Most of the time is other men that make fun of guys that would do that.. like when Terry Crews said the was sexually assaulted and guys starting calling him a coward because he didn't fight the guy
The logic is faulty. Yes, two people should be able to just enjoy a movie, and you should just have fun withkutnexpectations and see where you both decide to go when dating. That said- what if XYZ really does mean that you aren’t very skilled at XYZ? Why does everyone think they have to be good at everything? Why does everyone think that if you aren’t able to be the most amazing lover and instantly hook anyone you want that’s the same as being a loser, and why can’t people accept that sometimes, in some ways, we all fall into the category of just not having a certain gift? No matter how bad you want it, it’s very unlikely that 99% of anyone reading this will ever win a nobel prize for physicsin their life. Boo hoo. Move on.
This comment gave me cancer again.
No but seriously, what on Earth is your point? I mean, I can read that we're not all perfect at every thing, but I don't see the relevance.
The point is that society has concepts like what makes a “man’s man” such as the example above. “A real man could close the deal before the movie ended!” A certain kind of man could, without resorting to sexual assault, but why does that matter? You don’t have to be that type of man. You may never be. People focus on redefining labels, and to an extent that’s a good thing. Toxic masculinity is real, and as much as we need to make it socially acceptable for women to be assertive or work technical fields, we need men to know it is ok to like to bake or to communicate emotions. But when you simply create a gender template to replace one you are just feeding a cycle where in the future, gender battles will need fought again by those rejecting what becomes the “new norm.” If you are a man you don’t have to be good at conforming to a social idea of masculinity. You should try to be a good and decent person above trying to excel at a gender role.
Where a standard exists, some people will always be excluded from meeting that standard. Instead of worrying if you match up to an arbitrary standard of conformity, worry about wether you are being a good person and living a good life, as well as facilitating the same for others. That was my point. That it’s stupid to try and “be good at being a man( or woman)” as what makes people good is fairly universal. In my book a “real man” sets the standard of being s man, by just being as they are, they don’t try to follow some media portrayal or some bullshit rules. They jut try to be good people, while trying to simultaneously achieve their goals without violating the first part. Forcing your will on others is not the mark of a good person. Forcing or coercing sex out of someone is not what any good person should do. The idea of masculinity as a tangible rule is just the desire to be “cool.” The idea of being a decent human being means not caring if it’s “cool” because it is right.
Movies only last 90 minutes. You can't wait? Sit thru both Sex and the City movies. If you are still able to take your honey to bed, then you're a man!
No but seriously, what on Earth is your point? I mean, I can read that we're not all perfect at every thing, but I don't see the relevance.