A little bit, I did get my friends asking if I found them attractive but I'm extremely lucky to have been excepted by everyone. People will treat you differently if they're not used to it so give them time. I hope it went well for you :)
I haven't actually told anyone yet, thanks though :). There was a big shit show recently in my town over how the main church reacted to a gay couple that came out, so I've been pretty buttoned up about it
I'm guessing the church reacted badly?
My advice is to just make sure you're comfortable and that when you do it you're safe. The people you surround yourself with should accept you and love you regardless
I don't know much about religion but I'm pretty sure most of them say "love everyone" so don't listen to the church, it's literally just people being afraid of others who are different. Your sexuality doesn't make you a good or bad person
No worries, I just hope it goes smoothly for you bud
I'll tell you what I've observed from the other point of view, having seen people come out: once it's out there, if you don't act much different, they won't treat you much different. If you abruptly transform into a 1980s movie stereotypical homosexual and make everything about your sexuality, then people are probably going to treat you differently/avoid you. Most people don't like a lot of abrupt change, regardless of what it is concerning.
one of my friends asked if i had aids when i came out to him. that being said another of my friends was also in the closset so that ended up with me having the best summer flings ever. you win some you lose some i guess.
First of - Huzzah! Coming out will be the best thing you ever did! It may seem rough now but I assure you it's does get infinitely better.
Secondly - yes. You may find that people treat you differently. This is isn't always a bad thing as it can take people time to adjust - they may just need a bit of space or time to settle into the news (especially if it came as a shock)
In the most part your friends and those close to you will think nothing has changed- in reality I found that once I came out EVERYTHING changed! That's because I found I could be the real me for the first time- a me that I didn't even know was there until I told people.
What ever you feel now, remember that you have a support network here and when you're ready there will be ones on your local area you can join too.
Be happy, be yourself. Xx
(Also, I grew up in a tiny village where everyone knows everyone so I can get how difficult it can be. I didn't know what homosexuality was until I was 17...That's how sheltered it was. No Internet back then either!!!)
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So I myself am not gay but a friend of mine came out of the closet lately. All his true friends, including me, did support him but tbh we all didn't even care that much because why should we, its his decision and we are not involved with his sex life. Yes there where some people which called him names but he did the right thing and just ditched them. For his parents, it was actually really bad at the beginning but after a bit of time setteled they realized that they cant change anything and started accepting it, all in all he says it was worth it. If you are deciding to come out I wish you best of luck and may only good things happen to you :) its a hard step that cannot be truly understood by straight people
Most people didn't treat me differently, but I had already got to learn where people stood when a friend of mine came out.
Coming out can be hard, and it a lot of cases it is worth it, but coming out can be dangerous.
If you are somewhere that coming out is safe, then I recommend it. It likely won't be easy, but you learn who your friends are, and you don't have to hide that part of your identity.
But, if coming out is not safe, wait. Don't come out of that could land you homeless, beaten, or killed. If you are not someplace same, get to a point and a place where you are safe first. That, can be just as hard.
There are people who will love and accept you for who you are. I hope those are the people you already surround yourself with. Be safe, and good luck.
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YES.
When I told my best friend I'm bisexual, the jokes came at rapid-fire.
Some were funny, some weren't.
But I got used to them and they stopped hurting.
And they soon stopped.
Honestly, I'm never really at peace at with it, but I think my circle of friends is a bit closer because of it.
Not really. Then again, i came out to a group of people already out themselves. One of my straight friends just asked me about like, when I knew and whatever, but other than that, it's been aight.
Not really, actually. It really does depend on the person you are and the kind of friends you have. I was SUPER flirty to other girls before I ever came out, so when I did, everyone was already used to it. The one thing that holds true for everyone, though, is that if any of your friends DO decide to mistreat you because of it, they don't deserve to be your friend.
I never came out, I was just like, if I'm with a guy then obviously I'm gay.
I don't think it's anything to have to announce to people (in my case anyway), unless someone asks me. That's how it was like at Uni anyway, no one knew until they asked me, and I was fine with that.
Subtly bring up in conversion something that has to do with homosexuality. There's usually something in the news or a new bill being passed every now and then, so use that as an excuse. Observe how they react to the subject and try to get their honest opinion about it. From there, you can generally get a pretty good idea on where they stand on the subject and if they'll treat you any differently. I think that if you don't make a big deal out of it, they won't either.
Well my best friend came out to m as bi and I just kinda accepted it and I almost forgot about it. If they are really you're friend, they'll treat you exactly the same
Pretty much all of my friends are gay and were already out to me, so when I came out they weren't even surprised. They'd figured out I was gay long before I did.
The only people who treated me differently were people I didn't need in my life. The right people will accept you for who you are, I promise. There will always be haters, but they can take their negativity somewhere else. Don't be afraid to be you! Because you're fabulous and wonderful as you are; coming out was one of the best decision I've ever made. You be you! Love, spiritanimal <3
My Girlfriend came out as Ace a couple of months ago.
Most of the guys that used to sub to her Twitch stopped, and people stopped visiting her channel as much, because I guess if there's not chance of having sex with the girl on the screen, even a 0.0001% chance, she's not worth it.
Now, they barely even ask how she is on her own server.
She's the kindest, most thoughtful and generous person I've ever met.
I now fucking hate people because of this.
My advice is to just make sure you're comfortable and that when you do it you're safe. The people you surround yourself with should accept you and love you regardless
No worries, I just hope it goes smoothly for you bud
Secondly - yes. You may find that people treat you differently. This is isn't always a bad thing as it can take people time to adjust - they may just need a bit of space or time to settle into the news (especially if it came as a shock)
In the most part your friends and those close to you will think nothing has changed- in reality I found that once I came out EVERYTHING changed! That's because I found I could be the real me for the first time- a me that I didn't even know was there until I told people.
What ever you feel now, remember that you have a support network here and when you're ready there will be ones on your local area you can join too.
Be happy, be yourself. Xx
Coming out can be hard, and it a lot of cases it is worth it, but coming out can be dangerous.
If you are somewhere that coming out is safe, then I recommend it. It likely won't be easy, but you learn who your friends are, and you don't have to hide that part of your identity.
But, if coming out is not safe, wait. Don't come out of that could land you homeless, beaten, or killed. If you are not someplace same, get to a point and a place where you are safe first. That, can be just as hard.
There are people who will love and accept you for who you are. I hope those are the people you already surround yourself with. Be safe, and good luck.
When I told my best friend I'm bisexual, the jokes came at rapid-fire.
Some were funny, some weren't.
But I got used to them and they stopped hurting.
And they soon stopped.
Honestly, I'm never really at peace at with it, but I think my circle of friends is a bit closer because of it.
I don't think it's anything to have to announce to people (in my case anyway), unless someone asks me. That's how it was like at Uni anyway, no one knew until they asked me, and I was fine with that.
Most of the guys that used to sub to her Twitch stopped, and people stopped visiting her channel as much, because I guess if there's not chance of having sex with the girl on the screen, even a 0.0001% chance, she's not worth it.
Now, they barely even ask how she is on her own server.
She's the kindest, most thoughtful and generous person I've ever met.
I now fucking hate people because of this.