All good life skills surely. Optimally, trust must be given in order to “teach” otherwise You are “managing them” not “teaching them.” Trust must be given because as adults- we are really mostly at the mercy of our own self discipline. You can teach self discipline- but in part that requires you to allow the possibility and consequences of acting in ways that aren’t what you desire. Being strict with routines can be useful- forming habits and patterns- but enforcing that discipline has to come from a place where the consequences aren’t JUST from YOU but so the child can see that there is a natural consequence to their actions and learn to trust that you tell them things for a reason.
Yes. I grew up in a pretty strict house and it worked for me because I am a goodie-two-shoes that never would have dared to "rebel." BUT I've learned as I've gotten older that a lot about parenting should be about teaching your kids to make the right decisions, not enforcing the decisions on them.
To this day if I have not been given the permission to do something related to other people/new places I won't and I feel like I'm always disrupting people. It was a very shitty "skill" and I'm trying to get rid of it because it just makes me seem like a bumbling fuck at work.
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