I still find that overwhealming. No, maybe Im not dating you just to pass time, but to consider all of those things since the beggining... Isnt it too much?
Yes. I guess I just mean that, some people enjoy the present. And that doesnt mean im careless, just that yeah, if someone said that to me, I think I'd be stressed.
Dating is not always, and shouldn't always, be a tryout for a spouse. It can be a getting to know you thing to see if you like somebody, maybe you both find each other really attractive, etc, etc. If you really, really want to get married, that's fine. For some people, that's not always the goal.
For me, dating is more serious than most people. If I know for a fact that I will not or cannot end up with someone, I don't even bother trying. I see no point in dating when I know it will end, both because the end will be no less painful and because in that time that I'm preoccupied with whom I know is the wrong person, I might just pass by the right one. Some see dating as a means of getting to know someone and maybe they'll end up being the one, but I'd rather get to know them by being friends, and when I know them I know for sure whether or not dating them would be a good idea. However, I've never actually dated anyone before, so how valuable can my opinion be?
Maybe I just feel this way because of past experiences. Ive been so into a relationship, that I imagine all my life with them, and when it ended I feel ashamed, sad and stupid for it.
copy-paste from a comment I made a few days back
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I once read an article about how dating has changed from one or two generations ago to now. Back then, a date was go drink a juice box with a different guy every three days because we're all friends and it's really just a way to build deeper friendships. What is now considered "dating" is what "courting" was back then.
Clarifying, the date isn't going out with a bunch of friends and the one person so happens to be in that group. It's a two-person adventure to go out and get to know each other, but the writer's anecdote said that her parents' rule was not do date the same guy twice in a row.
Basically the point of this was to not get tied up with one person; spread roots around and get to know the variety of people with their personalities and habits so that you can make a more informed decision later as opposed to simply finding someone and not exploring other people.
See, here's the thing: I've never actually dated anyone I wasn't already friends with. Why would someone volunteer to spend over an hour with a random stranger and nobody else?
That's for us: the people who don't date "just for date", the ones who find someone they can feel comfortable with, and then feel ready to open their heart to.
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I once read an article about how dating has changed from one or two generations ago to now. Back then, a date was go drink a juice box with a different guy every three days because we're all friends and it's really just a way to build deeper friendships. What is now considered "dating" is what "courting" was back then.
Basically the point of this was to not get tied up with one person; spread roots around and get to know the variety of people with their personalities and habits so that you can make a more informed decision later as opposed to simply finding someone and not exploring other people.
it's still among the friend group but it's (an attempt) to make several (very) close friends.
Is good
I'm thinking iiinnndoooooors... with chip, penny and tissue.