This is bullshit, doesn't matter if you're gay, bi, or whatever. LOVE HAVE ONE AND ONLY BANNER, AND IT'S A BLOODY RED HEART JUST RIPPED OUT OF A STILL HOT DEAD BODY
Valuable opinions all around. Could you please elaborate on why this is your opinion *not sarcasm, genuine curiosity*
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· 7 years ago
Well demisexual is someone who doesnt have any sexual feeling for someone unless they're in love with them. That's not a special sexual label. It's just saving yourself for the right person. There's nothing weird or wrong with it and, in my opinion, that's a lot of self control and self respect, but to put a dumbass label on it and call it "demisexual" is retarded because ANYONE (whether you be straight, gay, bi, furry, or handicapped) can resist the urge to have sex with someone unless they're in love with them. It's not special, it's beautiful.
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You make some really good points, and I think the point of our difference is our definition of "demisexual." As someone on the asexual spectrum myself (read: I'm ace/aro) demisexuals usually define themselves as people who experience no sexual attraction UNTIL they get to know someone really well, and ONLY then. I'm not saying everyone who says they're demi is using the terms correctly, but I think that's where our difference lies
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· 7 years ago
I understand that, but what I'm saying is that it's dumb to put a label on something so simple
Gay and trans rights aren't an SJW rat hole...theyre issues and concerns that are valid... I know that it isn't your intention to devaluate one over another and if it is, remember that getting kicked out of houses or unemployed isn't the same as complaining online
What I mean is, while I think it's perfectly acceptable to love someone of the same sex as you, or to feel as though you're a woman when your biology is male, the only acceptable answer to, "Oh, no, I'm actually a cat" is immediate entry into a psychiatric facility.
I think you mean "why the fuck should I even care?" which is 100% valid. It's like going around and labeling people on what kind of freaking ice cream they like...
"Oh, mint chocolate? here is a subreddit".... "Strawberry cream? Here is your subreddit"... It's fucking stupid. Unless you live in the deep south and have psychotic parents, nobody cares..... you're like a white girl taking a picture of her frap and then trying to form some little click about it.
If you've sucked a dick and enjoyed it, cool... there's not much self exploration besides the realization you enjoyed sucking that particular dick... ate a girl out and enjoyed it? Same thing.... got down to business with a girl and enjoyed it? Cool!... Whatever...
I'd kind of be with him if I weren't told *freakishly* often that it's weird and unrelatable for me not to be sexually attracted to someone I don't have an emotional connection to.
Plus, the whole labels thing is less "I'm special and I want attention" to the silent majority and more "oh God please tell me I'm not the only one ever."
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· 7 years ago
Tbh, I really don't care what you wanna call yourself, just don't expect special treatment or anything
The labels have one purpose: to connect people. I agree that over-labeling can be harmful, such as in cases of over-diagnosing, etc., but when it comes to sexuality and romantic orientation, the labels serve to connect homoromantic demisexuals with other homoromantic demisexuals (or whatever you are) usually through an online community and usually for the purpose of dating.
calling yourself demisexual to connect with other demisexuals makes zero sense though. That's just a stupid way of saying "I want to find friends online who I might connect with".
Literally the same thing besides maybe filtering out a bunch of people who don't want to put up with labeling every stupid little action you make.
Labels help us quickly identify other people we are likely compatible or not with. Not everyone is ok waiting months or years to sleep with their new date. Knowing upfront could be good for everyone. It's not a competition. By definition you could be gay and "demisexual." Amongst many groups including gays you'll find "subgroups" for easier reference. It's not the same thing. LGBT specifies a gender attraction. "Demi" "swinger" "top/bottom/dom/sub" "voyeur" etc. are all things that can be applied to a person regardless of gender identity and preference. They aren't the same thing but can still impact a persons relationships and have emotional repercussions. "Niche groups" have always existed, the internet has brought many to the public, and turned many who thought they were alone into global communities. Feeling threatened that someone else wants to be with people like them or be understood by society and not feel like an outcast seems to be an insult to the idea of harmony.
I can't say much people do isn't stupidity in an ultimate sense. So I can't really say most people's stupidity is better or worse than my own. We are all wrong in someone's eyes. The conflict comes when we can't just let people be wrong, and feel we have to make things "right." There's a time for that, when people are suffering because of a thing for instance, but most of the time there's no reason to be concerned by other folks business. That's what's really stupid. So wether I support these people, or even believe they need to exist as a group or not, I can't argue they don't have a right to. Personally I just don't plan to give the issue much thought. They can go be them, I'll be me, and lest I seek them out I'll likely only be aware they exist in passing from random mentions on the internet. I'll reserve my outrage for something else.
My personal opinion: So long as nobody is a dick about it, you can say whatever you want about yourself, so if someone says they're a demisexual, I say "Cool!", but if they accuse me of assuming anything and act like a little bitch, then we'll have some problems
I agree with this post
there is a lot of people who only want attention
there is no such thing as demisexualiy
and if there is then a majority of people are in it
because it's normal and it's not a sexuality
they are just playing unique
or to spike someone's interest (How better it is to brag with: I have a demisexual girlfriend than a normal one [it's not])
horseshoe. The alt-left and alt-right are both nuts and far closer too each other... like the tips of a horseshoe. I prefer the triangle with moderate equidistant from right, left and totalitarian as the 3 angles.
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"Oh, mint chocolate? here is a subreddit".... "Strawberry cream? Here is your subreddit"... It's fucking stupid. Unless you live in the deep south and have psychotic parents, nobody cares..... you're like a white girl taking a picture of her frap and then trying to form some little click about it.
If you've sucked a dick and enjoyed it, cool... there's not much self exploration besides the realization you enjoyed sucking that particular dick... ate a girl out and enjoyed it? Same thing.... got down to business with a girl and enjoyed it? Cool!... Whatever...
Plus, the whole labels thing is less "I'm special and I want attention" to the silent majority and more "oh God please tell me I'm not the only one ever."
Literally the same thing besides maybe filtering out a bunch of people who don't want to put up with labeling every stupid little action you make.
Demisexual literally goes against that though... hence the stupidity.
there is a lot of people who only want attention
there is no such thing as demisexualiy
and if there is then a majority of people are in it
because it's normal and it's not a sexuality
they are just playing unique
or to spike someone's interest (How better it is to brag with: I have a demisexual girlfriend than a normal one [it's not])
2. People with other definitions of their sexuality are wrong and not OK.
Anyway, @sararosa Explain your viewpoint