Maybe every parent should get to choose what behaviors and beliefs they instill in their children?
That's the beautiful thing about parenting, you get to try to mold a tiny, better version of you.
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The belief that everyone should share your visions of how people should present themselves is both selfish and naive. A parent who doesn't think their son should wear toe nail polish shouldn't be condemned and neither should the parent who encourages it. Acceptance is a two way street.
Ok but its just nail polish its not a big deal if a small boy wants to paint his nails and if a parents makes that child feel ashamed or bad for doing so they aren't being good parents.
Being a parent doesnt make you a genius, idiots can fuck too. There is nothing special or beautiful about being a parent, and if you believe because your a parent you have the "right" to basically program a child youre a shite person, a child should be raised with no other agenda other than being a good person
Ok, but I have to half back up @princessmonstertru in principal. A parent should t be condemned for not letting kids wear nail polish in my opinion. If I had a young daughter I likely wouldn’t let her wear makeup. At a certain point, not age, but point, I might let her wear makeup on special occasions or for things like Halloween. I’d adjust my style to the child of course, but I can’t see letting my little girl wear make up or nail polish until I felt she seemed she was mature enough to understand certain things. And it would be the same if I had a son. The idea makes sense. By the same token is it not ok for a parent to tell a child they can’t wear only a bra and underwear in public, or a shirt with controversial or provocatively offensive language or images? @derpderp I agree that parents shouldn’t “program” children- but a parent is supposed to guide and teach their children, and keep them safe. So there’s a difference between a parent who refuses to let a child wear nail polish...
... because of some practical based belief and a parent who refuses because they are trying to instill gender roles. So I think that princessmonstertru has a decent point in that we cannot automatically judge a person just because they choose to raise their children differently than we would raise ours. Not letting a young child experiment with nail polish is no different than not letting them use oil paints or get a piercing or play with goop. Maybe you don’t like the mess, maybe you’re concerned about the chemicals or maybe you have other reasons. Maybe you just don’t believe in piercings? Should we condemn people who don’t get children pierced or let them wear colored contacts or dye their hair? Part of being a parent is that you are an adult and they are a child. You raise them on your best judgment, not on their judgment or desires. So I don’t think it’s right if s parent says “you can’t do ____ because it’s for girls..” but a parent has every right to say “you can’t do this.”
There's a line between girl's stuff and boy's stuff. Indeed, there are some unisex stuffs. But some stuffs are clear enough what they're meant to used for. We all know it. Why keep denying it?
The only “line” between “girl stuff” and “boy stuff” is the line we make. Heels were designed for men. The color blue was for girls and pink was for boys once. Until WW1 long hair was considered in most places to be perfectly normal and socially acceptable for men. Men in most places used to wear clothing more like dresses or skirts. Then women wore clothing like that and men wore pants. Now women are accepted for wearing pants. It’s a long list- and it is always changing. Society decides what is and isn’t “girl stuff” or “boy stuff.” Its a self fulfilling truth that relies on the observer. There is no reason that most anything would be considered for boys or girls except we decided so. That which is decided for no practical reason can certainly be changed for no reason, and definitely should be changed for good reason.
What'll turn him gay is taking a dick up the ass; what'll make him comfortable being who he is, whoever that is, is being taught that its okay to like whatever you like.
@derpderp- I dunnoh. Dick up thenasd doesn’t always turn men gay. Sometimes they end up straighter than ever before after that. But in general, yeah- we don’t need to place our perceptions on our kids. They don’t need us to tell them what makes a “man” or “woman,” what makes “gay” or “straight.” Those things exist on a spectrum as is, with no one truly and completely exemplifying the concepts, and even the concepts themselves aren’t universal to all people. Kids need someone to teach them ideas about what it means to be a “good person,” and how to function and succeed in life, but not to hand down their own ideas of what the world those kids will live in after those adults are dead should look like.
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@xvarnah I thought it was the water and government! How is this possible?!!
That's the beautiful thing about parenting, you get to try to mold a tiny, better version of you.
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The belief that everyone should share your visions of how people should present themselves is both selfish and naive. A parent who doesn't think their son should wear toe nail polish shouldn't be condemned and neither should the parent who encourages it. Acceptance is a two way street.
Do you use it with your genitals?
No: It's for boys and girls.
Yes: It's not for children.