And there are people with harder lives than them, and there are people with harder lives than them, and them...I think people should keep a lot of their complaints to themselves, but saying you shouldn't feel bad because someone has it worse is like saying you shouldn't feel good because someone has it better
I agree with the last part of what you say, and the very first. The middle I don’t. “Closed mouths don’t get fed.” If a bunch of people have the same problem and don’t talk about it- how do others know? Together they may be able to support each other or discuss solutions. On a larger level, we tend to dedicate resources to those problems which seem most pressing and/or far reaching. Communication is key to knowing what things politicians or communities should address. It’s also key to understanding the lives of others and their views on things.
Alright, when I said people should keep their complaints to themselves, I meant like, the barista taking too long or having a mildly rude customer at work. If a cougar bites your leg and half your penis off then by all means, complain away.
Yes!!!! @nicengelman I mean everyone has their own issues, ways to react etc etc...but it is so frustrating sometimes to hear people complain, actually complain, about not finding their favorite pumpkin flavored item in Trader Joe's, or like you said, having a slow barista ...while simultaneously receiving text from family telling me: "we don't have this or that to eat, nor power or water, but we are fine"
There is a certain irony in a discussion which we are entertaining complaints about how much it’s disliked when people complain. One could say that having to listen to the complaints of others is a trivial thing which we shouldn’t complain about too no? Perhaps there is room for introspection on the issue of complaints and their place in the human experience?
That's why I used the word frustrating. We don't know anyone's life. For example I hold a lot in and then I cried one day when I couldn't do a manicure.... but sometimes you do think like "geez I wish that was my. Iggest issie in life" when someone complains ofnstarbucks getting their name wrong or something
Some people would rather cope with life by letting out their smaller issues regularly than bottle it up and then let everything out in a huge outburst. Who are we to tell them that’s wrong? I mean what’s worse a person who complains for a minute a day or someone who has a grand outburst monthly for 10 minutes
I meant people that you know have no other complaint than just the nail salon and get angry and are nasty to personnel...meh I don't care for them. Some can be like me, they are really angry about something else, some people maybe are just nasty. Those I don't like
I suppose I could rephrase my post to say: “there is an irony in a discussion expressing our frustrations over people expressing their frustrations....” or whatever wording we want to use- it’s really semantics. But I’d rather deal with daily little gripes than rage black outs over forgetting pickles on a burger or whatever resentful or exaggerated behavior that can come from repressing emotions and frustrations. In a perfect world we might learn to not let certain things bother us which we don’t see much practical gain in being upset over- but that’s a distinction between not being bothered and being bothered but holding it in.
Agreed, my problem though is Specially with people that are nasty for no reason. Some or most are just how you said bothered by something bigger, but some people are really just. Nasty for no reason
I’m with you on that. Some people are just nasty people. Some are just negative people. Some wrap themselves up in whatever misery life gives them no matter how small and wallow in it. Some people allow small issues to ruin their entire day, week, life- and rob them and possibly any caught up on their wake from just moving on and enjoying what they can. But some complaining is healthy.
Perhaps there is no stable or quick route across the river