't know how I feel about this. My mom is single and physically disabled and it was painful every step to raise me without a father, but I don't actually want a father, yknow? I don't feel like it would have been good for either me or my father for him to have stayed in my life, he's not an absolute asshole but it still would have changed things. I'm interested in hearing other perspectives.
Could people please answer a question for me? It’s a facet of the abortion discussion I’ve never understood. Why is “not having an abortion” equated with “raising a child?” Any woman in the US can give up her baby for adoption and never have to think about them again. There is (rightfully so) no law demanding a woman raise a child just because she has given birth to them.
It’s conflating two things illogically. We might as well say: “anyone who doesn’t want a baby should not e legally allowed to have sex.” All 3 things are related. Having sex, pregnancy and giving birth, and raising that child- they are not however interchangeable. Speaking of adoption- some people adopt who cannot create and carry a fetus- but many adopt because they do not WANT to.
Imperfect example- don’t go dissecting it in nuance. Broad stroke concepts here: You want dinner. You can cook dinner, or you can get take out. Cooking has work, costs, and of course- mess involved. If you want to have the end result without the mess and trouble- there you go. Surrogates and others will “cook” for others without being the one to benefit from the final product. So just as a chef may cook a meal even if they aren’t hungry- a person can want to birth a child but not raise it, a person may want to raise a child but not birth one, and a person who isn’t hungry and doesn’t want to cook- a person who doesn’t want to birth or raise kids- isn’t interested in either even if they like to crack eggs or pound meat.
It’s also important to discuss that a woman may not want to have a child and give the child away. I know abortion seems like a terrible alternative but carrying a child that will be given away is horrible in its own way.
They beat way to reduce abortion is to provide family wellness and support.
They beat way to reduce abortion is to provide family wellness and support.