Love the implication that house work = women and maintenance = men. Because we still live in the dark days where women can't enjoy maintenance and men can't enjoy house work. If y'all are sharing a living space both of y'all are responsible for the upkeep both in cleanliness and function.
Nobody does their car or home maintenance anymore, they just call a mechanic/technician/plumber/whatever. And basic maintenance (meaning stuff that is simple enough that you don't need a specialist) is done once or twice a year, cleaning is an everyday thing.
Exactly, if it's a shared household then both should partake in caring after it. Women also have careers nowadays it used to be that they just stayed home and that's why they did all the cleaning. If both of y'all are working and sharing a home both should be responsible for the upkeep. And if no one does their own maintenance, which is some still do we do our own maintenance at my house, then it could fall on either one to call a professional and suss it out.
My family is a bit traditional so it usually falls on my mom to do the cleaning and cooking while my dad does the maintenance and also has a more stressful job so he earns more. But if both partners have careers on the same level, both should share cleaning and maintenance. And stuff like oiling the doorframe or tightening some screws is really not that hard.
If both agree that one is gonna do either thing it's all good. But implying that that's how everyone should be just isn't right. Times have changed women and men don't have specific roles as much as they used to. The woman doing the housework becomes an issue when that individual isn't ok with it. Maybe they have a demanding career on top of kids and the household in that case it's important for both to contribute. But if one partner doesn't work I agree it falls upon them to pull their weight somehow but let's keep in mind that doesn't mean it's a woman staying home with the kids. Which is why paternal leave is just as important as maternal leave but that's a whole other topic.
Yeah exactly, either share the housework or establish some roles with which both parties will be happy. But it's unacceptable to expect one partner to work as much as the other AND do housework. Just equality, man.
Totally agree, it's not the house work that causes a rift and arguments it's one partner feeling like they're doing too much and aren't getting support from the other. But if it's something they both agreed on it's not an issue.
Interesting comments to my reply about home & vehicle maintenance. Actually, I *do* the home repairs and auto maintenance/repairs that some of you seem to think are impossible. I have the full-time job, while my wife works part-time. And somehow, with your all-knowing power, you've decided that somehow that's not possible and I should be doing "half" of the housework.
@guest I literally wrote that you should either share or establish roles that suit both, and jayse agreed. So re-read the previous two comments please, and stop blaming us for things we didn't say.
I also said that we do our own maintenance at home and growing up as a woman and still being taught maintenance goes to show that it's not just a man's job. If that's what works in your marriage it's all good you're not a shitty person because it's something both of you are happy with. But if both have equally intense careers both need to contribute.
@jayse yeah exactly, I'm a woman who was also taught basic maintenance but it's not like I'll fix a washing machine when it breaks. Guest just didn't interpret our comments right, it seems.
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Funniest joke I heard all day. I may have peed a little.