I wish more people were able to admit they don't actually want kids, and take the responsible steps to not have them. And for god's sake don't have kids with someone just because they want them and you want to be with them, that's not a foundation for a relationship.
Know someone who has had 3 kids and abandoned every single one of them. Another guy who grew up in foster care.
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Honestly heartbreaking seeing the devastation of young kids trying to work through the wreckage people like this leave behind.
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Unfortunately the people willing to have kids in the scenarios you described are usually not emotionally mature enough (or possess the empathy) to give a shit or make the call not to do this
I'm in this post and in therapy. Working to become my own person recognizing that my worth isn't based on if others accept me, it's always there. I also don't have to be liked by everyone, and that's ok.
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Honestly heartbreaking seeing the devastation of young kids trying to work through the wreckage people like this leave behind.
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Unfortunately the people willing to have kids in the scenarios you described are usually not emotionally mature enough (or possess the empathy) to give a shit or make the call not to do this