Do you have people in your family with such problems? Do you do drugs and afraid you won't be able to stop while pregnant? Or does your partner do them and you afraid she won't stop? Do you live in a third world where doctors are not as skilled?
Other than these problems the chances of you haveing a child with mental problems is very low.
And if you still feel like you don't want kids only for that reason you can always adopt. There is plenty of kids in this world who are 100% fine and need a family.
I just hope the only reason you don't want a kid with such problems is you feel you can not handle the emotional and physical energy to care for them. Because yes it is hard work and it will never end but they are beautiful people who love never ends.
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Good call, retardation is genetic.
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Actually mental retardation can be environmental or genetic. Environmental mental retardation is caused by external forces either during pregnancy or shortly after birth.
I feel the same way. Not because I'm afraid of the care, or cost, but I'm afraid I wouldn't love my kid as much if they were mentally ill. I'm afraid I wouldn't treat them right, or abuse them emotionally.
Someone I know has THREE children with autism. One is so severely disabled mentally that the child might accidentally kill the parents in a fit of rage one day. The child is young now, so violence is limited to bruises, cuts, swollen eyes, bloody lips, etc, but it could get ugly very fast. I am concerned for her and think of her often. She is very dedicated to her children but it is likely the child will not remain at home forever. Professional care will be required.
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You can actually get your DNA tested with the guy you wanna have kids with and they can tell you your odds. Plus, if you're pregnant, the doctors can test ahead of time for certain diseases like Down Syndrome. If I had a diseased baby, I'd abort it. I'd rather kill it than make it suffer it's whole life
I'm afraid my kids will become stupid teens and honestly I'll have to try so hard not to beat the shit out of them if they act like special snowflake and do emo shit. I'm there for them if they need help mentally and emotionally. But that cringy shit is too much for me
Not gonna lie it is HARD as HELL!!! I have a severly autistic child and my own health issues. The financial and emotional strain is heavy. But that's my little man so we rock. Things change when the diagnosis comes later in the child's life and it can be managed.
It's good that close minded people aren't reproducing, but you could always just abort it. The test for fetal Down syndrome let to a huge jump on abortions.
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I don't think they're being close minded, special needs kids cost a lot of money because more often than not, they need extra help
And I don't think some people can handle the heartbreak. The fact that you have to have round the clock care for them and the fact that they won't make it if something goes wrong, I don't think they couldn't handle the loss
Exact reason I wouldn't want one. I wouldn't be able to handle it, I know this.
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People are too caught up in not being "mean". "They're just like us, they're no different, stop being insensitive!" But they are not just like us, they have problems that -even if you put a lot of time and effort into fixing- can still end up being for nothing
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To be clear, there is nothing wrong with people like that, whatsoever, but they can be hard to take care of is what I'm saying
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I agree with you 100% people don't want to say it because it's cruel. It is, but it's also true.
Other than these problems the chances of you haveing a child with mental problems is very low.
And if you still feel like you don't want kids only for that reason you can always adopt. There is plenty of kids in this world who are 100% fine and need a family.
I just hope the only reason you don't want a kid with such problems is you feel you can not handle the emotional and physical energy to care for them. Because yes it is hard work and it will never end but they are beautiful people who love never ends.
Chances are, you won't have to worry about kids.
I dont care what theyve got going on.