Or she could have said "thank you, I know" because there is absolutely nothing wrong in thanking someone for a compliment and also agreeing to it. Confidence is not something to be ashamed off.
Or not, saying "I know" sounds more like they're convincing themselves it's true. Someone with actual confidence wouldn't say that. Also in any compliment whether it be about looks or not saying i know naturally sounds conceited. In a reverse situation where a girl complimented a guy and he said "thanks, I know" everyone would hate that guy. It's like saying "I'm narcissistic, full of myself and to good for you" all in one phrase. Replying like that to a compliment will never be taken as confidence
Disagree. I like to see people take pride in their good qualities. Being mad that someone agrees with your compliment just means that you want them to care about your opinion of them, instead of making them feel good.
Being curt with "I know" doesn't make someone mad, it comes off as conceit which induces more of a disgust because conceit is a bad personality trait. If you felt compelled to say anything there for whatever reason there were better lines. Some examples: "I get that a lot" "I like to think so too" "It's one of my redeeming qualities" or anything along those lines. But again you can take pride without saying anything, the guy was attracted to her visually so he complimented her in hopes of liking her personality and possibly getting to know her, that's just natural attraction. She immediately thought "fuckboy" and replied in a curt and conceited way, she was obviously not interested in him but she could have just said thanks and moved on anything else was unneeded and rude
There're a few things that indicate this is either completely fabricated or at least embellished.
The dialog is unrealistic, unnatural.
The person telling the story is a "hero," putting the other person in their place.
Little detail is given about the other person. They're simply a prop to support the "hero."
There's a strong lesson to the story. It's not just something that happened.
It's ultimately harmless, but likely never happened outside of the mind of the person that wrote it.
But since the story is told from this "heros" perspective, they obviously focused on their own words instead of the other guy's. It makes sense that little to no detail would be given. Especially since the person telling the story is a person who has a very strong character, an activist maybe even. The is no strong "lesson" per say but rather a strong opinion being expressed in a way that caught the guy off guard.
You say the dialogue is unrealistic but the hero didn't say the dialogue word for word when it comes to the guy. Rather she summed up what he was saying to faster get his point across. The dialogue is not the focal point in this story, that's the opinion. Sorry but I simply do not agree with you.
Well it is generally considered rude though? Someone saw you looked cute, decided to put aside what they were doing, walked up to you and notified you that on this day, at this moment you look cute. On top of that they're a stranger. A thank you is a kind way of showing your appreciation that someone thinks you're cute. I would also be *slightly* offended if I compliment someone and they just pat themselves on the back like they did something good. She was obviously offended by his compliment if you see her reaction to it, calling him a fuckboy, and somehow saying that it's a feminist issue?
I feel like it may just depend on the person as well and how often they may have been told that before by people. For example, I have a super pretty cousin and guys constantly tell her that she is pretty/beautiful, and she tends to just say "okay." Which is understandable because she is the craziest boy magnet I have ever seen and also she feels awkward when someone compliments her on her looks because it's not like she did anything for them.
Also, I think the more that people tell you the same thing, the more you just want to get the conversation over with because it's become so overused to you. Which reminds me of this one time when I complimented my classmate on her cheekbones because they were amazing and I think she said something along the lines of "Thanks. I get that a lot." I think that was a nice way to receive a compliment but also move the conversation along.
It stated in the actual post that he was offended that she agreed because he then thought she was conceited. I think it's fine to agree you're pretty, if they said it why can't you? But that's not the point of the post anyway.
It's how she agreed that made it conceited, not to mention there was no reason or point to agreeing like that. The way she responded and acted in the post would normally be taken as rude and conceited
Agreed. I just say thanks. But I have low self steem so I do want to disagree when someone tells me that.
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obviously fake due to the fact that people don't talk or act this way. i do believe that she got a complement. i do believe she mistakenly said "i know" and i do believe the person was put off. most likely the guy then walked away, she felt embarrassed and that was the end. i tend to be a blunt talker, even more confident and direct than most, and even i have a hard time believing this type of interaction would happen. i don't know many guys that would call her out on it like that, i don't know many girls that are going to touch a stranger and talk down to them like that. especially taken her words, she may be of the "all men rape"' mentality. also if the guy WOULD call her out, would he accept that type of condescension? and to the person who wrote this. normal people say thanks and that is it. it is called taking a complement. nothing beyond that is needed and it doesn't mean you are "insecure" to not agree. agreeing does makes you sound conceited thus making you seem ful of yourself
If a stranger tells me I'm cute, I'm gonna respond by saying "With plenty of hard work and dedication, someday you could be as cute as me.". Unfortunately, the opportunity hasn't presented itself, at least not in public. :D
The dialog is unrealistic, unnatural.
The person telling the story is a "hero," putting the other person in their place.
Little detail is given about the other person. They're simply a prop to support the "hero."
There's a strong lesson to the story. It's not just something that happened.
It's ultimately harmless, but likely never happened outside of the mind of the person that wrote it.
You say the dialogue is unrealistic but the hero didn't say the dialogue word for word when it comes to the guy. Rather she summed up what he was saying to faster get his point across. The dialogue is not the focal point in this story, that's the opinion. Sorry but I simply do not agree with you.
Also, I think the more that people tell you the same thing, the more you just want to get the conversation over with because it's become so overused to you. Which reminds me of this one time when I complimented my classmate on her cheekbones because they were amazing and I think she said something along the lines of "Thanks. I get that a lot." I think that was a nice way to receive a compliment but also move the conversation along.