I'm lonely
Not depressed, anxious, suicidal, or anywhere near as unfortunate as many people, even on this site
But I feel like my friends don't want to spend time with me
Several of them have stopped replying after a few texts or me asking to meet up, for example
I'm very intense
And I feel it may drive people away
Perhaps find a weekly thing you can do so that you have a set meetup with people like d&d or a book club or something. I've found its amazingly helpful to have that set thing because people can get so swept up in their lives and planning things or talking for long is getting harder and harder all the time.
And with d&d intenseness is good! Makes for a great character.
Find something that might play to your strengths and if it doesn't work out it's okay because the world is full of great stuff. I hope this helps a bit
Loneliness can be so fucking horrible and I really hope it gets better for you. Keep on keeping on
My mom died last night. My dad died in September of 2016.
And I cried so hard last night I am emotional numb.
She lost her year long battle with cancer.
It started all because some whore put an IUD in my mom after she gave birth to my youngest brother. Her 6th kid. And they didn't tell her. So it stayed in for 28 years.
It developed scares around it and they got cancerous. It spread thought her uterus. Than to her breast. And on January 1st she found out it reached her brain.
Yesterday morning she was rushed to the hospital and air lifted to Austin Texas because she had blood on the brain. They worked for 15 minutes but she was gone. Even if she lived she been a vegetable. Either way she would of been gone.
I live in California and this all happen in Texas. I had to sit by the phone and wait to see what happens. It was the hardest thing I've ever done even though I did nothing.
Worse part is now I will never know a thing about my brothers or rest of the family. My mom was the only one who ever called me. Who told me how every one was and I don't know if I will ever hear from my brothers again. All because I am the only girl and I never was part of their group. It was always the boys and me. They even all play an online game together but didn't even think to ask me.
If it wasn't for my husband and my kid or I would be alone.
My cat and dog already can tell I need them more. Our vet told me before I accidentally trained my cat to be a support animal. And he is right by my side ever since I got the first phone call.
So there I am right now.
I can't say anything useful but even through your comments I feel for you. I hope the "doctor" who put the IUD isn"t working anymore, that's so awful. I was going to say "stay strong" but as savage said, just give yourself some time to adjust.
Luckily the doctor who put it in not only retired but passed away. Even the hospital where it was put in is no longer a hospital it was torn down. So even if we wanted to sue there's no one to Sue. So there's that beliefs of person gone.
As for me I'm driving my husband crazy by forcing him to take me out of the house everyday because when I'm home all I can do is think and cry. But when I'm in public like in stores and stuff it's a lot easier to not focus on the fact that she's gone.
My family tends to make humor to make it easier to deal with loss. Me and my brothers actually talked and I'm about funeral arrangements and we were joking and said I guess Dad was sick and tired of spending Valentine's Day alone. And that maybe he was sick tired of dealing with my mom's parents so he's forced her to go up there to deal with them. Lol might be a little disrespectful to some people but not my family it's kind of a tradition
Good thing they're not practicing anymore.
It's great that you can take your mind off things, staying home and sulking would be unhealthy. Me and my dad have the same way of dealing with loss, we were making so much inappropriate jokes when his mother died... I lowkey thought that made her smile too.
One of my best friends messaged me last night that they had relapsed into self harming and this time, the only thing that made them stop was that they ran out of time else they'd of been discovered. I'm also not doing fantastic myself.
I'm dealing with something similar and holy shit is it hard... I'm so sorry for your pain and please make sure to look after yourself. Take that long shower, brush and floss, eat that chocolate you've really wanted to eat. Be kind to yourself @poison_kat because by gosh do you deserve it.
I'm afraid I don't have any advice on what to do about your friend... I have no idea either and I'm shit scared but we can get through this
I've really got a bit too much to say anything...
But to anyone reading this I hope that you're feeling alright. It's okay to be sad just be careful not to drown in it... and of you do need to drown just make sure you've someone who can tie a rope around your waist and keep you anchored until they need to pull you out
My girlfriend of 5 years decided she needed a break and some time away so we can grow separately as people. She said she’s felt this way for awhile but I felt completely blind sided. She told me she wants us to start over. I’m dying inside every day she’s not in my life. This is the hardest thing I have ever went through. My only hope is that she will come back soon
My mental health isn't really getting any better.
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One of my friends is suffering with her depression, and I'm worried for her, because she doesn't want to talk about it.
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My dysphoria's been pretty bad recently too. Everything just feels like I'm in a limbo, just stale and dull. I don't have enough money to do what I want, nor can I work to increase my funds.
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Also I've been getting a lot of headaches recently, despite not having any in probably over a year.
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Good news is that my mom is taking me more seriously when I tell her about my internal struggles, and she's started to use neutral pronouns towards me, at my request. It's taken a long time to get through to her.
I still blame myself for each and every mistake I've made in the past.
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I blame myself for my own trauma, and other people's actions, because I feel as though I deserved them.
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It's been peaceful for a while now, it's not what I'm used to. I always expect people to lash out at me. I always flinch at things, expecting punishment. Even when someone goes to shake my hand, I back away in fear.
My mom needs dental surgery and she's stressed about it as she needs to take pills every day for other health problems and she's afraid it would interfere. So her stress amplifies, she's forgotten to ask something to the dr (and the dr herself did not ask her any questions, I mean I get that we have a dr crisis in my country and she doesn't have that much time but geez, that's important to know these infos about your patient!!) Plus my mom only got yesterday the paper listing the possible side effects and she's freaking out; My dad is always half-listening while she needs someone to really be there for her. i'm trying my best, I've asked her to scan and send me the papers so I can carefully read and discuss them with her, but I just wish my whole ass family would be supportive, just for once, because they never are and she doesn't deserve to feel left on the side like that. And living in another town sucks, I can't see her as much as we'd need.
Not depressed, anxious, suicidal, or anywhere near as unfortunate as many people, even on this site
But I feel like my friends don't want to spend time with me
Several of them have stopped replying after a few texts or me asking to meet up, for example
I'm very intense
And I feel it may drive people away
And with d&d intenseness is good! Makes for a great character.
Find something that might play to your strengths and if it doesn't work out it's okay because the world is full of great stuff. I hope this helps a bit
Loneliness can be so fucking horrible and I really hope it gets better for you. Keep on keeping on
And I cried so hard last night I am emotional numb.
She lost her year long battle with cancer.
It started all because some whore put an IUD in my mom after she gave birth to my youngest brother. Her 6th kid. And they didn't tell her. So it stayed in for 28 years.
It developed scares around it and they got cancerous. It spread thought her uterus. Than to her breast. And on January 1st she found out it reached her brain.
Yesterday morning she was rushed to the hospital and air lifted to Austin Texas because she had blood on the brain. They worked for 15 minutes but she was gone. Even if she lived she been a vegetable. Either way she would of been gone.
I live in California and this all happen in Texas. I had to sit by the phone and wait to see what happens. It was the hardest thing I've ever done even though I did nothing.
If it wasn't for my husband and my kid or I would be alone.
My cat and dog already can tell I need them more. Our vet told me before I accidentally trained my cat to be a support animal. And he is right by my side ever since I got the first phone call.
So there I am right now.
That's tough
Really tough
Be praying for you
Give yourself grace and look after yourself... I can't begin to imagine how hard that must be
As for me I'm driving my husband crazy by forcing him to take me out of the house everyday because when I'm home all I can do is think and cry. But when I'm in public like in stores and stuff it's a lot easier to not focus on the fact that she's gone.
My family tends to make humor to make it easier to deal with loss. Me and my brothers actually talked and I'm about funeral arrangements and we were joking and said I guess Dad was sick and tired of spending Valentine's Day alone. And that maybe he was sick tired of dealing with my mom's parents so he's forced her to go up there to deal with them. Lol might be a little disrespectful to some people but not my family it's kind of a tradition
It's great that you can take your mind off things, staying home and sulking would be unhealthy. Me and my dad have the same way of dealing with loss, we were making so much inappropriate jokes when his mother died... I lowkey thought that made her smile too.
I'm afraid I don't have any advice on what to do about your friend... I have no idea either and I'm shit scared but we can get through this
But to anyone reading this I hope that you're feeling alright. It's okay to be sad just be careful not to drown in it... and of you do need to drown just make sure you've someone who can tie a rope around your waist and keep you anchored until they need to pull you out
.
One of my friends is suffering with her depression, and I'm worried for her, because she doesn't want to talk about it.
.
My dysphoria's been pretty bad recently too. Everything just feels like I'm in a limbo, just stale and dull. I don't have enough money to do what I want, nor can I work to increase my funds.
.
Also I've been getting a lot of headaches recently, despite not having any in probably over a year.
.
Good news is that my mom is taking me more seriously when I tell her about my internal struggles, and she's started to use neutral pronouns towards me, at my request. It's taken a long time to get through to her.
.
I blame myself for my own trauma, and other people's actions, because I feel as though I deserved them.
.
It's been peaceful for a while now, it's not what I'm used to. I always expect people to lash out at me. I always flinch at things, expecting punishment. Even when someone goes to shake my hand, I back away in fear.