I don’t know what the kid is gonna do in the future. What ever he/she wants to do after they are an age that they know what they want is fine by me. Right now the kid should be only worried about what toy it wants. What kind of snack it’s gonna get. What cartoon is on & what time does the other cartoon start. He shouldn’t really have the thinking that his Peepee is not suppose to be there. Every 4yo I ever met maybe seen the other sex peepee or hoohoo an thought that it was weird. I haven’t met one yet that stayed up all night crying an talking to its parents saying they are the wrong sex an wish they could get a sex change. I meet two or three trans(22-41) that said it took them years to know for sure they wanted to really have a sex change. So unless this kid is some kind of genius thinker I’m callin BS on him wanting the sex change. Just my opinion. Anybody feel free to say I’m wrong an you are right because........ I’m not gonna change my mind. But I’ll hear your side.
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· 6 years ago
Dude at 4 I thought I was right handed because I wanted to fit in. I'm actually left handed.
A 4 year old has an idea, but it may not be as permanent as transgender, but perhaps the opportunity to explore genders. Especially since gender is very specific at that age (boy vs girl toys, dresses, colors, careers etc.)
My 4 year old nephew loves legos and construction trucks like nobody's business, but he also loves to dance with colorful fabric squares and his favorite colors are pink and purple. At that age most kids are good at being themselves as long as they aren't discouraged by people telling them what they "should" like.
At 4 a child has very little concept of gender if any. Things like an association of certain clothes, colors, toys, interests, or behaviors with gender are themselves not a child’s decision but something society and their upbringing impart on them. As a fun fact- pink was considered a shade of red and was (in the West) a manly color until a retailer came up with the concept of “blue for boys, pink for girls” as a marketing campaign. So really- the only difference between a parent teaching a child “transgender” associations versus “traditional” isn’t in who’s making the choices or even in them being indoctrinated, but a distinction between teaching a more common and less common idea of gender roles.
As long as they don’t do hormones or surgery than it’s ok. I went through a phase when I was 6 and I wanted to be a boy. Called myself Lukas for like a month and now I’m very sure I’m a girl. Only reason I wanted to be a boy was because I wanted to be an astronaut and drink Pepsi. (My parents didn’t want me having the soda so they told me it was only for boys). Kids at that age don’t usually tie biology to gender, they associate it with the roles. Pink and flowers versus blue and fire. Kids might just be interested in the other side. Or they could turn out to be actually transgender, and it wouldn’t hurt to let the kid get a different haircut. As long as they don’t harm the kid, it’s ok in my book.
Depends. That kid could turn out it be trans. Or it could be a social justice prick hurting their child. Both are probably about equally probable.
(complete guesstimate.)
A four year old child doesn’t have the mental understanding of the world to grasp the concept of transgender.
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· 6 years ago
True, but that does not mean that the child couldn’t turn out to be transgender, like bethorien said. We’re not defending the actions of parents like that, we’re simply listing possibilities
Maybe not the term itself no. Most things that children that age experience are too complex for them to understand including this. It's entirely possible for someone of that age to be transgender. They however
would probably have no way of expressing that fact.
Not only would they have no way of expressing it they couldn't/can't understand the very basis of it. So could they be transgender? Maybe, but until their older they won't know nor will they have the mental capacity to make such a decision. In fact from a physiological stand point no one should make that decision until after puberty/adolescence has finished. It's been proven over and over again that the brain is still in flux and developing until that age. And it can be extremely detrimental to allow children/teens to under go any artificially physically altering procedures.
They have no concept or idea of sexiality at that age so they literally cannot be transgender yet. It's only once they get older and start understanding things that they can know at all
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· 6 years ago
Yeah, they have no way of knowing yet, but they are born that way, so even though they don’t show signs of it yet, they technically already are transgender. Again, of course that does NOT mean that parents should decide to treat their young child as if they were already fully aware if gender and lanel them as transgender, because it could very well not be the case
(complete guesstimate.)
would probably have no way of expressing that fact.