I found my husband through an AOL chat room. Specifically a chat room for singles 20 to 29 years old.
So it is possible it does happen just like the chances of finding a diamond as you walk home are possible and sometimes it does happen. To some it happens easily to other people not so easily just don’t be surprised if it takes a long time to happen.
I get that dating sites are rife with bad experiences, but honestly so many people are able to find their one across the world because of internet dating/socializing. It’s not like the weird dude demanding nudes on tinder is any worse than the guy at the bar not understanding ‘no’ or the girl at the coffee shop that’s getting handsy
Yeah. The way I see it, online dating just vastly expands the number and scope of people in a dating poop for most people. It has its pros and cons, and the semi anonymous nature can sometimes lead people to behaviors they may not do in public or in person- but when I started dating again after a long relationship- I was very busy and by and large so we’re many of my “peer group” and online dating was a great way to find and get to know people I would t have otherwise met.
Over time I think it could really help create a social shift where providing a purpose made space for meeting romantic or sexual partners is appropriate, reduce the Classic need to “take opportunity where you find it” and reduce the amount of unwanted advances and behaviors that make people uncomfortable by moving these things to designated places and away from being appropriate in situations where most people may not want such interaction.
But regardless of that point- I think online dating is a great tool that helps and works for many people. I met my current long term partner online through a dating app- and had a lot of great experiences. I know some people have bad experiences too- but that’s a natural consequence of the fact you are “fishing from” a larger and more diverse pool than traditional dating usually has. A person can easily go trough more perspective partners in 10 minutes online dating they most could do in a week and more than all but a few could do in a day. Presenting ones early in the most attractive light is a different skill than traditional dating as you usually only have some key facts, maybe a short blurb and a photo to “hook” them in to a conversation- but sadly I think for many the level of consent required is the actual thing they dislike.
Online dating requires not just that the other person be receptive to the “you” that you present- but that they be in the “mood” to entertain talking to a New person. You can’t pester or charm them to turn a “no” into an invitation to “warm them up.” And I think that’s at the root of the problem many people have with it. There is a danger that due to the volume of potential people that we devalue people a bit, seeing 10 or 100 people a week wanting to get to know you- people can and somewhat must be more “picky” with their time. But I think it’s a good thing overall, online dating.
they are a pain, always here the issues and scams, but i did find my gf and i believe she's the one i'll marry. Problem now is the virus as i can't visit her, but i'll make it up next year when i bring her here to stay.
So it is possible it does happen just like the chances of finding a diamond as you walk home are possible and sometimes it does happen. To some it happens easily to other people not so easily just don’t be surprised if it takes a long time to happen.