If you can tell that they’re interested in you and you tell them off they insist they were just being nice. If you don’t say anything until they actually make a move they call you a bitch for leading them on. There’s just no way to win.
Exactly, it's not that easy. I'm kind to everyone and if someone asks me for the time, of course I will tell them, but in more than a handful of cases something innocent like that turns into being hit on real hard, because now they're already talking to you and it's impossible to straight up ignore them. And if I had a dime for every single "noo, I just wanna be friends, I'm just looking for friends" when I tell them I'm not interested, I'd be filthy rich
I once had a guy start a conversation with me by asking me if some woman standing several feet away from me was my mother. I'm fairly bad at social cues some of the time, so needless to say I had no bloody idea that this was supposed to be a pick-up line until several more sentences in to the conversation. He finally had to say "well I guess you probably have a boyfriend, though, right?" Before I figured out what he was on about, and that might be one of the few times it probably would have been better if I'd just said "I have a boyfriend" from the start.
The entire thing was weird, but I didn't get the impression he was TRYING to be weird. He also had a friend standing somewhere nearby. So either he was very nervous, or else there was some kind of shenanigan going on that I know nothing about lol
I never answer with I have a bf/husband. When I do feel I need them to know I am not available I find a way to say something like my husband and I or my husband likes that or something along the lines of that.
I find it more polite and plus that way if they weren’t trying to be “extra friendly” I don’t look like a rude bitch.
Here is an example that really happen to me.
I was on this one app which I am not anymore due to just way to many guys thinking I was trying to hook up. It was a fan site for Disney lol.
Anyways this guy was nice he was asking me info I know about the park saying he was thinking of going.
But He was getting a little extra friendly. At one point he asked what is my favorite ride so I took the opportunity to mention my husband. I said well my favorite ride is hard to pick so many of them are great but my husband’s favorite ride is Big Thunder Mountain Railroad. I hate it though because I hate coasters. But he tries his best to make me his poor wife ride it.
Girl: -Says nothing. Stares forever.-
I find it more polite and plus that way if they weren’t trying to be “extra friendly” I don’t look like a rude bitch.
Here is an example that really happen to me.
I was on this one app which I am not anymore due to just way to many guys thinking I was trying to hook up. It was a fan site for Disney lol.
Anyways this guy was nice he was asking me info I know about the park saying he was thinking of going.
But He was getting a little extra friendly. At one point he asked what is my favorite ride so I took the opportunity to mention my husband. I said well my favorite ride is hard to pick so many of them are great but my husband’s favorite ride is Big Thunder Mountain Railroad. I hate it though because I hate coasters. But he tries his best to make me his poor wife ride it.
I am not even going to touch that sentence lmfao