lol. Not that there isn’t humor and perhaps even some degree of validity in some of the underlying observations- but just to say- not entirely true. Lots of women choose not to have kids or to have kids later- that has its own choices of course. If you don’t want to conceive kids then you’ll probably be ok with a woman who never wanted kids, but if you still want to conceive your own kids and haven’t, you probably don’t want a partner who doesn’t want kids. If a woman has waited to conceive kids and is into her 30’s- we do start to approach certain biological realities that may mean that you should plan to have kids soon if you choose to date such a woman and should be willing and ready to commit relatively quickly or cal things off as not to waste her time.
I’ll skip the entire “fat” thing because we don’t need to go over why that would even matter or peoples preferences- except to mention it as a segue into yet another option not on this list- an option that may not be an option…
.. for the sort of 30+ yo man who might put “fat girls” on such a list to begin with….
There is nothing in the entire world that says a person in their 30’s cannot legally date someone in their early or late 20’s. Wether one chooses to and wether that presents challenges or not is a separate issue. If one is overly concerned with physical appearance and children etc- it is a viable option. It tends to be a more viable option for men who are at least more financially mature and posses experience to add value to their age. It also often requires that one be in relatively decent or good overall health and shape. Something that guys who worry about “fat girls” often are not. The “forever alone path” is always a possibility for anyone at any age. It’s also something some people choose because they refer it. That said-
Few people have to take that path. The paths we see here are all relatively flat paths- easy roads one simply follows. Other paths tend to or may take some work- usually work on self. Investment and care in one’s appearance and skills, attitude and outlook, and other such things to increase the initial observers interest or valuation of them. I mean…. A lot of us guys aren’t so special in the looks and body department- and we often lose more and let more slide as we age- so just because the rest of you is lanky doesn’t mean that beer gut doesn’t put you in the “fat” category, not does having 10% body fat and weighing 140lbs soaking wet or having 20 inch pythons and a flat booty prison bod make you so much better than. We can take things to a negative place- but someone out there will see those bodies as attractive, or not overly concern themselves with such shallow issues because….
The thing the internet generally doesn’t tell you about the “forever alone” path? Well- that is that you can be in a relationship, with perhaps even the most attractive person you’ve ever seen- and still be alone. It is entirely possible to be even MORE alone and lonely in a relationship than you ever were single. Because the value in a relationship is in the actual relationship- not in simply having A relationship. So if your partner isn’t a partner- a friend, a companion, someone to challenge or support you and laugh and experience and enhance life along with you- all you have is a roommate that maybe you get to do “grown ups” stuff with sometimes and tell people that SOMEONE will touch your private parts. Yay. Fulfilling. So look for what works and let the rest sort itself out.
Alright guys. 30-something is not that old. There’s still plenty of time to meet the love of your life, to have your own kids or realize you’ve got some interesting kinks. You don’t have to start making your end of life plans yet. You won’t even be able to retire for another 30 years.
I'm 43, doing $93k a year, and I'm out there PAVING the road of "Forever Alone" because I know so many of y'all are gonna follow me. Don't worry, gonna have lemonade & beef jerky stand about a mile down; right next to the strip mall: movie theater, pizza palace, 1980's video arcade, "Smoke U - BBQ", paintball urban war zone off the back lot...
I’ll skip the entire “fat” thing because we don’t need to go over why that would even matter or peoples preferences- except to mention it as a segue into yet another option not on this list- an option that may not be an option…
There is nothing in the entire world that says a person in their 30’s cannot legally date someone in their early or late 20’s. Wether one chooses to and wether that presents challenges or not is a separate issue. If one is overly concerned with physical appearance and children etc- it is a viable option. It tends to be a more viable option for men who are at least more financially mature and posses experience to add value to their age. It also often requires that one be in relatively decent or good overall health and shape. Something that guys who worry about “fat girls” often are not. The “forever alone path” is always a possibility for anyone at any age. It’s also something some people choose because they refer it. That said-