I just saw this one! It was when she had a big crush on him and he found out, so he made a pros and cons list for being with her vs. staying with his current girlfriend. One of Rachel's cons was she was, "just a waitress."
Taking a moment to take the situation too seriously...
Tbh I never found what he did to be that bad. Rachel's reasoning was "imagine the things you think the worst about yourself and the other person not only thinks them too, but uses them as reasons NOT to be with you." I get her logic, but there's a few things to consider on his end:
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-He was in another relationship
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-That relationship was the first serious relationship he'd had since his marriage ended-- likely the second serious relationship of his entire life. He and Julie were going to be living and getting a cat together.
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-This was the first relationship he'd felt had helped him get over his unhealthy crush on Rachel and start moving on and actually wanting her to be happy without him
Rachel was essentially expecting him to just drop all of that, say to hell with Julie, and run back to her, which would have been a pretty unhealthy, insane and insensitive thing to do on his part without actually considering what the consequences and faults of each decision were. Everyone weighs the pros and cons of serious choices. And at the end of the day, when he was making the list for Julie, the only fault he could come up with was "she's not Rachel." Meaning even if Julie was the perfect human being, she still wasn't comparable to Rachel in his eyes, despite all the potential "flaws" he found in Rachel. And she can't have honestly believed or expected him to view her as absolutely perfect from the get go
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Not saying it was the BEST choice he could have made to put it on hard copy (though that was mostly Chandler's idea), but still.
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Now, if you want to get into the whole "we were on a break" thing, that's a whole different matter...
I mean, possibly, though I meant more romantic relationship, and while Marcel did make the occasional aggressive sexual advance at anything in sight, I'm pretty sure Ross never reciprocated..
Tbh I never found what he did to be that bad. Rachel's reasoning was "imagine the things you think the worst about yourself and the other person not only thinks them too, but uses them as reasons NOT to be with you." I get her logic, but there's a few things to consider on his end:
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-He was in another relationship
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-That relationship was the first serious relationship he'd had since his marriage ended-- likely the second serious relationship of his entire life. He and Julie were going to be living and getting a cat together.
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-This was the first relationship he'd felt had helped him get over his unhealthy crush on Rachel and start moving on and actually wanting her to be happy without him
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Not saying it was the BEST choice he could have made to put it on hard copy (though that was mostly Chandler's idea), but still.
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Now, if you want to get into the whole "we were on a break" thing, that's a whole different matter...