Never happened for me (Well my bf) during actual sex, but when we’re just messing around in bed it has happened a time or two. I think it gets tiresome to keep it up long if you’re just cuddling or having «foreplay» if it’s not definite it will end with sex.
Unless it's an actual condition it's usually nerves. You have to stay in a certain head space to stay erect. In this example it looks like he was turned off by his own nervousness/lack of confidence.
Yeah, as someone who had trouble with it for a while with my girl, (unless you have a real health condition which is an entirely different story) it boils down to nerves.
First time it happened I was nervous because it wouldve been her first time and I wanted her to have a good time, so I got into my own head (despite never having had any problem when we were just fooling around on other occasions).
Then I started getting into my own head, because I knew it could happen, and that made it happen x)
Luckily she was really cool about it, and we had to stop seeing each other for a week, which allowed me to get control of my own thoughts again, and then it was all fine.
But yeah, you have to be in the right state of nerves, and stressing about it will usually trigger it (which is a real problem because its hard not to think about it once it has happened once).
First time it happened I was nervous because it wouldve been her first time and I wanted her to have a good time, so I got into my own head (despite never having had any problem when we were just fooling around on other occasions).
Then I started getting into my own head, because I knew it could happen, and that made it happen x)
Luckily she was really cool about it, and we had to stop seeing each other for a week, which allowed me to get control of my own thoughts again, and then it was all fine.
But yeah, you have to be in the right state of nerves, and stressing about it will usually trigger it (which is a real problem because its hard not to think about it once it has happened once).
Don't give your bf/husband any whiskey before lovemaking.
He might get really chatty about sports and ruin the mood.