I have to agree that you were not treated disrespectfully in either case. If you don't want to be in a gender-neutral bathroom situation then don't use a gender-neutral bathroom.
I've been in gender neutral bathrooms before I've seen men and women share them. The is 2 kinds of gender-neutral bathrooms. There is the kind that looks kind of like a woman's bathroom with nothing but stalls and sinks and the urinals are actually in stalls and then there is a single bathroom that men or women can use and they will have urinals and toilets in them. If she's trying to say that she was in the gender-neutral bathroom that happened to be a single bathroom and then walk in 2 men I can understand her being upset. But if it was a normal gender-neutral bathroom with multiple stalls then she needs to understand what gender neutral means.
But truthfully what she saying kind of sounds like it was a single bathroom that was gender-neutral and 2 guys walked in while she was washing her hands and the guy was like oh no there's actually someone in here I better step out while the other one was like it's gender-neutral screw it she knew what she was going to see if she was in here.
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I've always been in single bathrooms that have locks on the door. Well, when you say single bathroom imagine a normal bathroom where you open it and there's the toilet and seat I've never seen a public bathroom with a single stall
I have actually. Our local Walmart has a gender neutral bathroom that is one room with a single stall and a urinal.
And when I worked as a teen in a Whataburger they had one stall in both bathrooms.
There’s a nuance to this- Man #1 didn’t technically do anything “wrong,” it’s a gender neutral bathroom. Man #2 also didn’t do anything wrong, and there is no reason not to look kindly on him. Take gender out of the equation. This example is from a male experience so if you don’t have a penis you might not specifically relate but can maybe empathize:
Employ bathroom. 3 urinals in a row. You’re standing at the farthest right urinal. A guy comes in, stands at the urinal right next to you. Many people won’t care or mind at all. It’s a men’s room; it’s a urinal. It was empty. BUT- general “etiquette” says the guy should have gone to the furthest urinal on the left so there was space between you. Because many people do either have “shy bladder” or personal space issues or otherwise feel uncomfortable peeing next to someone.
It’s considerate. Nothing about “equality” precludes being considerate or thoughtful- and genders being “equal” doesn’t have to mean that men and women aren’t considerate of each other and out differences. No matter how “equal” we are- men and women aren’t identical- the term “equality” gets confused for “equivalency” or some form of isometric relation of the sexes. We aren’t identical but separate iterations of an informationally identical until and shouldn’t seek to treat people that way.
But truthfully what she saying kind of sounds like it was a single bathroom that was gender-neutral and 2 guys walked in while she was washing her hands and the guy was like oh no there's actually someone in here I better step out while the other one was like it's gender-neutral screw it she knew what she was going to see if she was in here.
And when I worked as a teen in a Whataburger they had one stall in both bathrooms.