Tip: there's a 99% chance the girl you think is pretty wants you to leave her alone. Women smile in greeting mostly out of politeness and to acknowledge your existence, not as an invitation. Unless you see her giving you a second look, you're bothering her. Believe me, if she's interested you'll get more than a smile. If you're not in a club and you don't get more than a single acknowledgement, leave her be and let her get her shit done in peace.
In guest's world, arranged marriages the guys have nothing to do with, cultures with matchmakers, and any historical woman of stature who chose her own lovers does not exist. There's probably also anger from a history of being told to leave people alone when demanding phone numbers and at least one instance of them saying "m'lady."
The issue I have is that I go to an all girls school and have done for nearly 7 years now. I could never approach a guy, I need someone to smile at me first so I can smile back and then they start the conversation. I try to make the first move but it just feel so difficult doing so.
Protip: That woman has zero ways of differentiating you, the guy who complimented her and asked for her number and, on being rejected, will leave her alone, and the other guy within a random distance of her who will compliment her and ask for her number and, on being rejected, follow her down the street and attempt to physically assault her. Most women, ESPECIALLY those who are considered attractive, have had this happen or know someone who has had this happen, and it only takes once to get paranoid.
I have to agree, I really dislike being asked out or complimented anymore because there have been men who's reactions are unpredictable when they are rejected. I'm not rude, I just tell them the truth "I'm very sorry I'm already taken", yet there was a man that looked like he was about to spit in my face, and a man who's reaction made me feel like he was going to show up to my work again and hurt me. I don't want to be asked out because I'm afraid of how they will react. I know not everyone behaves like this, but reactions like these just make you want to avoid these situations all together. I don't mean only men are like this either, I know for sure women could act pretty volitile in these situations as well, which may make you afraid of how other women may react when rejected.
It really just takes one moment in life that makes you start questioning intentions. I used to be flattered by being catcalled until one day I didn't respond to it and got followed home by the guy screaming because I didn't "respect" him. Now, not like that was the only incident, I'm a bit taken back whenever I get a compliment. I literally have a fake number I always use so I don't get confused when a guy reads it back "wrong" to double check. Sometimes it's so much easier and safer to just give a fake excuse/number than to say 'no I'm not interested.'
Usually they appreciate something like a not creepy compliment. Also, you're a TSA agent; do your job and don't flirt. Ask for numbers at the bar or cafe. It also depends on your age. It's weird when there's a big age difference. There's a time and place for this behaviour. If she wanted to be giving out numbers, she'd be somewhere like a club. This is the airport.
That's a severe lack of professionalism and while I recognize that TSA is generally seen as an overglorified and stupid security force, they still are a government organization and I hope to god they have some sense of professional behavior, of which asking for a client's number for personal reasons is not.
Been on the receiving end of an abusive relationship, though it happens years ago, I'm still on defense mode. If a man, have the audacity to be decent to ask for my phone number, I'd probably say no, but feels giddy inside. Not defensive. Now... if he acted upon it after I said no, by insisting, demanding or whatever, my defense mode would probably level up to fight mode.
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· 7 years ago
Should he really be hitting on women on the job tho
At the risk of not being funny -- while there's nothing terribly wrong with asking anyone for their phone number, there are situations where you shouldn't, and a TSA employee on duty is one of them.
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· 7 years ago
Asking a person (!) for his/her number when you first meet him/her without definite signs of interest is dorky at best and in most situations creepy, period. Doing this on your job is most probably prohibited and extra creepy. Doing this on your job as member of a state agency should cost you your job. "Making a first move" by asking someone you never met before, in that process, what does that say? "I fancy your body, lemme call you" - wow, what a flirt.
I wish this meme followed directly after one where the girl is whining that the cute guy she's got her eye on wont make the first move (like the one with the cute Uber driver).
As a woman, I hate these kind of women. Sure, some people don't like interaction, and everyone knows there's a certain risk to initiating in conversation with strangers. But on the defense? Asking for someone's number isn't violence. A TSA agent has the power to ACTUALLY grope you. That's not part of the story though, is it? A QUESTION? Jeez, stop telling women words are sexist violence.
"A TSA agent has the power to ACTUALLY grope you". Exactly. Now she has to worry that he'll do just that if he doesn't like her answer. It's never appropriate to hit on someone that you have power over.
FUCK.
Has it gone this far? Has it really gone this far?
It's not that she thought or even said it, it's that it has almost four thousand retreats and almost 24 thousand likes. She has a voice, people listen... this is the wrong message.
*head*
*desk*
I gotta shut up... you're gonna hear about me on the news if I don't. Some crazed whackadoo that got firehosed off a chimney for shouting obscenities at passing traffic.
Let me get bored or drunk at an outdoor party of some kind, you might get an astronomy lesson.
Way back in the day when I was in the Army, when we were in the field, some of the guys looked forward to pulling guard with me. One night at guard mount I overheard someone say, "You're on point three tonight with Smitty? Nah, you'll be fine. You might even want to take notes."
The Lieutenant even pulled me to the side once and asked me to go easy on using the NVGs for stargazing. We were going through batteries a little quicker at the posts I was at.
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· 7 years ago
How did that agent even get his pants on when his balls are the size of planets?
And people who do those creepy shit cause they are creepy, not bc they are men
Has it gone this far? Has it really gone this far?
It's not that she thought or even said it, it's that it has almost four thousand retreats and almost 24 thousand likes. She has a voice, people listen... this is the wrong message.
*head*
*desk*
I gotta shut up... you're gonna hear about me on the news if I don't. Some crazed whackadoo that got firehosed off a chimney for shouting obscenities at passing traffic.
Let me get bored or drunk at an outdoor party of some kind, you might get an astronomy lesson.
Way back in the day when I was in the Army, when we were in the field, some of the guys looked forward to pulling guard with me. One night at guard mount I overheard someone say, "You're on point three tonight with Smitty? Nah, you'll be fine. You might even want to take notes."
The Lieutenant even pulled me to the side once and asked me to go easy on using the NVGs for stargazing. We were going through batteries a little quicker at the posts I was at.