Why has it become a "thing" to have low self esteem.
Just gotta note: working out will make you more attractive no matter what (to an extent, you understand). Healthier body = healthier appearance.
You can still learn how to socialize in your 20s and 30s.
Get a career, yeah.
I can actually attest to the workout thing. My self esteem got better when I started exercising more. Doesn't have to be anything difficult or costly, just 50 situps after waking up and before going to bed
Plus it'll just make you happier all around. Achieving goals = endorphins released... this shit ain't rocket science; if you spiraled down, that only means it's possible to spiral up.
1. As long as you aren’t In a condition of cognitive decline- you can always learn new things. Age, or more specifically loss of plasticity of the brain can make it harder to learn- but you can learn. AND- even if you can’t- there are people who have compatible social skills to whatever yours are. So learn skills or find someone who wants what you have- saying that poor social skills dooms you isn’t social skills- it’s being lazy most of the time.
2. Appearance- genetics sure does play a role in appearance. Some people just can’t have what they see in someone else as the “ideal body.” But Orlando Bloom and the Rock and Justin Long; Sandra Bullock and Aubrey Plaza and Natalie Portman and Michelle Rodriguez all have very different bodies and all have been mainstream heart throbs. And if you have problems with those examples- you’ll find plenty of different looks for “hotties” in mainstream and adult films.
On top of that- you’ve got biological men who can pass as extremely attractive women and vice versa- the same Charlize Theron who’s been named in countless “sexiest woman” lists is the same woman from Monster. The same Christian Bale that was sexy Batman was the machinist. The same celebrities who get interviewed for looking amazing are the same ones looking busted in tabloid candids. So even without surgery, without drugs and personal medical staff- just go on you tube or google it- make up and the right clothes can transform a person into a red carpet stunner, a different gender, or even a space alien. Your genetics can help you look good easier- but if we can pull off those extreme transformations listed above- there is no reason that most people’s genetics are any excuse or real crutch to presenting their most attractive side they want to showcase.
And lastly- there is no “loser gene” that we’ve found. The best advice to those who think of themselves as, or are constantly called losers- you probably aren’t a loser. At worst you just need to stop making loser choices and at best you need to spend time around people who can appreciate all the great things about you and recognize your value.
If you’re young and or trying to get your life going- you aren’t a loser because you don’t have this or that. It isn’t where you start- it’s where you finish. Bill Gates would probably be doing alright if he never started Microsoft- but he wouldn’t be the Bill Gates the world knows. And even if you start with nothing and end up with modest success- plenty of people respect and appreciate a person who works hard for what they have even if they aren’t in the top 5% or 50% or whatever in the world.
The other thing you have to realize is that lots of people labeled “loser” aren’t losers. They make loser choices. Being responsible, having goals and working towards them, respecting yourself and others- these things generally aren’t complicated. At worst one just has to imitate the behaviors of someone who seems to have things together and learn as they go what works for them and what doesn’t. But it can be hard. It can take effort and work. And often- people who say they can’t- really mean that they won’t bother to.
Tl:dr- we can turn humans into space aliens and one look in the tabloids will show you the “worlds most beautiful people” looking just as busted as anyone else. Genetics helps but isn’t an excuse. You can always learn until you’re mind starts to go. Being a loser is usually the perceptions of others or poor choices. Find better people and or stop making bad choices. usually if you sort one of these things out the others naturally get sorted in the process. But unless you have clinical depression or some other condition- saying you “can’t” make social connections or attract other people because of your genetics or because you’re a “loser” or etc- that’s just being lazy. That isn’t can’t. That is won’t put in the effort to do what needs done. Almost anyone CAN make friends and find romance. In fact- finding someone compatible is a bigger challenge and more important than just finding anyone who will say yes.
just *FUN* to be around. *ughhh*
Just gotta note: working out will make you more attractive no matter what (to an extent, you understand). Healthier body = healthier appearance.
You can still learn how to socialize in your 20s and 30s.
Get a career, yeah.
2. Appearance- genetics sure does play a role in appearance. Some people just can’t have what they see in someone else as the “ideal body.” But Orlando Bloom and the Rock and Justin Long; Sandra Bullock and Aubrey Plaza and Natalie Portman and Michelle Rodriguez all have very different bodies and all have been mainstream heart throbs. And if you have problems with those examples- you’ll find plenty of different looks for “hotties” in mainstream and adult films.