Lmao

Where hormones are concerned- and sometimes chemicals that can alter judgment or extreme emotional factors- a single indiscretion such as that can all but ruin a persons life for the next quarter of a generation. That is to say: the list Md the laws do not really factor in the difference between a first offense where repeat offense is unlikely, or habitual behaviors and behaviors that are part of a pattern that indicates escalation or further infraction.

I know- cry me a river for the poor sex offenders. To be honest- I once figured we might as well lock them up for life or put them to execution on a first offense. But- through various circumstances I have come to meet several convicted sex offenders as I grew older. I met a man who did what I describe above- going through a rough divorce and contemplating suicide- he went to a popular chat room at the time.

There was a show where a doctor was an expert witness on a rape case. The prosecutor later says his points were invalid, and he had no right to speak, because the doctor himself was a sex offender. He was imprisoned for “molesting a child.” The defense, who called on him for his expertise, asked him how his case ultimately panned out. He said, “I was released early due to a petition by the victim and her family. We are married now, and have children of our own.”
Conclusion: What happened to you was a travesty, and 100% fucked. Not everything is so black and white though

BUT....do you wanna build a snowman?

@boiled_children- I’m sorry you had to go through one of the most vile and despicable things a human can do to another. So far- no one here has said to have pity or mercy on rapists. Your post illustrates part of the problem often highlighted with sexual offenders.

Oooh. Good take. I guess a public registry would be more like a tool departments used to track officers as they approached that line- between isolated and minor infraction and when those infractions added up to sum total warranting dismissal and/or discipline/legal action. It would allow the public to verify that departments were being accountable to any standards set forth on the matter- if a private citizen saw an officers jacket and believed that it was sufficient to warrant action that hadn’t been taken for example- it would allow the public to call for a review of that officer who may have “slipped trough the cracks,” been given a “quiet pass” by admins, or where the department and community standards for officers weren’t aligned it would allow calibration.

So less a tool to say: “watch out for this cop...” and more a tool for the police to track and compare officers- and allow the public to see that is actually occurring and that the system is working to police itself appropriately.

Of course- no such system is perfect or without need for caution. Those with little or no subject matter expertise overseeing those with expertise is often itself a recipe for disaster. Likewise- steps would be needed to prevent abuse by the public. Seeing an officer is “one complaint away” from a suspension or losing their badge- a person might use that as leverage in a way that would prevent an officer from doing their job- or use a complaint as a form of retaliation against an officer who did their job professionally and correctly. That’s why body cams are so important as is leaving the actual review to experts but giving citizens a window into the process to call out when they think they see incompetence or corruption.

And maybe we just need to start being more honest. People don’t like the truth often times. No one wants to hear a president or leader say: “yeah. I just- I really don’t know. I’m flying by the seat of my pants here- but I’m going to do my best..” people don’t want to hear “Well- yeah he’s an asshole- but a lot of our guys are. If we fire the assholes, we can’t do our jobs. The union would have a field day- and it’s going to cause lawlessness and a huge cost to tax payers... trust me. I’d fire half these guys tomorrow if I could...”