Yes. As adults we do need to communicate. And sometimes men and women could work to better use their words and be self aware and articulate wants, needs, and expectations. That said- in a relationship, why are YOU there? As humans- few of us stand so far apart from any other human in earth. We are all special but also not so special. So one thing that sets a partner apart people value- is one who naturally shares certain views and values and goals. A person who by their nature provides for our wants and needs. If I need to give you an instruction manual on how to make me happy- all I need is someone who can follow instructions right? That means there’s nothing about YOU particularly which would make you a better partner than anyone else who could follow instructions no?
So basically- the subtlety is wether you are the person for them because that is who YOU are, or wether you are the person for them because you follow their instructions on what they want. It’s the difference between knowing someone is nice to you because they are a kind person, or that they are nice to you because they know you expect them to be nice to you and they want something from you.
So sometimes women (and men) do need to communicate, and sometimes men (and women) do just need to be able to understand their partners. It still takes effort to try to be the person someone wants you to be- but it takes even more effort and shows even more interest in them as a person to understand them well enough that they do t always have to tell you what they need or how they feel. That’s something special to find in another human being- one so interested in you genuinely, that they know you well enough to understand what you are thinking.
Lol. Thank you @karboll. I try to change a little everyday- if nothing else, at least my clothes! But I get what you mean. I’m fond of your comments too and like who you are- or the version of you I know and see, more precisely.
Being able to read the mood and straight forward in communication are both necessary skills you need to possess as an adult.
You don't need to be excellent at it but you gotta be somewhat capable or you will suffer and make it difficult for everyone around you too.
You don't need to be excellent at it but you gotta be somewhat capable or you will suffer and make it difficult for everyone around you too.