Well sometimes you can't talk to your mother like mine she doesn't care for me actually she's the reason I do cut. And don't call me a little shit you don't know my story you don't know why I self harm so you have no right to call me those names.
Kinda personal question, how old are you? If you're in school, sometimes your teachers can be kinda insightful about it. If you're in college/university, you might have some psychological department or something when you can talk to someone about it.
I'm 17. I really don't wanna talk to teachers there I know they'll tell my mom and then she'll just yell at me again. I've been talking to friends it kinda helps.
D=, that's awful.
*snorts* kinda get the feeling of "not wanna tell my mom*. Been diagnosed with one or two things, unless she's been looking at where I keep my meds, she has no idea.... and this coming from a 20 something year old. I've talked to some counselors at my college, they've helped a lot in certain ways
Just make sure you're not keeping any of this inside, have someone to talk to you.
Yeah I'll keep my friends close. I don't have a dad he left me when I was 6 or 5 so. All I have is my mom, grandparents and older brother. And yes my grandparents act the same way towards me as my mother does.
K look. I had really really no good awful things happen to me when I was little. I began self harm when I was 6 years old, I've been clean now for 8 months (I'm 18). You know what got me there? Therapy. I understand your concerns about telling your mom, because I still haven't. People who have not gone through it cannot understand the shame and the fear that comes with our burden. But there are centers available to you that will help. My therapy sessions are once a week, and only $10 because they really want to help me. I'm telling you that help is available near you. Please seak it. You don't have to tell anyone. I understand that pain, but I'm telling you as someone who has been in the darkness for 14 years and almost let it swallow her up three times, you have to get out.
Alright for fucks sake.
Tell us what you CAN do and what IS available and then we'll tell you what we think the best option is. Because you're rejecting literally everything we say. Ten dollars a week isn't that much. It's basically just all pocket money. You could beg on the streets and get maybe $50 a week.
So. Step one, we've determined you have a problem (or multiple, I really don't care). Step two. We've given you solutions and ways out.
Step three. Which of these are you gonna take? If none, why are they bad? If a half-assed answer is given, you can be sure that more people'll start bashing you.
Nah. Half-assed would be more like
I don't like those because I don't have money
...I don't have time
...I don't like talking to people
Things you can fix or throw the problem to hell but are apparently too lazy to get out of bed and do so. Or things where there's an obvious solution (like money) but you haven't thought through it so your answer is simply "I don't have money".
If you are not sure where to go for cheap therapy, I suggest calling your local Community Action Partnership. They most likely won't have any therapists on site, but they can at least lead you to the best solution: http://www.communityactionpartnership.com/?option=com_spreadsheets&view=search&spreadsheet=cap&Itemid=188
In college, a large majority of campuses have free/cheap counseling available. I took advantage of that when first attending. Where I live, the costs of therapy can be covered by health insurance. If you are afraid you cannot involve your mom though, and there is not a Community Action Partnership close by to call, then call your nearest social service office. They can help as well. There are plenty of options, but what you have to do is TRY.
Why am I getting really pissed by reading this spideypool answers, I don't know if anyone else sense that as well, she's like "whatever-ing" those who tried to sympathize with her. You know what? Get over yourself. People are trying to be nice to you while you are being all depressed and sad. If you don't want to toughen up your skin or seek help, its all up to you. One thing you should keep in mind is that this world is not catering for anyone and life is certainly won't be about rainbow and sunshine all the time. This is coming from someone with a perfectly similar problem with you. So you can be miserable all you want or you could actually suck it up and move on with your life.
I'm with the uuest, but I honest to god can't tell if it's a sassy "alright alright" or a *nod head wisely and ponders* "alright alright" sort of thing.
Honestly I want to hear from her mother side of the story. Is she really harbors such ill-feeling for her kids? Or is she just being overly dramatic with her problem? You know there's always two sides of every story.
Spidey, I'm saddened to hear (read that).
Everybody deserves love from their mum... Including you. Ur mum probably has her own issues, but shouldn't take that out on u.
U should prove her words wrong, and prove ur own worth to Urself x
Well I mean my mom and grandma don't get along
my mom and her sisters don't along but it's her fault she acts like a smartass around them and then she yells at me for trying to help her out so...I don't know anymore..
Is this a thing now? This putting on a brave face, even though I'm really super sad and have metal problems, well I haven't been diagnosed with mental illness, but look how super sad I am, I must have some type of mental illness. Is this an actual thing now, wishing for depression and mental illness?
She's not "wishing" for anything. She's dealing with it as best she can,and she IS depressed.. as someone who's had to talk Spidey out of suicide,I can tell you that... she's probably just posting this to vent,and if it bugs you that much,then dislike it and move on.
stfu guest, unless you've been diagnosed, you have no room to talk. Everyone takes it differently, not everyone can be as "strong" as you.
You don't wish for it, you don't wanna wish for it. You wish for it to go away
Eh,some people could consider this interesting... and I don't think this will be removed for breaking any rules unless someone reports it.. and even then..
I'm not wasting my time reporting it, but when people come on here and talk like this while not taking the hint to talk to an adult/professional/etc, it makes me believe they're just out for attention.
"Some people" might gobble that up, but it's not what this site is for.
1st of all,I've never heard anybody address mgoveia as "Govy" until now.. second,maybe Spidey was looking for attention,I'm not sure.. but if she was,then it might not be her brightest move..
1st of all, he's my friend and I call him govy, second of all, I agree. She needs to talk to people, but not Internet people, people that can actually help
Ah,that explains it. And yeah,but from what I can tell,she doesn't really have anyone to talk to besides internet people... then again I could be wrong..
I wasn't looking for attention I really don't want attention. I don't really have people to talk to where I live because either I don't really talk to them outside of school or I text them and they won't respond.
I did this once. When my mum found out, it killed her. She cried and asked me why I did what I did and begged me to let her help me. I did and whilst I'm not always happy I'm definitely better than I was and whenever I come home from a bad day at school and need a shoulder to cry out, she's right there for me. This post is stupid. I understand that not all are so lucky and some mums don't care but if they don't care, they won't care if you hide your scars. And sometimes, mums are like this because that's what their mum was like to them.
Okay I get it a ton of people hate this post.great you have a better mom than me and it isn't a stupid post to me at least because its telling the truth about me since I can't go to any of my family about my problems
So? I told you I should have never made an account here. This was a waste of my time just to get fucking cussed out because I actually posted the truth and not a bunch of shitty lies.
Hey! Bre,listen to me..you're being silly...these people are getting to you for no reason...and if you're thinking about suicide,you have another think coming!
Umm that's what parents do for their kids as well, so basically that cancels itself out and you're still doing nothing for her. That's what most people do for others because they don't want to bother them with their problems, so unless you whine to everyone about your life, not whining is kinda expected of you as a member of the society.
She's my fucking friend,you think I won't support her? And why are you even leaving a comment to begin with? If you don't like the post,just dislike it and move on without leaving a nasty comment.
They have a thing called social services. If she's too scared to do jack shit about it, why don't you? Aren't you her friend? Isn't that what a friend would do?
Well yeah but why are you posting this on a comedy site? I mean there are people who'd help you but instead of going to them you come here expecting everyone to say "oh I'm so sorry honey" ... And when someone actually tries to be nice to you and give you advice you snap at them ....I don't understand your logic
Hey cactus! Long time no see!
And it's OK, there are reasons behind spidey's post and comments. Please don't elongate this-- we're trying to help Spidey deal with it. Please, please stand down...
Hey dude, cactus is my friend. I'm asking her for a favor. Her (and your) point has already been expressed repeatedly-- saying it again won't do any good.
Let the... What now? What is that supposed to mean?
...I can never tell when you're being serious. So either you're really good at sarcasm, or really bad at it...
And in (the rather unlikely) case you were being serious, I actually want to be a vet. But I'm not opposed to multiple degrees.
Your mother loves you, this is true. Doesn't always feel that way, especially when they're crabby and short with you. I used to be a cutter, and I still deal with that itch, especially when my depression strikes, it's a terrible feeling. I showed my mother in high school, and while it wasn't handled the best, it still needed to be done. It showed her that I was not perfect (straight A's, in sports, drama, all-around good kid), and that my anxiety was worse than I let on. If my child, heaven forbid, were to be struck with the same illness, I hope that she would want to confide in me. Even if I cannot help, I'd try to find her whatever help possible, whether it be with counseling, appropriate medication, or even the saving of religion. Do me a favor, tell your mother about it, to an extent. Tell her that you're having a really hard time, and you're trying to be positive, but maybe she could take you to a counselor or a doctor? There's plenty of free options if money is an issue.
I won't tell her even if it would help I don't trust her anymore. I don't understand why all of you believe it's best for me to tell my mother when I know she'll just yell at me. If I tell a counselor they'll tell my mom and I'll get even worst. Look I understand I should tell her but it's still my choice I'll be out of highschool and away from her soon so it really doesn't matter.
Yes, but you posted a cry for help on a website, not so anonymously. We are all trying to reach out to you in our own ways of support and give advice with the best intentions. You can take it or leave it as is. However, if you are truly struggling and feel that you cannot go to your mother (I'm sorry that you have such a negative relationship with her and feel this way, I hope that things can change for the better for both of you one day), then there ARE other places to go for help. It doesn't have to be a counselor. You can call a help line. If you are 18, you can go to a hospital for additional information. If you want to get better, then take the step to reach out to someone. Please, please do that. Trust me, you don't want to stew in these feelings. It is so difficult, it is, but that step to go get help is so very important. It saved my life. I wanted to kill myself so many times, and now...now I'm really glad I didn't. It would have been a terrible thing to do so.
Okay and? I don't want help I rather kill myself so I can stop hurting and none of you have to stop and comment all this just because I posted something. People have posted worst so I really don;'t want to hear it okay? Yes I cut myself It's gotten worst this past year but none of you care really none of you no me I'm just another person and I'll leave it at that
That is a very horrible, terrible thing to say. Just because I don't know you does not mean I have no cares. I have had people call me ugly, tell me I'm stupid on the Internet, and even though we don't know each other, those comments still hurt. Positive comments are also uplifting. You are hurting, and if we were in the same room and you had indicated you were hurting, I would want to help you. I'm sure people have posted worse, I'm quite sure. But this is you and your hurt at this point in time. And I care about people cutting, because it's a slippery slope. I am not you, I don't know your exact pain, but we all experience pain, and I ache that you feel none of us would care. We do. It may not be in the way you want, but we care, we acknowledge your existence. If you want to talk through a not so anonymous source, I have no problem giving you my Facebook or phone number if it means you have someone to talk to in order to stop hurting a little less.
Look I already have people trying it really doesn't work I'm a stubborn bitch who won't stop hurting herself to the end. Wish they get the hint and just give up I don't care about myself anymore and I don't care if I die now or not...You can try but I know myself well enough to know I won't stop hurting myself...
It really is too bad you feel that way. I was literally like you once, and the only corny, but cheesy and true thing I can say is: it does get better. Why do you think people won't give up on you? It's because they care, and if you kill yourself, you are being a selfish piece of shit that is going to hurt SO MANY PEOPLE and they will hurt like you do now for years to come. Do you want to do that to others? Because suicide is the easy way out. It's the selfish, mean way out that affects more people than you realize. And while others may seem to move on after a time, that hurt never truly goes away. For me to stop hurting myself, it took medication and a LOT of therapy. And I'm off meds and haven't had to do therapy for years, but you know what? I've still hurt myself from time to time when I've been overwhelmed. It hasn't been often, but I've done it, so the struggle will not go away, but life gets better. I promise you that.
I know that I'm probably not helping, that you still think and feel that you're a miserable person who is destined for nothing but a life of pain. If I was with you, I'd drag you to the nearest center for help. There is obviously an illness that you are fighting, and what do we do when sick? We go to doctors for help. That is what you need to do, because believe it or not, you are quite ill, and in order to cure illness, we go to others for help. I'll stop commenting now, but next time you think about cutting/self-harm, take a minute to think about reaching out to someone that won't contact your friends or mother. Go onto: http://www.depressionquest.com/ <-- if you haven't already. It's a good narrative and can help put into perspective the fact that you are so far from being alone.
Cupcake,she (?) isn't calling you a piece of shit... she's saying that you WILL be if you do that... and don't deny help when it is presented to you,because then nothing will get better,and you know that. You want things to improve,and you know it. So take her advice.. please.
Rose is right, I was not calling you that. I said if you did go through with those plans, you would be. There is a vast difference. How old are you spidey? If you're a minor, we can find you help where you can still remain anonymous and no one will contact your friends/family. But you reached out for help first, we are offering help, so do not be angry that we are offering help.
Spidey.
Calm down.
Shut up.
And listen.
I don't know you. I don't know what you're going through. I don't know how bad your situation is.
But I do know one thing.
You matter.
Maybe not to yourself.
But to somebody.
Why do you think people are trying to help you?
They care-- even if you don't.
You're not fine.
You're not a demon.
And going to hell sure as (well, hell) won't make things any better.
So shut up.
Take a deep breath-- or wiggle your toes-- or stick your fingers in your ears and sing 'it's a small world' as off key as you possibly can, it really doesn't matter.
Then try and summon up the courage to ask the person you trust the most for help.
Be brave. Think Spidey thoughts.
I don't know you.
But I do care.
And I don't care if you don't care that I care.
Because of reasons.
spideypool: "I'll be out of highschool and away from her soon so it really doesn't matter."
Probably should have led with that. It would have saved so many people so much time.
I care insofar as I'd rather people didn't set a precedent for this sort of thing here.
Keep letting them work you like this and pretty soon this site will be flooded with "suicidal" teens.
I'd like to discuss how unfair that is to everyone else with problems but I think this dead horse has already started decomposing so I'll leave that for later or maybe never.
(I've been following this thread all week and have avoided contributing for fear of making something worse or interfering, but Depression Quest is honestly one of my favourite games - it helps put things into perspective and it really is a great thing)
Can you guys just stop I already said I won't listen to anyone is that really hard to fucking understand I'm not gonna listen to anyone okay so drop the damn subject.
News flash I don't care about myself I'm not important I knew this since I was 14 or 15 I don't care about myself and I don't care if my life ends now really I don't need people telling me lies and saying I'm being a little piece of shit for this okay? I'm done with this.
You are not dumb. You are hurting. Don't confuse the two! Besides-- my dog is ACTUALLY dumb (like runs into glass windows 5 times in a row dumb) and does that make her unimportant? No! She matters to me!
Yeah because she's yours. I'm not important because I'm not known, I'm just a stupid ass teen who can't shut the fuck up about wanting to die . My friends can move on really I mean do some of them know what I've done to myself maybe a few but that;w of them but it doesn't matter in my eyes I'm not important anymore I can be thrown away now.
You belong to somebody too, and should never be thrown away.
Answer me one question:
What do you like to do?
(Do you like to draw? Write? Do you like working with old people or kids or animals? Are you oddly good at something?)
And don't you dare give me a cheap answer!
Van Gogh (incidentally my favorite artist ever) was mentally ill... He literally put the 'pain' in 'painting.' One day, when he was only 37, he decided he couldn't take the pain of rejection anymore, and, after one of the most productive painting periods of his life, he killed himself.
Today, that fact is acknowledged as one of the greatest tragedies in the art world-- he could have done so. much. more. He could have made hundreds more brilliant paintings, each even more beautiful and expressive than the last.
It might help to also "put the pain in painting." Even if your results aren't desirable, it's a good stress reliever, serves as a mental vent, and you'd improve over time
Actually, my point is this: what if someday, someone looks back at something you've done-- be it a drawing, a story, an act of kindness, a bright potential that you showed, whatever-- and says, 'She could have done so much more! Little did she know, she was so close to changing the world! But sadly, she committed suicide before she was even out of high school..."
Please, please, please don't say that... OK, let me ask just one more question-- IF, for SOME REASON, you decided NOT to kill yourself, what would you do when you grew up? Please answer...
I'm not good at much so I don't know. I wanted to be a writer but I can't write that well. Wanted to be a youtuber but I can't do that so really nothing I guess.
(Hey! I love manga! Which is your favorite?) But anyway, AHGTTG is possibly the weirdest, most off-topic, and best book I've ever read. Try it. Sometimes you just need to take what you can do, and turn it into a style...
OK, I wanna try something.
Look at my comment about my fears here (it's the long essay-like one):
http://m.funsubstance.com/fun/282274/happy-halloween/?last_comment=1667763#comment1667763
The last fear on that list, being in/near water in a car, is my absolute worst fear. I've been dealing with it since I was 4 years old, and I almost think it's pathological. I literally get sick to my stomach, freeze up and start shaking and rocking back and forth-- it's all I can do not to bolt out of the car and run if it happens.
I'll make you a deal.
If you take a writing class, and try to improve and take pride in your work, I will try like hell to conquer that fear.
Those are the highest stakes that I can think of to give myself.
Well, how about this. If you can't find a writing course, then I challenge you to find 3 new things you absolutely love to do. Try everything and anything-- drawing in a new style, cooking, acting, volunteering at your local library or nusing home or homeless shelter are just some ideas-- anything! Just so long as the things are constructive and amazing. If you do that, and try to improve your skills at whatever you pick, and not be too hard on yourself if you're not perfect right away-- I'll still hold up my end of the deal.
Thank you Spidey! Thank you! :')
(I never lie about things like this-- but to show you I mean it: I solemnly swear by my grandmother's grave, I will hold up my end of the deal, if you hold up yours...)
(No, I'm not crying... I just have some dust in my eye...)
:')
@spidey
I have to go do a ton of homework now--
But before I do, I have a very important question:
Will you comment again tomorrow?
@rwby-rose
A long time ago, after some very hard circumstances, i swore-- I will never give up on anyone. No matter how despairing. So really, how could I NOT help Spidey? :')
Something I've noticed in this thread.
spideypool has a problem. A shitton of users are giving suggestions, "comfort" in whatever way they can, and trying to be nice.
Those are givens. The former happens to anyone, which I have no problem with. The latter always follows the former in some way or another, which I'm glad happens. It shows we care about each other.
But my problem.
spideypool is completely apathetic to any form of advise or assistance.
*helpful comment/suggestion*
"yeah so?"
BITCH SOMEONE'S TRYING TO HELP YOU IF YOU DON'T WANT HELP YOU'D BETTER ACCEPT THE FACT THAT WE'RE GONNA START WAILING ON YOU BECAUSE IT SURE LOOKS LIKE ATTENTION WHORING.
We don't mind that you have a problem. We're glad to help. But it sure looks like you don't care that we're trying to help.
And digressing to a comment I've made several times in unrelated threads...
Don't do things when you're emotional. Shit's gonna follow.
That might be why I have no emotions actually...
Yeah that's actually a lesson she needs to learn,I'll admit that. I'm actually trying to help her so that she doesn't do a bunch of crazy shit when she's emotional..
Ok cut it out.
There's a time and place for shit like this, and it's not fucking INTERNET HUMOR SITES. Not to mention this sadsack refuses to consider seeing a professional.
There's one simple reason they're pulling this shit, and it needs to stop being encouraged, even if it means you can't get your rocks off pretending to help people with their fake problems.
"...Get my rocks off?"
I'm assuming you were talking to me. I seriously don't understand what you mean.
(Is it supposed to be belittling my manhood or something?)
I think he means that it's therapeutic for both parties. "get your rocks off" as in get something off your chest?
I'm just speculating and I'm not even sure why I commented just now.
*stupid tyler things*
*pompously* Ah yes, 'tis my duty to defend the weak and suffering... :P
But seriously, in my experience-- not that I have a lot mind you, but I have had to literally talk a few people off the ledge in my short lifetime-- sometimes people just need you to not judge, not jump to conclusions, and not give up. I don't care if trying to help gets me criticized. I'll save a life if I can, whether I am ridiculed or not-- and if it really is a cruel prank (which I refuse to believe), then so be it. I am not ashamed of caring about people.
It's cold and sunny with those wispy cirrus clouds where I am.
It's actually getting to the point where sweater-weather is all the time as opposed to morning and evening.
My mom is a fighter. When she had me she had preeclampsia, 3 months early, her placenta broke and numberous other complications I won't talk about. People say I'm a fighter considering my odds but my mom really is. She went to hell and back and I can't thank her enough for putting up with me, then and now. Just saying, we (my mom and I) do stuff for each other. I know some of y'all may not have the best relationship or its just hard. I can't necessarity relate first hand but if y'all need a buddy, I'm here.
I love my mom to pieces and we have a good relationship but she'll never understand my mental illness. She acts like I chose to have my dads ADD, depression, and anxiety. I know she means well but it's like she's disappointed in me for something I can't control.
why is the majority of people these days are so damn weak, they get offended by basically everything and they get all depressed and suicidal by the smallest thing that happen to them? I know mental illness is not a joke and it's a serious condition but life is cold and harsh and you can't ask the world to compromise for you, that's just how it is man.
I don't disagree with guest, but I will say that perhaps some people are weak because they've already been through so much. Child molestation, rape, physical abuse, verbal abuse, family disfunction, malnutrition, and undiagnosed learning impairments are all things that slow the process of brain maturity, and they change who you are. Perhaps rather than telling people "that's just how it is", you offer them a place where they can receive much needed mental and biochemical review and treatment. Perhaps the societal view of self harm, suicidal tendencies, and depression should also take into consideration the root of why the issues are there, not just what set them off at that time.
Once again, I don't disagree, but it really helps the healing process if victims are treated like people that need to be healed rather than a problem that needs to be fixed. Sympathy shows a victim that what happened is not their fault, which is SUCH an important piece to the process. It's impossible for someone who has not been through abuse to understand, but the victim is either made to believe that what happened is their fault in order to keep quiet, or they make themselves believe it in order to continue to punish themselves. Both are possible, both require treatment. Treatment beginning with sympathy, continuing with understanding, and ending with the guarantee of continued support.
As you know, I'm a heartless bastard.
I think that sympathy alone gets people nowhere. All it does is validate the problem for the sufferer because someone else recognizes it. As I've said several times, the first step in solving a problem is acknowledging it. But if there's too much sympathy, it starts going back in a circle to re-acknowledging the problem which doesn't help because keeps reminding everyone of the problem. Acknowledge the problem and move on.
You saw what I did to spideypool. I don't care about her as a person, I care about her as a living creature (out of character, I know). We all saw there was a problem, but I never said a single word of sympathy or comfort because it's useless and empty promises. What I did do was try and give a way out because that's what people really need. If in my almost three years on FS, my impression of depression and mental/emotional "instability" is halfway correct, it happens because there doesn't seem to be a way out.
I'm the same guest from before. I had what you called as dysfunctional family and suicidal tendencies since I was 13 (I still sometimes feel that hopelessness even to this day) and I do not seek any freaking help. I repeat NONE. I do not talk to my family, friend, teacher, nor people on the internet about my problem because you know why? None of those people will ever solve my problem or help me out of this situation, BUT ME. Yes this fucking rotten and damaged self is the only one who will help you and get you out of that living hell, NO ONE ELSE BUT YOU. My point is, we better stop creating victim mentality. Encourage people to fight back, to be tough, to fight this harsh world tooth and nail. People will not always be nice to you, ever. And you know what's hurt even more? They don't have any obligation to be nice to you. So stand up, pour that scalding hot coffee on your head, go to shower, and move on with your life.
Guest. I must say that you should talk with a counselor, because you are still abusive to yourself even as you talk about how you are helping yourself. I can hear your self hatred from where I'm sitting and I'm telling you that it will occasionally waver in its intensity, but until you are given the tools to help yourself, it will always be there
*snorts* kinda get the feeling of "not wanna tell my mom*. Been diagnosed with one or two things, unless she's been looking at where I keep my meds, she has no idea.... and this coming from a 20 something year old. I've talked to some counselors at my college, they've helped a lot in certain ways
Just make sure you're not keeping any of this inside, have someone to talk to you.
Tell us what you CAN do and what IS available and then we'll tell you what we think the best option is. Because you're rejecting literally everything we say. Ten dollars a week isn't that much. It's basically just all pocket money. You could beg on the streets and get maybe $50 a week.
But seriously, mow a single lawn and there's your counseling money, if they even charge anything at all.
Or just mow a lawn.
Step three. Which of these are you gonna take? If none, why are they bad? If a half-assed answer is given, you can be sure that more people'll start bashing you.
That's the definition of half-assed.
I don't like those because I don't have money
...I don't have time
...I don't like talking to people
Things you can fix or throw the problem to hell but are apparently too lazy to get out of bed and do so. Or things where there's an obvious solution (like money) but you haven't thought through it so your answer is simply "I don't have money".
In college, a large majority of campuses have free/cheap counseling available. I took advantage of that when first attending. Where I live, the costs of therapy can be covered by health insurance. If you are afraid you cannot involve your mom though, and there is not a Community Action Partnership close by to call, then call your nearest social service office. They can help as well. There are plenty of options, but what you have to do is TRY.
You should always talk to ur mother. Im sure ur mum would b happy to help you xx
Everybody deserves love from their mum... Including you. Ur mum probably has her own issues, but shouldn't take that out on u.
U should prove her words wrong, and prove ur own worth to Urself x
my mom and her sisters don't along but it's her fault she acts like a smartass around them and then she yells at me for trying to help her out so...I don't know anymore..
You don't wish for it, you don't wanna wish for it. You wish for it to go away
IIRC posting stuff that isn't funny or interesting is against FS's posting rules.
"Some people" might gobble that up, but it's not what this site is for.
>Continues to comment
>Mfw
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Fucking stop supporting this.
And it's OK, there are reasons behind spidey's post and comments. Please don't elongate this-- we're trying to help Spidey deal with it. Please, please stand down...
God forbid anyone on FS becomes the voice of reason...
Let the circlejerk continue!
Let the... What now? What is that supposed to mean?
And in (the rather unlikely) case you were being serious, I actually want to be a vet. But I'm not opposed to multiple degrees.
Calm down.
Shut up.
And listen.
I don't know you. I don't know what you're going through. I don't know how bad your situation is.
But I do know one thing.
You matter.
Maybe not to yourself.
But to somebody.
Why do you think people are trying to help you?
They care-- even if you don't.
You're not fine.
You're not a demon.
And going to hell sure as (well, hell) won't make things any better.
So shut up.
Take a deep breath-- or wiggle your toes-- or stick your fingers in your ears and sing 'it's a small world' as off key as you possibly can, it really doesn't matter.
Then try and summon up the courage to ask the person you trust the most for help.
Be brave. Think Spidey thoughts.
I don't know you.
But I do care.
And I don't care if you don't care that I care.
Because of reasons.
Probably should have led with that. It would have saved so many people so much time.
Keep letting them work you like this and pretty soon this site will be flooded with "suicidal" teens.
I'm bloody well not stopping until you understand that you're important and that people actully care about you.
Answer me one question:
What do you like to do?
(Do you like to draw? Write? Do you like working with old people or kids or animals? Are you oddly good at something?)
And don't you dare give me a cheap answer!
Do you know who Vincent van Gogh is?
Look at my comment about my fears here (it's the long essay-like one):
http://m.funsubstance.com/fun/282274/happy-halloween/?last_comment=1667763#comment1667763
The last fear on that list, being in/near water in a car, is my absolute worst fear. I've been dealing with it since I was 4 years old, and I almost think it's pathological. I literally get sick to my stomach, freeze up and start shaking and rocking back and forth-- it's all I can do not to bolt out of the car and run if it happens.
I'll make you a deal.
If you take a writing class, and try to improve and take pride in your work, I will try like hell to conquer that fear.
Those are the highest stakes that I can think of to give myself.
(I never lie about things like this-- but to show you I mean it: I solemnly swear by my grandmother's grave, I will hold up my end of the deal, if you hold up yours...)
(No, I'm not crying... I just have some dust in my eye...)
(O-Okay...)
(I've had a sandstorm in my eyes today so...)
@spidey
I have to go do a ton of homework now--
But before I do, I have a very important question:
Will you comment again tomorrow?
@rwby-rose
A long time ago, after some very hard circumstances, i swore-- I will never give up on anyone. No matter how despairing. So really, how could I NOT help Spidey? :')
Will you comment again tomorrow?
spideypool has a problem. A shitton of users are giving suggestions, "comfort" in whatever way they can, and trying to be nice.
Those are givens. The former happens to anyone, which I have no problem with. The latter always follows the former in some way or another, which I'm glad happens. It shows we care about each other.
But my problem.
spideypool is completely apathetic to any form of advise or assistance.
*helpful comment/suggestion*
"yeah so?"
BITCH SOMEONE'S TRYING TO HELP YOU IF YOU DON'T WANT HELP YOU'D BETTER ACCEPT THE FACT THAT WE'RE GONNA START WAILING ON YOU BECAUSE IT SURE LOOKS LIKE ATTENTION WHORING.
We don't mind that you have a problem. We're glad to help. But it sure looks like you don't care that we're trying to help.
Don't do things when you're emotional. Shit's gonna follow.
That might be why I have no emotions actually...
Shut the hell up. You're not wanted here.
If you can't be supporting, get out.
There's a time and place for shit like this, and it's not fucking INTERNET HUMOR SITES. Not to mention this sadsack refuses to consider seeing a professional.
There's one simple reason they're pulling this shit, and it needs to stop being encouraged, even if it means you can't get your rocks off pretending to help people with their fake problems.
I'm assuming you were talking to me. I seriously don't understand what you mean.
(Is it supposed to be belittling my manhood or something?)
I'm just speculating and I'm not even sure why I commented just now.
*stupid tyler things*
(It just sounded vaguely insulting to me, given the context.)
It involves getting something off all over your chest. ;)
Best get back to spidey, then. I'm sure only you can prevent his/her premature demise...
But seriously, in my experience-- not that I have a lot mind you, but I have had to literally talk a few people off the ledge in my short lifetime-- sometimes people just need you to not judge, not jump to conclusions, and not give up. I don't care if trying to help gets me criticized. I'll save a life if I can, whether I am ridiculed or not-- and if it really is a cruel prank (which I refuse to believe), then so be it. I am not ashamed of caring about people.
Now get off the internet and do some real good.
And from now on you must address me as "Saint Poptart..." :P
As for "real good:"
I'm concerned about the blueberries.
It's actually getting to the point where sweater-weather is all the time as opposed to morning and evening.
I think that sympathy alone gets people nowhere. All it does is validate the problem for the sufferer because someone else recognizes it. As I've said several times, the first step in solving a problem is acknowledging it. But if there's too much sympathy, it starts going back in a circle to re-acknowledging the problem which doesn't help because keeps reminding everyone of the problem. Acknowledge the problem and move on.
You saw what I did to spideypool. I don't care about her as a person, I care about her as a living creature (out of character, I know). We all saw there was a problem, but I never said a single word of sympathy or comfort because it's useless and empty promises. What I did do was try and give a way out because that's what people really need. If in my almost three years on FS, my impression of depression and mental/emotional "instability" is halfway correct, it happens because there doesn't seem to be a way out.
How do you think of my assessment of sympathy vs constructive action?