In the store video you CLEARLY see his hands as he walks behind her and and NOT EVEN ONCE DID HE TOUCH HER!!
I hope her ass is ruined. I hope the internet give her life hell for that. He is a 9 yr old boy and she accused him of grabbing her flat ass. She is so ugly and gangly no one but a scarecrow would want her. And the video of her calling the cops people are right she is a pedophili
How absolutely horrible. It’s a classic instance of a basic human behavior of jumping to conclusions and then demanding retribution. This woman was possibly brushed by his bag/uniform if that. But assumed that he had groped her and quickly escalated to calling the police. Now people read it and largely without any real information on her, why she may have reacted that way, if she has past sexual trauma or mental illness that may contribute, are demanding blood from her or calling out racism. All of these things are or were possible if one makes a judgment in a moment, but we have more than a moment. We don’t need a trial by twitter because we have time to gather and process facts. She clearly over reacted, she clearly is wrong to have done that to a child and may have caused him lasting mental harm that could even damage his future sexuality from the experience. Even if he HAD groped her, it would be a teachable moment to gently educate a young man on why it is innaproproate to do that
But she blew up, now everyone else is blowing up, and you just end up with a mess over what could have been a small misunderstanding. She may or may not have a valid reason for her reaction- it doesn’t make it a right reaction and now we have a teachable moment for her and others- if we don’t turn it into a Lynch mob. No one learns anything from blind retribution. No future incidents are prevented or mitigated, and no wrongs done are made right. Maybe she’s just racist, or just a terrible human being. If so fuck her. But justice isn’t served when the perpetrator is punished. It is served when the victim is made as close to whole as possible and the public is protected.
I'm not sure she deserves to be burned at the stake every day for the rest of her life, but I do think she has earned a certain amount of backlash for her behaviour. Regardless of what she's been through, he's still a 9 year old child.
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The only remotely rational explanation I can think of for her wanting to call the police may have had to do with perhaps confronting the mother about her son supposedly "grabbing her ass," and the mother apparently "yelling at her" in response, and her perhaps feeling like nothing was going to be done to correct the inappropriate behaviour without escalation. Even so, I don't agree with her choices in this scenario at all.
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That said, can always rely on you to try and come in and temper the waters a bit. There's so many comments on here that are viciously attacking the woman's appearance like that has anything to do with anything (I'm sorry, what?)
I don't condone her behaviour or reaction even a little, but I was genuinely starting to worry no one would be able to address the situation at large without devolving into irrelevant pettiness, so once again have to thank you for your contribution to the conversation as a whole
Thank you. And I certainly agree that some backlash is deserved and required, to simply “forgive and forget” sets a standard of implied condoning of behavior. Not just for her but for others as well who see that there are no negative repercussions for such behavior. The danger of the modern age is that information travels fat and far, and is quite persistent. Let’s say she was having the worst day of her life, and some combination of circumstances, or mental issues all combined in that one regrettable incident. 10 years from now someone may well remeber her as “that lady” and it may cost her jobs and opportunities into the future. Millions of people can instantly judge an act who are far removed from it and all context, there is now essentially nowhere on earth where this can’t follow her. So there needs to be some backlash and some level of consequence yes. But we also must be mindful that the wrong moment of anyone of our lives could be captured and blow up like this, and we all....
.... have moments in life that taken out of context by millions of strangers could make us a media demon of the month and haunt us. It’s important to have the most concrete certainty of all the facts, to process them and allow the period of emotional outrage or reactionism to pass, and then to think on what one hopes to accomplish and if a course of action actually does that, or anything constructive, or if it is just a manifestation of our own issues or of darker human nature. To do otherwise is to be guilty of essentially the same crime, and then we need to be punished... and repeat. To be clear- that doesn’t mean a crack head cant tell a baby murderer they are messed up, or that we can’t punish people at all without being “bad.” It means the punishment must come from the right intentions and be thought out to be proportional to the crime.
I agree. That’s my initial judgment. I also suspect that diving deeper into the facts we would both be proven correct. But while being awful and angry isn’t ideal, it’s also not a crime worth having your life ruined over, and at some time or another most of us would be looked at by the outside world and judged as awful or angry. If I met myself as a teenager, I’d want to kick my own ass. But people who are awful and angry often have reasons they are that way. Those reasons don’t excuse their behavior, but being aware of them can help that person get past it, and help others deal with them. What will almost never help an awful and angry person become a better person is being hated and ostracized by the world. It reinforces their world view that “everyone else is horrible” and gives self validation to behave badly. It also drives horrible people to enclaves of other horrible people where they can reinforce each other’s beliefs because they are only “safe” around others like them.
One of the keys when dealing with people like this is to make it about the behavior and not the person. Making it personal makes them feel attacked and defensive. Making it about the behavior still shows them that acting a certain way isn’t tolerable, but allows a dialog. Asides that it is dangerous to judge a person off one snap shot in time, especially from a remote vantage. Even if your snap judgment turns out right- there was great risk of it being wrong and the person was never given a fair chance
@guest usually people like her have a reason to be so awful (although not justified) and she could either learn from this experience or be horrible and have an awful attitude to other people anyways
Ok, now I actually HAD a kid about the age grab my butt look at me and smile like, "What you going to do about it?" He went to fast and I was working or I would have maybe had a conversation with his parents but I would NEVER have thought about calling the police over something like that.
I wonder how many similar instances there have been, but no cameras to back up the person who "simply bumped into" the accuser, but then got caught in the #AlwaysBeliveTheWoman campaign.
I hope her ass is ruined. I hope the internet give her life hell for that. He is a 9 yr old boy and she accused him of grabbing her flat ass. She is so ugly and gangly no one but a scarecrow would want her. And the video of her calling the cops people are right she is a pedophili
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The only remotely rational explanation I can think of for her wanting to call the police may have had to do with perhaps confronting the mother about her son supposedly "grabbing her ass," and the mother apparently "yelling at her" in response, and her perhaps feeling like nothing was going to be done to correct the inappropriate behaviour without escalation. Even so, I don't agree with her choices in this scenario at all.
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That said, can always rely on you to try and come in and temper the waters a bit. There's so many comments on here that are viciously attacking the woman's appearance like that has anything to do with anything (I'm sorry, what?)
^ just fixing the tag. I think guest_ will probably check the comment chain anyway, but just in case