Well said. There are 3 main factors to address. 1. As you say- not everyone has “good” parents. Your parents might resent you, be sadists, not care about you. They may also care more about what is best for them, seeing you as free labor and eventually a retirement fund. 2. You might have amazing parents who love you more than anything- but don’t understand you or your ways. Perhaps you want to do amazing things and your parents are “down to earth” people; perhaps you are a sensitive or sentimental person and they are not, or vice versa. And so on.
Or perhaps they understand you but are just not very smart or very knowledgeable etc. How many people’s parents told them not to buy Facebook or amazon stocks? At least a few. How many “boomers” say things like: “keep your head down and nose clean. Work hard. Stay with the same company for your whole career and you’ll be rewarded...” or such? How many parents would give you dating or relationship advice that is woefully outdated? The fact is that your parents may want the best for you- but they don’t always know best. Times change. What works for them or what worked for them at your age might no longer work.
Sure- some things stay pretty constant. It’s a tight rope. Being older doesn’t mean you know everything or have secret wisdom but it also doesn’t mean you are completely out of touch and know nothing. Listen to your parents... sometimes. When it makes sense. When you trust their expertise. But blindly following anyone is usually a poor choice.
Tl:dr- as said- parents don’t always have your best interests in mind, and even when they do; they don’t always make the best choices or know what’s right for YOU in YOUR life. Better advice is LEARN from your parents. Let the hard lessons they learned guide you to the life you want to have.
@honeybumblebee exactly, people forget that some kids are raised in abusive households, and that "loving your parents cause they tried their hardest and want what's best for you" is dismissing your needs and subjecting you to further abuse.
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"bUt PaReNtS" is not a valid argument, and them keeping you fed and a roof above your head is the bare fucking minimum required of them.
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Like, "congrats, you didn't break the law, you want a medal for that?? Because you've done fuckall to help me become a person, you've invalidated and emotionally abused me, and gaslighted me into thinking I was the one being wrong and maladjusted and a shit child, making me question not only myself but others all the time, not knowing how to express gratitude because it never feels enough, not wanting gifts or kindness because it always comes with strings attached, but meanwhile, you, my parent, the one who was supposed to guide me, were pushing your own agenda. You can fuck right off with that bullshit."
I've been saving money every paycheck and I saved up enough to buy PSVR for Black Friday. Wouldn't have been able to purchase it safely if I hadn't saved up. Picking it up tomorrow morning.
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"bUt PaReNtS" is not a valid argument, and them keeping you fed and a roof above your head is the bare fucking minimum required of them.
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Like, "congrats, you didn't break the law, you want a medal for that?? Because you've done fuckall to help me become a person, you've invalidated and emotionally abused me, and gaslighted me into thinking I was the one being wrong and maladjusted and a shit child, making me question not only myself but others all the time, not knowing how to express gratitude because it never feels enough, not wanting gifts or kindness because it always comes with strings attached, but meanwhile, you, my parent, the one who was supposed to guide me, were pushing your own agenda. You can fuck right off with that bullshit."