For those who think respect is earned not given
That is honestly the worse policy
So what do you walk up to every one and say fuck you cunt till they say o pardon me I am so sorry and than you give respect???
I believe give respect to everyone on first meeting. We first meet And you ask me to do something I answer with sure let me get that.
Than it is up to the other person if my respect for them should go up or down.
Show me you deserve respect and I will give you my deepest respect. You ask me to do something I will answer with Yes sir/ma’am.
If you show me that you are a piece of shit person who doesn’t deserve to lick my boots.
You ask me to do something I will answer with WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU WANT?? NO NO GET IT YOURSELF!!!
That is how respect should work.
You say it’s the worst policy but then continue literally describe what I think is the definition of ‘respect is earned not given’ .. It doesn’t mean disrespect those until they’ve proven worthy of otherwise...
No see I mean those people who start off being disrespecting pieces of shit and expect people to go O I must earn their respect than they be nice.
Like my niece who honestly is a piece of shit person.
She is now in her early 20s has 2 kids and legit acts like this.
She gotten her twin cousins drunk when they were 8 she purposely got pregnant at 15 because her bf was from another country and wanted to have him stay which ended up giving him depression and he killed himself because he couldn’t decide to either leave his family behind and stay in USA for his kid or leave his kid to go back home to his family. She TRICKED him into getting her pregnant.
She has 2nd kid with a great guy but she tried to make him adopt her first so he had to pay child support for both and than she slept with her drug dealer so he left her. Now she has 2 kids no job calls her sister fat ugly loser who turned gay because no guy fuck her (yes she actually said this to her face)
Than has the balls to post on Facebook every kid needs their daddy.
So her excuse for being a bitch to every one is YOU EARN RESPECT
Bitch your respect went out the window years ago!
My brother disowned her and only show up for his grandkids.
Sorry I just argued with her this morning for calling her sister that after she came out just last week.
Sounds like she's an absolutely horrible person but also like a total outlier case and I don't think you can use her as an example of people who say "respect is earned not given". Tbh it sounds like she doesn't respect anyone, period. Your example of walking up to someone and being a dick to them is not a good representation of what the concept means imo.
I also think respect is earned not given but I'd never disrespect anyone to their face. In fact my 'default' setting is to be nice to people unless they show me they deserve to be treated otherwise. That said I don't think every old person is worthy of respect, and by respect I mean venerated treatment or special treatment, I don't mean basic courtesy and politeness because as I said that's pretty much my default setting.
The idea used to be that anyone who reaches old age must be a badass to survive in a tough world. But nowadays with modern medicine and with today's lifestyle, any stupid asshole can grow old, and many indeed do. So no I don't think I should give extra respect to every old person, some of them are cunts who think their age means they get special treatment, so they skip lines, take up two seats on a bus and are rude to young people for the most minor stuff. Seriously, I've seen so many old people harass and insult kids for literally just standing there, waiting for the bus. I've seen an old woman demand that a young woman give up her seat, and when she DARED say there are plenty of seats left (the tram was like 20% full), the old woman said "NO I WANT THAT SEAT" and went on a tirade about disrespectful young people, and many other examples. So yeah, nowadays every asshole can grow old, so I won't give them extra respect by default. As I said before though, basic courtesy still applies.
I agree not every person deserves respect but what I am getting at is the saying is often miss used and my niece is just one example I have met many in my life who quoted this saying to excuse their bitchy attitude to others.
I had one teacher my daughter had SERIOUSLY said this to me after I told her about my kid no longer going to her class. She said SHE WILL BE IN MY CLASS WHEN SCHOOL GOES BACK TO CLASS “my first name”!
I said EXCUSE ME BUT I AM NOT A STUDENT IN YOUR CLASS YOU CALL ME BY MY LAST NAME AND MRS! YOU NEED TO SHOW RESPECT TO YOUR STUDENTS AND YOUR STUDENTS PARENTS!
She said RESPECT IS EARNED NOT GIVEN!!
Ha ha ha NOW SEE HERE BITCH...
Yeah she thought she had the last laugh but I did because I formed a full complaint about her and she was fired. She even lost her 10yr over it lmfao
Uhhhh hate to break it to ya but that sounds like you were a total Karen in that situation. It's really petty and mean-spirited to laugh at her losing her job over her calling you by your first name too. Such a small thing to lose your livelihood over. If she was a bad teacher and that led to both you pulling your kid out of her class and subsequently her getting fired, that's one thing, and of course I don't have all the details so I can't really make a judgment. But the way you're telling it, having someone fired just over such a petty dispute... oof. I feel bad for her, and I really don't think you should be laughing at this. I don't blame anyone for losing their temper at a Karen.
I'd honestly rather be told something mean to my face and be able to talk it out than have the person immediately run to my boss and demand they fire me. Talk it out like equals instead of whining to the person in power, y'know?
See I wasn’t a Karen I was a Mama Bear.
And she didn’t lose her job over calling me by my first name no see she lost her job from berating her students and my daughter day after day she cussed at them called them “A bunch of fucking idiots” many tines. She also called my kid clingy and deprived after I told my kid maybe she just doesn’t know the real you try being friendly with her. THE BITCH SAID MY KID WAS SUICIDAL DUE TO IT!!!! We was forced to take her to a therapist and they said they see nothing the teacher said they loved our kid.
The last straw was week before school closed for COVID we took a trip to Disneyland. At that time covid wasn’t even here in California yet. We went to help get over the lose of my mom to brain cancer.
While we were gone she told the class to tell my kid how to clean her self because she THE FUCKING TEACHER didn’t want COVID from her! Implying my kid already had it.
Her first day back all her friends hug her say they miss her.
Her first class is with bitch! First fucking thing she says to my kid first fucking thing DONT STAND CLOSE TO ME I DONT WANT COVID!!!
She didn’t say that to a single other kid.
My kid is in jr high so of course the kids treating her like she has it covering their mouth holding their breath near her saying 6 ft covid!
So she cried so hard she couldn’t stop. We had to go get her.
So after all that I let it all out about her and i said I’m bring it to district office. I’m a teacher sub in that district and know a lot of people high up.
The principal changed my kid out her class.
And that is when after a week of online class the bitch calls saying my kids been absent.
I say no because you don’t teach her any more she says YES I WILL WHEN WE GO BACK TO SCHOOL! I LAUGH AND SAY YOU SERIOUS WE ARNT GOING BACK TILL A YEAR AWAY AND SHE STILL WONT BE IN YOUR CLASS
Than she said it!
She said SHE WILL BE IN MY CLASS WHEN SCHOOL GOES BACK TO CLASS “my first name”!
I said EXCUSE ME BUT I AM NOT A STUDENT IN YOUR CLASS YOU CALL ME BY MY LAST NAME AND MRS! YOU NEED TO SHOW RESPECT TO YOUR STUDENTS AND YOUR STUDENTS PARENTS!
She said RESPECT IS EARNED NOT GIVEN!!
Ha ha ha NOW SEE HERE BITCH I TOLD THE HEAD OFFICE ABOUT YOU THATS RIGHT IM A TEACHER SUB IM NOT JUST SOME NOBODY MOM YOU CAN PUSH OVER LIKE YOU DO WITH THE KIDS IN YOUR CLASS TRUST ME WHEN I GET DONE WITH YOU YOU WILL BE LUCKY TO TEACH DOGS!!
Than I hung up the phone.
So yeah not Karen I’m a Mama Bear the size of a mountain
That bitch should never EVER EVER teach kids!!! Not now not EVER!!! She needed to be fired! And it wasnt just my kid she was like this no if you was Hispanic that racist bitch would say racist shit to your face and laugh because she thought they couldn’t do anything about it she considered all Hispanics illegals so they couldn’t rock the boat.
But when the kids said she looked like that Asian doctor who pops pimples for a living she called them racist. Saying she is Korean and the doctor is Chinese. She made all the kids stay 10 minutes after school even the bus kids making them miss the bus.
Okay, yeah that sounds like a horrible teacher. Sorry for the confusion, your previous comment made it sound like you got her fired for the name thing but it's clear there was a lot of bad shit from her already and it's good she's nowhere near your kid (or hopefully any kids) now.
Yeah I was trying my best to be short so it isn’t a long ass comment lol you see what I mean.
if it was just she called me by my first name I wouldn’t of cared. I would of let it pass. But she was already acting as if she OWNED my kid so her calling me by my first name and not even adding Mrs just thrusted my Mama bear to ultra attack mode.
I will work will people and try to work things out never going Karen unless need to and even when I do I treat the person who is working with me with respect. It’s more of sorry I seem angry this isn’t at you you are doing great it’s just your company. Thank you for working with me on this but I see this is all you can do can you please call a manger over.
I even mention how great a help the person was. I say sorry for seeming to go Karen.
But if the person “helping me” gives me attitude than MAMA BEAR NAMED KAREN appears lol
My normal mama bear isn’t a Karen she is a justice warrior lol
Karen Bear is out for blood from those who done wrong!
I see. Yeah, we're definitely on the same page here. If a company does something wrong, the last thing I'd do is yell at an employee who had nothing to do with it. Customer service/retail workers are mostly underpaid and overworked/overstressed as it is so I wouldn't want to add to that.
I don't have kids but I understand that sometimes motherly instinct just kicks in, so going full mama bear if someone's being an asshole to your kid, well it's just something you gotta do sometimes.
People should be measured on how they handle authority before given any position that allows them the authority over any type of people. If you’re selective about how you treat people, don’t get a job working with people. It’s pretty basic.
That's an interesting idea, it's true that people handle authority very differently. Some are fine, some turn into horrible dictators, and it'd be good to find that out about people before giving them a position of power. But I'm curious, what do you mean by measuring it though? How would we do it? Like a Stanford Prison Experiment kind of scenario?
That is honestly the worse policy
So what do you walk up to every one and say fuck you cunt till they say o pardon me I am so sorry and than you give respect???
I believe give respect to everyone on first meeting. We first meet And you ask me to do something I answer with sure let me get that.
Than it is up to the other person if my respect for them should go up or down.
Show me you deserve respect and I will give you my deepest respect. You ask me to do something I will answer with Yes sir/ma’am.
If you show me that you are a piece of shit person who doesn’t deserve to lick my boots.
You ask me to do something I will answer with WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU WANT?? NO NO GET IT YOURSELF!!!
That is how respect should work.
Like my niece who honestly is a piece of shit person.
She is now in her early 20s has 2 kids and legit acts like this.
She gotten her twin cousins drunk when they were 8 she purposely got pregnant at 15 because her bf was from another country and wanted to have him stay which ended up giving him depression and he killed himself because he couldn’t decide to either leave his family behind and stay in USA for his kid or leave his kid to go back home to his family. She TRICKED him into getting her pregnant.
She has 2nd kid with a great guy but she tried to make him adopt her first so he had to pay child support for both and than she slept with her drug dealer so he left her. Now she has 2 kids no job calls her sister fat ugly loser who turned gay because no guy fuck her (yes she actually said this to her face)
So her excuse for being a bitch to every one is YOU EARN RESPECT
Bitch your respect went out the window years ago!
My brother disowned her and only show up for his grandkids.
Sorry I just argued with her this morning for calling her sister that after she came out just last week.
I also think respect is earned not given but I'd never disrespect anyone to their face. In fact my 'default' setting is to be nice to people unless they show me they deserve to be treated otherwise. That said I don't think every old person is worthy of respect, and by respect I mean venerated treatment or special treatment, I don't mean basic courtesy and politeness because as I said that's pretty much my default setting.
I had one teacher my daughter had SERIOUSLY said this to me after I told her about my kid no longer going to her class. She said SHE WILL BE IN MY CLASS WHEN SCHOOL GOES BACK TO CLASS “my first name”!
I said EXCUSE ME BUT I AM NOT A STUDENT IN YOUR CLASS YOU CALL ME BY MY LAST NAME AND MRS! YOU NEED TO SHOW RESPECT TO YOUR STUDENTS AND YOUR STUDENTS PARENTS!
She said RESPECT IS EARNED NOT GIVEN!!
Ha ha ha NOW SEE HERE BITCH...
Yeah she thought she had the last laugh but I did because I formed a full complaint about her and she was fired. She even lost her 10yr over it lmfao
I'd honestly rather be told something mean to my face and be able to talk it out than have the person immediately run to my boss and demand they fire me. Talk it out like equals instead of whining to the person in power, y'know?
And she didn’t lose her job over calling me by my first name no see she lost her job from berating her students and my daughter day after day she cussed at them called them “A bunch of fucking idiots” many tines. She also called my kid clingy and deprived after I told my kid maybe she just doesn’t know the real you try being friendly with her. THE BITCH SAID MY KID WAS SUICIDAL DUE TO IT!!!! We was forced to take her to a therapist and they said they see nothing the teacher said they loved our kid.
The last straw was week before school closed for COVID we took a trip to Disneyland. At that time covid wasn’t even here in California yet. We went to help get over the lose of my mom to brain cancer.
While we were gone she told the class to tell my kid how to clean her self because she THE FUCKING TEACHER didn’t want COVID from her! Implying my kid already had it.
Her first day back all her friends hug her say they miss her.
She didn’t say that to a single other kid.
My kid is in jr high so of course the kids treating her like she has it covering their mouth holding their breath near her saying 6 ft covid!
So she cried so hard she couldn’t stop. We had to go get her.
So after all that I let it all out about her and i said I’m bring it to district office. I’m a teacher sub in that district and know a lot of people high up.
The principal changed my kid out her class.
And that is when after a week of online class the bitch calls saying my kids been absent.
I say no because you don’t teach her any more she says YES I WILL WHEN WE GO BACK TO SCHOOL! I LAUGH AND SAY YOU SERIOUS WE ARNT GOING BACK TILL A YEAR AWAY AND SHE STILL WONT BE IN YOUR CLASS
Than she said it!
I said EXCUSE ME BUT I AM NOT A STUDENT IN YOUR CLASS YOU CALL ME BY MY LAST NAME AND MRS! YOU NEED TO SHOW RESPECT TO YOUR STUDENTS AND YOUR STUDENTS PARENTS!
She said RESPECT IS EARNED NOT GIVEN!!
Ha ha ha NOW SEE HERE BITCH I TOLD THE HEAD OFFICE ABOUT YOU THATS RIGHT IM A TEACHER SUB IM NOT JUST SOME NOBODY MOM YOU CAN PUSH OVER LIKE YOU DO WITH THE KIDS IN YOUR CLASS TRUST ME WHEN I GET DONE WITH YOU YOU WILL BE LUCKY TO TEACH DOGS!!
Than I hung up the phone.
So yeah not Karen I’m a Mama Bear the size of a mountain
But when the kids said she looked like that Asian doctor who pops pimples for a living she called them racist. Saying she is Korean and the doctor is Chinese. She made all the kids stay 10 minutes after school even the bus kids making them miss the bus.
if it was just she called me by my first name I wouldn’t of cared. I would of let it pass. But she was already acting as if she OWNED my kid so her calling me by my first name and not even adding Mrs just thrusted my Mama bear to ultra attack mode.
I will work will people and try to work things out never going Karen unless need to and even when I do I treat the person who is working with me with respect. It’s more of sorry I seem angry this isn’t at you you are doing great it’s just your company. Thank you for working with me on this but I see this is all you can do can you please call a manger over.
I even mention how great a help the person was. I say sorry for seeming to go Karen.
But if the person “helping me” gives me attitude than MAMA BEAR NAMED KAREN appears lol
My normal mama bear isn’t a Karen she is a justice warrior lol
Karen Bear is out for blood from those who done wrong!
I don't have kids but I understand that sometimes motherly instinct just kicks in, so going full mama bear if someone's being an asshole to your kid, well it's just something you gotta do sometimes.