Because the more money you have the less you know your kid, so you buy them bigger things to hide that.
That's usually the case. Some rich families know the kids very well, some not-so rich families don't know their kids at all.
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I mean giving them a normal keypad phone is good. What of they get landed in some trouble? But, iPads and stuff is just ridiculous.
I tell kids that Santa has to follow a certain rule; Santa cannot give a gift Mommy and Daddy can’t afford in real life. It’s an old law and Santa can’t break it.
This is coming from a sweet place but it falls apart on thought. Parent A is "middle class" and buys their child a $50 santa gift. Parent B is a little less well off and has $20. Parent C is rather well off and buys an Ipad santa gift, parent D is very poor and buys a few $1-2 santa gifts, essentially just a stocking.
If all go to the same school and become aware of each other's gifts, child A and B may not feel to bad compared to each other, but both will feel bad compared to child A, child D will feel bad compared to all of them. So then must all
Parents be aware of the financial abilities of the surrounding kids, or are we basing it on a median income and just figure the poorest kids should get used to disappointment now and being poor "just sucks"? What of parents who buy multiple gifts from santa totaling hundreds of dollars, or ones who don't buy things from santa at all?
When I was young I remember getting a box of used toys, some of which were broken. I remember telling my mom that santa didn't bring anything I wanted and looking back I can't imagine the heartbreak I caused saying that. It still bothers me to this day, at 43 years old, that I did that. Not really sure if the santa myth is a good one. Why do gifts have to come from a mythological character anyway and what does it have to do with the birth of Jesus or the winter solstice?
If parents have the means and wish to buy their kids electronics, it is not for anyone else to say if it’s right or wrong, and how dare you pass judgment and make the parent feel guilty. It is certainly not reasonable to expect these parents to NOT buy it just because someone else who can’t afford it might have their feelings hurt. You’re probably in favor of participation trophies too.
Did you even read??
It's saying that Santa need not be the explanation behind presents. Santa gives one 8 year old and Ipad and another 8 year old socks, the latter will be upset. They believe that Santa made it and gave it, and the kid thinks they did something wrong.
Christmas shouldn't be about Santa giving presents, but about Parents and Friends and Family giving presents.
That way nobody gets upset.
Yeah, no. How someone celebrates Christmas with their family is their business. If they want to say Santa delivered the presents, that’s their right as a parent.
when I was little, I only got one or two things from "santa." I was raised by a single mom and she was doing really well when I was little, but things went pretty down hill around age 5. I always got a handwritten letter from Santa and something that was meaningful, but not necessarily what I asked for. Most of the time, I was gifted a book. But the best gift my mom gave me, was teaching me to not brag. When others asked what I got for Christmas, I usually downplayed it or mentioned something quickly. I always understood that the majority of my gifts came from my mom and I'm glad she taught me to never say anything at school, because it made others feel more at ease, whether they received an expensive gift or not. Talking about gifts can sometimes feel like a contest, and I'm glad I didn't participate in that
That's usually the case. Some rich families know the kids very well, some not-so rich families don't know their kids at all.
If all go to the same school and become aware of each other's gifts, child A and B may not feel to bad compared to each other, but both will feel bad compared to child A, child D will feel bad compared to all of them. So then must all
Parents be aware of the financial abilities of the surrounding kids, or are we basing it on a median income and just figure the poorest kids should get used to disappointment now and being poor "just sucks"? What of parents who buy multiple gifts from santa totaling hundreds of dollars, or ones who don't buy things from santa at all?
It's saying that Santa need not be the explanation behind presents. Santa gives one 8 year old and Ipad and another 8 year old socks, the latter will be upset. They believe that Santa made it and gave it, and the kid thinks they did something wrong.
Christmas shouldn't be about Santa giving presents, but about Parents and Friends and Family giving presents.
That way nobody gets upset.