This thought is terrifying

Someone actually downvotes the dude advocating compassionate education. What the holy hell? We are all born with certain genetic gifts and challenges. We are all born with certain predispositions and are influenced by our environments as we grow. We can only know the world as we have experienced it. The “sink or swim” mentality only works when the only options are: sink or swim; and on a large scale you end up with a lot of people who sank. If you watch someone drown when you could have thrown them a life preserver you are just as responsible as them. If you teach them to swim you won’t have to keep throwing them a life preserver. They will swim on their own, and should they start to drown again you throw another life preserver again and again until they swim on their own, or no one is there to help and they sink. Letting people fall through the cracks when they can be helped is not an option. No one on earth doesn’t get help from someone at some time.

Looks to me more look the tweet is about people who no longer are in the traumatic situation and after being in it so long don't know where to go next and are scared to find out. It takes a lot of strength and a lot of courage to go into something you either can't remember or never experience and a lot of people can't see they have that because they're blinded by fear or in the case of a lot of abuses had been made to believe they were weak, useless, and not good enough constantly for a very long time.

To be specific it is about people who are scared to learn to swim because they fear drowning. Illogical yes, but that is the nature of fear- it doesn’t need to follow reason, yet reason can often help dispel fear. How can something outside the mind beat something within the mind unless we know of it and accept it? If it were so easy to change the way people thought do you think history and the world would work as it does? People have been trying for millennia and can still only influence thought but not dictate it reliably- and that influence is a learned behavior that must be taught through years or decades of conditioning. So you throw them a life preserver. As many tines as it needs thrown. Some people may never learn to swim but most- eventually- will. You’ll find the community pool much more pleasant for everyone if you do, otherwise you’re swimming around with rotting corpses and flailing often dangerous people and paying to corral and clean the aftermath from the pool.

It could be hard to grasp. There can be a lot of reasons but I believe it is about happiness, wether you are happy or not. If you ask someone if they’d permanently change genders for example: some people may say yes or no. Both binary genders have advantages and disadvantages. Someone could list all the reasons a particular gender was “better” and many complaints people have might be fixed by switching- but many people simply don’t care enough to change their identity. Despite the draw backs they are happy as they are. So if we ask: “would you choose to have autism?” You’d likely say no. But then I ask: how do you know you wouldn’t be happier with autism? How do you know how an artistic sees the world, what they feel or think? To them you behave strange and alien as they do to you. We simply think “we” whatever “we” are is what is normal, and that unlike us is not normal. If that makes any sense?

I think it's because, you know, it's embedded in them. They would be someone totally different. They don't know which part of their personality comes from the autism, but they do know that they would have had an entirely different life, so if they cut out something that was in them from the very beginning and has had a huge impact on their life and their self construction, they would be deconstructed and they don't know what would be left of them.
(I don't have autism but I'm "gifted" -I don't like the word because it sounds great when in fact it's not- and I've spent many years wondering if I would have liked to take a chance to live in a world where I wouldn't have been bullied, where I wouldn't have been a burden on my parents and where I would have lived simply with friends and without existential crisis at 7. But I have simply no clue who I am without that, and that is in fact terryfying. What I know however is that I'm proud of who I am today and I don't want to lose that).

That’s part of the issue. To an extent it is impossible to ever be “who you were.” This is true even without trauma, but good or bad and experience is an experience. We must process that, reconcile what has happened and realize this is the reality of our situation and incorporate that into who we are. We aren’t defined by trauma, nor does it need be a part of us. But the emotions and thoughts belong to us. That’s the part that is hardest. Not getting back to who you were, but finding who you are afterwards and realizing that you can be healthy and happy even if you aren’t the same.

I don't even know how to express how badly I hate that statement.

Yes. As said before- “harsh truth” is individual and not universal- and stating as so is disrespectful and narrow minded. Surely an individual on earth may need to hear this, most don’t. In fact flying contrary to “victim” mentality is a prevalent mentality that people are solely responsible for their own problems and their solution. Where “self accountability” is largely a mechanism used by those who have been privileged or lucky in life to avoid guilt at why they are able to do well while others suffer, or to validate themselves as succeeding by their own “superior” innate qualities as opposed to the combination of people and events that have helped them succeed. The idea of self destiny comforts those who get scared at the thought that good people can be screwed over by random probability. A society succeeds or fails on its “lowest” or “weakest” members. Lifting people up builds a better world, no one succeeds or fails “on their own.”

"Where “self accountability” is largely a mechanism used by those who have been privileged or lucky in life to avoid guilt at why they are able to do well while others suffer, or to validate themselves as succeeding by their own “superior” innate qualities as opposed to the combination of people and events that have helped them succeed."
This is ridiculous, successful aren't the only people who believe in "self-accountability", its a mentality that exists throughout the different social classes. (Though, yes, it is more prevalent in the higher classes.)
The concept also has nothing to do with how others contributed to your success. You can believe in personal accountability and also acknowledge that others have helped you.

I think Theres a misunderstanding of my message. Firstly- success is relative. You don’t have to be in the “1%” to be a succcess compared to someone else, most importantly in your own mind- where people are apt to point out that even those others consider similar to them are somehow lazier, less moral, “taking (more) handouts” etc. secondly you can in fact acknowledge orhers help and believe in self accountability. I’m a firm believer in self accountability. At the end of the day who owns our actions if not us? Who has the power to change our own ways more than us? But being accountable for your actions and being the sole source of your reality. Every person can be broken by something over some amount of time or at the right time. Everyone can be beaten so far down they cannot get up on their own. That point is different for different people and if yours is higher bravo. But the fact we all get help shows none of us are fully self accountable, that we don’t need a hand sometimes.