I’d record it for proof and then go to HR. People have double standards when it comes to me being sexually harassed. Then I’d post the video online.
If you get fired for reporting it, you can go to the Dept of Labor and call for an investigation.
The fact that the phrase "reverse sexual harassment" is used here is proof of the double standard prevalent in our society. Sexual harassment is sexual harassment, whether it is male-on-female, female-on-male, male-on-male, or female-on-female. Period, end of discussion.
Exactly what I thought. It makes me really sad that some people think that just because it's happening to a man that it's not considered sexual harassment
The fact that the term “reverse sexual harassment” being applied in a likely fake green text meme doesn’t prove anything beyond the likely intent of the OP to illicit that exact response. There IS a double standard in society, and we DO need to make sure that men and women are educated on what is and is not harassment, what to do about it, empower them to report it, and as a society not shame or diminish the victims, and take male reports as seriously and in the same light as female reports. Sadly there are people who do not believe that a man can be harassed or raped or assaulted, and others who think they can but should “man up” or by default would “enjoy it.” The proof of the double standard doesn’t exist because of one, likely fabricated or embellished meme however. It exists because we know and most will readily admit it exists. I know hands down that I have to work harder at being unbiased when a man tries to justify hitting a woman because of her violent behavior than when..
.. a woman does the same to a man. I know that if a woman slaps a man or pounds on his chest and arms furiously that I often think “what did this guy do?” Or “wow. She is really mad and making a scene...” I wouldn’t think that if I saw the opposite. I would, and have, gone over to let that man know that he doesn’t get to lay hands on that woman. But that’s not right is it? We all have social biases. But after the 1960’s it became very rare for people to admit that. People don’t come out and say “yeah- I’m sexist..” or “yeah- I’m racist...” they hide it inside and try to justify their bias actions through logic. Only the most extreme and obnoxious bigots tend to admit to their bigotry openly. I acknowledge that some of my ideas are rooted in old gender tropes like chivalry or the idea that one treats a lady with a certain dignity regardless of her actions as one can’t control of others have class, only themselves. But BECAUSE I’m conscious and admit my bias I can overcome my bias...
... and that’s the trick. It can take lifetimes or generations to overcome bias and deep held beliefs. Pretending we don’t have these biases isn’t constructive when we continue to allow them to motivate our actions and thoughts. So society is biased to believe men are stronger, tougher, and should be held to higher standards. The dark byproduct of traditional ideas of masculinity and gender roles. So it would seem that when we look at it- traditional gender roles and ideas not only paint women as weak and subjugate them- but also treat men as though they cannot he victims, that they cannot have vulnerabilities and that as “masters of destiny” that which befalls them is their own fault on in their strength as a man to fix themselves. So... men and women are hurt by these traditional gender ideas and maybe that means instead of playing sides against each other we need to agree to throw them away and create something healthier.
It seems to happen in waves . Rember the Tail Hook party that the Navy had ? Women being groped as they walked down the hallways, I am not sure if there were rape convictions or not. All military personnel serving at the time had to watch a film on sexual harassment . I understand that the behavior has to be stop but I was in a combat zone and had to stand down to watch it for like 3 hours. Put us in danger. I think the program could have waited for us to be Stateside. I guess it was big on the news , I was deployed and didn't find out about Tail Hook until the Joint Chiefs had egg on their face.
I do recall tailhook. There’s something to be said about it. Straight and bi men tend to enjoy women. The female form, energy, attention- not to compare men to animals- but those things can be like “treats” to men- and lines as well as behavior and mindstate can get a little skewed on deployment or when large groups of men are cooped up together for awhile. It doesn’t excuse the behavior- but what I’m saying is that while we can work to change things it’s not inherently bad that many men take a simple and fundamental pleasure from women. We just have to work on shifting a social perspective to one where that enjoyment can be had while respecting and not objectifying women without their consent. But it is waves for sure. We make 3 steps and slide one or two back, and repeat. I think we will get it right someday. Never perfect- but where we can mostly all agree things are tenable.
If you get fired for reporting it, you can go to the Dept of Labor and call for an investigation.