It's taken me time to come to this, and I don't say this condescendingly. I've had to train myself to look no further than what is offered in the moment: time, friendship, or material. No matter what it is, I accept it as what the person has offered me and am grateful. It means that every relationship has no expectations and because of that I have very little disappointment. For example: If I'm in trouble, I never expect a friend's help, I think, "He may help I'll give 'em a call." If he says no, I accept that answer and I am grateful that I will be allowed this growth opportunity. The last time I was disappointed in someone was myself for not following through on a project.
It's even spilled over into the rest of my life. Everyday I wake up and think of 30 things (started with 5) I'm grateful for, I imagine if I lost them all, and I would still have a wonderful life. The only two things I leave off the list and always will are my wife and child.
Anyway, I hope this helps someone.
Maybe I can be like that one day, it seems like a good way to be. I know that I am as volatile as I am now because I need to be for some reason. You are a special kind, i commend you.
Thanks guest I appreciate it. It's not a natural state of mind, and it has taken time to get to this point. It's similar to cognitive behavioral therapy for OCD if you're familiar with that, only its applied to your outlook on life instead of anxiety. I grew up as a pretty angry kid, and over time this way of thinking has helped me to cope with that also.
Want to coax out loners/introverts? Start with warm cookies. Always a good place to start.
It's even spilled over into the rest of my life. Everyday I wake up and think of 30 things (started with 5) I'm grateful for, I imagine if I lost them all, and I would still have a wonderful life. The only two things I leave off the list and always will are my wife and child.
Anyway, I hope this helps someone.
Down vote is what they had to offer or it is how they felt. So it is.