Imagine thinking about marriage and instead of thinking about "hey I love this person, I want to spend the rest of my life with them" you think about this shit
Loving the person and wanting to spend the rest of your life with them is fine but thinking that’s the only factor in deciding to marry is foolish. This person may not be dead-on but they do bring up valid concerns that people should think about before tying the knot. The solution isn’t particularly difficult, just discuss it ahead of time and set all the rules in a pre-nup. If one partner is uncomfortable with the idea then they are probably not ready for marriage.
Agreeing to conditions in the event of divorce is smart, but it wasn't really mentioned in the thingy. It just went against it because apparently men lose their agency when they get married. Maybe I'm naive but you should have already practiced some form of cohabitation with your partner before getting married, to test out if living together and the traditional concept of marriage is your thing. Honestly if you've already lived together marriage shouldn't be all that different. Unless i'm missing something that changes when you get married
Hey don't take the easy way! you have to demand a weapons duel where the conditions of losing are forfeiture of half of your assets and the training of the apprentice.
I like the duel idea. The thing that changes with marriage is time horizon. Things that worked year 2 can be burdensome in year 10. A pre-nup is smart because it doesn’t just protect your assets, it protects your friendship. Divorces are juvenile affairs that bring out the worst in people. If you love the person don’t set yourself up to be conditioned to hate them.
I don't object to a pre-nup, in fact I think it's a really smart thing to do for both parties. Not because you don't love or don't trust them but because you do trust them, they shouldn't fear something that they believe will never happen. However, I do think love should be the driving factor in a marriage. Obviously take precautions but regardless of the sex of the person you're marrying, they should never feel as if they're choosing to imprison themselves or 'losing their masculinity'.
Alright, I was going to say “Borrrrr-ing!” But I’ll try to be more patient. Here it is: U can replace ‘men’ with ‘women’ and it will be equally true (and be an equally valid or invalid point, however you see it).
This is a basic intro to gender perspectives “debate”. You can see the end from the beginning, and it’s very uninteresting. Unless you didn’t realize both women and men feel *exactly* the same about this? That would be interesting.
But otherwise, no; pointless. No one changes their mind going at it this way. All the data in the world won’t help because it’s beside the point. It’s always just a useless waste of breath because this idea framed from any direction doesn’t bring people closer or enhance anyone’s perspective. It serves no purpose except frustration.
(Unless you’re like me, where I passed frustration years ago but want to help people avoid an unnecessary stumbling block.)
A fully engaged response to this statement is at minimum four long paragraphs covering at least two different areas. Which is exactly my point! Look, much love and good vibes to you. I don’t disagree that this looks tempting, but it’s not productive. Just consider how you feel about my response to know that’s true! (Real talk? I think this is because this quote does such an amazingly poor framing job that it skews/ruins any discussion before it starts.) There are gender-related debates that generate genuine understanding. This isn’t one of them.
Well she isn’t wrong about saying that men getting married and then losing half or more of their stuff. Also moms have a massive advantage in custody battles
This is a basic intro to gender perspectives “debate”. You can see the end from the beginning, and it’s very uninteresting. Unless you didn’t realize both women and men feel *exactly* the same about this? That would be interesting.
But otherwise, no; pointless. No one changes their mind going at it this way. All the data in the world won’t help because it’s beside the point. It’s always just a useless waste of breath because this idea framed from any direction doesn’t bring people closer or enhance anyone’s perspective. It serves no purpose except frustration.
(Unless you’re like me, where I passed frustration years ago but want to help people avoid an unnecessary stumbling block.)