I completely agree with her. Many feminists preach equality but in fact act against equality. If we are equal to men, then either a mom or dad can be a stay at home parent without criticism. Its our choice as adult individuals to choose what we value and will put our focus on. I respect parents who focus less on themselves (such as there career, money, & image) and instead focus on their child's welfare and happiness.
Exactly. It's about having choices rather then being told what your life will be. My older sister and brother in law are preparing for a baby right now. He will be a stay at home dad. My twin sister and her husband are doing the same, with her being the one to stay home. It's about creating a life and relationships that take your individual needs, weaknesses, strengths, and situation, and does what's best for you, instead of what other people think is "best" or "right".
I can be strong and compassionate. I can be driven and patient. I can be great at cooking and cleaning, and excell at my job. And same for men. Equality isn't about being the same. It's about being afforded the same options and choices for everyone. No one wants to be pigeonholed into a role because others think it's "how it's supposed to be".
Im actually not, I went on the poster's profile and checked his/her comments. How tracking posts years old lowers my IQ is something that I will never know, and probably not care to know.
Good joke guest. I've been here for almost 2 years. (For the confused since I just joined a few weeks ago , I was a guest). Guest, I'm not going to let some 12 year old nuisance make me leave a website I've grown to love. The community is the best part, and I wouldn't join this site just to make you fuck it up!
I think it's damaging to tell both men and women that efforts and time spent raising children, cooking, cleaning, laundry, and taking care of a home, are less then then making money. Being a parent is a lot of work, and beyond just the basic caregiving responsibilities, a parent teaches their children about the world. The very idea that "unless your paid its not work" undermines children and their needs to the very core. It is NOT more important to make money then tone a parent to your children. The world needs people who work, and caretakers of home and family. With out one or the other, society and life would crumble. Both roles deserve respect.
i see where she's coming from! She saw from experience that her mother was not able to spend as much time with her as she wanted to, doesn't hate on her mom for it, and i feel like she understands that yes, some can have a job and some can stay at home. I personally want a job myself, and with the whole sandwich thing, i agree too...like bro if you please me THAT WELL, then I'm bustin' out that panini maker! If you're in a relationship, sandwiches are ok because I'm sure your s/o does things for you too! Men and women should have the same rights and choices since we're all people.
And that is really what feminisn is, having the choice to live how you want to live while being given the same oppurtunities as your male counterparts.
Let's not be feminists, let's be equalitists. If a woman wants to be a stay at home mom, then she has every damn right to! If a man wants to be a stay at home dad, he has every right. Men and women should be able to live their lives however they please (assuming it isn't a murderous or something sort of lifestyle) without scrutiny from society. Go equality for everyone!
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Actually feminism is the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes, therefore it is a type of equalism. Feminism = =ism
Well, good luck with that, then. Nowadays it's not easy finding someone who will be fine with you staying at home. Being a stay-at-home mom is more of a privilege, rather than a choice. But I respect that and wish her good luck.
I agree with this wholeheartedly! I feel that sometimes women can be 'shove-it-down-your-throats' about Feminism and giving it a negative connotation when that's not even what feminism is. Essentially, it is equality. Women are taking this too far and basically saying women deserve or need more rights than men, and that's not what Feminism is about. To achieve true equality, we have to recognize that society does not only have prejudices towards females, but males as well. We say women on magazines are too perfect and make girls have low self esteem, yet we see guys with their shirts off in the magazines with six packs too good to be true and don't think anything of it. We say that women being sensitive and girly is a stereotype and it should be broken, yet we still think it's weird when guys break our stereotype for them (not showing much emotion and liking things that boys don't usually like, etc.). This is why we need equality- males and females alike.
I've only posted that twice, and it happens to be in the same week. Sorry for not wanting to see this in my feed when I have made sure posts posted under Talk is not showing up...
Because they are dicks who think that you saying that this is placed in the wrong section is you disagreeing with them and everything they have ever stood for
i think i spotted another feminist, really just because someone thinks something is in the right place does that make them a d*ck ? i think guests should have accounts before being able to make accusation's like that
I can be strong and compassionate. I can be driven and patient. I can be great at cooking and cleaning, and excell at my job. And same for men. Equality isn't about being the same. It's about being afforded the same options and choices for everyone. No one wants to be pigeonholed into a role because others think it's "how it's supposed to be".