That’s a solid lady. May not be the lady for you- but I respect that. She’s got hustle and she knows what she wants and will get it. Whatever else one could say about her- I don’t know her obviously- I can say those positive Things.
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I would probably fall in love as soon as she pulled out the Yeti cup. I'm a bleeding heart though.
I'm really torn here because on the one hand I admire the hell out of people who have this kind of preparedness, even for fun stuff. But also I am concerned that @karlboll might be one to something.
Yeah. It’s possible she is. But... unpopular opinion... I personally wouldn’t want to date an alcoholic- but there are shades to the thing. Some people are “functional alcoholics.” They are “happy” drunks who don’t throw tantrums or get violent. They don’t miss work or obligations, they are just almost constantly buzzed. I know a few. And some people like to drink whenever they can. They aren’t strictly “alcoholics” but they like to drink a lot and to them it’s like candy crush or something. When they know they have down time and it won’t get in the way, they’ll drink every chance. I don’t really drink. MAYBE once or twice a year and I haven’t drank a lot at once- like to get drunk- since my 20’s. But some people love booze and are fun with booze- so I dont judge. If you can TCB and aren’t an emotional wreck or abusive when drinking- it’s whatever. But for health reasons I prefer a partner who doesn’t drink heavily and regularly.
I agree with the fact that it's a spectrum, but excessive drinking is never good for your health. Also, and addiction that hasn't ruined your life (still going to work, paying bills, ect) is still an addiction. I have a caffeine addiction and it doesn't affect my work or really have a strong impact on my social life, but also I get debilitating headaches if I don't drink enough coffee. I am an addict. Caffeine is a lot healthier than alcohol, so I'm not particularly interested in recovery, but I am mindful not to let it get worse as I know that WOULD start ruining my life
True. I don’t like the idea of being reliant on things. It’s bad enough I need air. I swallow my pills dry, when I take protein powder I don’t make shakes. I eat the scoops of power dry. It tastes gross either way. I shave without water, soap, or cream. As granny used to say: “if you were lost in the desert how would you shave if you didn’t have water?” I don’t use apps etc for things I can do myself with a little thought. I wash all my dishes myself and dislike dishwashers and microwaves. But.... that’s me. I dont judge others. I don’t like the idea of being a “slave” to a thing- but other people might not care....
If it isn’t stopping them from doing what they want to do or interfering in their personal relationships the next question is wether or not they want to stop and feel they “can’t,” or if they enjoy it and don’t want to stop at all. I’m not a fan of “saving people from themselves.” We can tell people risks, offer them help, discuss it if they are open to it- but I’m not about forcing people. It’s your liver your lungs your life. I think it’s important people understand what they are doing. That plastic surgery, drugs, food, riding motorcycles and climbing mountains and flying planes all have risks and pros and cons and what they are. But...
Barring freak accident or just running out the natural clock genetics and biology give us- we have some choice how we die. Your heart can fail, your other organs. You can fall or crash or be shot down or eaten by a wild animal as a consequence of your choices. And that’s ok. They were your choices to make. You can avoid BPA’s and grow your own food and do everything as “clean” as possible and get hit by a bus or have a heart attack on a walk at 35. You can smoke and drink and eat garbage and live fast and hard and make 80. Odds of a long life favor the former over the latter but you’re playing the odds no matter what. There is an element of chance. How we play that element and those odds separates the extraordinary from the average. The leaders of business and entertainment followed instinct and their judgment and made moves that weren’t “safe” and many would say would be failures. When the gamble pays off you are a visionary and when it doesn’t you’re seen as a moron or failure. .
Life is not so different. We either live the lives we want as best we can or we don’t. If your goal is to live to be 180, you have to do whatever you think will get you there. If your goal is to eat all your favorite foods all the time, be drunk as much as possible, spend time with loved ones, etc. you do that. Your number comes up sooner or later and most people either wish for death long before it takes them, or would never feel they’d finished everything and saw everything and would want more time. An extraordinary life is seldom one where a person doesn’t take risks. My personal philosophy is moderation in things. Every day can’t be all fun and games but there’s no reason we can’t fit as much fun into a things as we can- and what is fun for us all is a little different.
So I mean- if a person knows a thing has risks but decides that the reward is worth the risk, or that despite the risk that is how they want to live- it’s not my place to tell them otherwise. We all get one life and so far on record no one has lived a life that everyone else agrees is perfect to copy universally. So, we just have to decide how long we hope to live, how intense we want things to be, and what goals we want to reach, and live the way that lets us do that. Happiness is individual. I a person is happy and isn’t causing others problems or stopping them from being happy, I’m not super concerned what they want to do. We all die- it’s not my place to tell anyone else how to do it.
I definitely think @guest_ is on to something with his life and let live policy. I do think its important that this philosophy not prevent measures of public safety however. You are welcome to drink excessively if that's what you want, knowing the risks and given that you are of age, but you still cannot drink and drive because it puts other lives in danger.
Also @guest_ I am not trying to tell you how to live your life, however I am concerned about you remaining hydrated. For you health and well being I recommend getting plenty of water in your diet whether that be directly from water, from foods high in water, or other hydrating drinks (such as coffee, juice, tea, or milk; but not soda, alchohol, or anything too high in sugar) Do note that caffeine does dehydrate you, so if you choose to go the route of getting water from coffee/black tea you will need to keep this in mind. Coffee does still net hydrate most people, just be mindful.
@thekaylapup- agreed on setting limits on harming others or interfering with others rights to live their lives. And... lol. Thank you for your concern. I get my my daily water requirement and milk with meals, and a soda here or there. Is this because I said I don’t drink? Because I meant alcohol. Lol. I don’t drink coffee either.
She was probably served non-alcohol mojito at some point so she has to bring her own goodie now bc she doesn't trust people anymore.
It happened to me once, it was like 2 months ago but I never stop thinking about it.
My friend's mum was like that. My friend and I were at a Halloween celebration hosted by the city (halloween's not big where I am) and she brought out a coffee thing of wine to share with my parents.
Also @guest_ I am not trying to tell you how to live your life, however I am concerned about you remaining hydrated. For you health and well being I recommend getting plenty of water in your diet whether that be directly from water, from foods high in water, or other hydrating drinks (such as coffee, juice, tea, or milk; but not soda, alchohol, or anything too high in sugar) Do note that caffeine does dehydrate you, so if you choose to go the route of getting water from coffee/black tea you will need to keep this in mind. Coffee does still net hydrate most people, just be mindful.
It happened to me once, it was like 2 months ago but I never stop thinking about it.