This is commonly echoed advice, with only the pronouns changed, that has somewhat become twisted. Ask yourself- for you to feel a woman has dictated your value, you must already be basing your value on your ability to attract women. This meaning is further eluded to by the fact that the statement references “these women with fake everything...” a jab against a group of women. Regardless of what is or isn’t “fake” about them- the fact that internally they must be diminished in order to make one feel better about themselves goes on to show the inherent insecurity behind the overall sentiment- the fact that as you are valuable, they must somehow be defective if they would try to turn you down. More likely, you are both valuable, but simply do not posses what they are placing a premium of value on. That doesn’t diminish you or them, it just means that they have preferences you do not meet. As much as we may like to believe, there is no person or trait that everyone will be attracted to.
Make fun of a guy's height, no one batsman eye
Talk about girl's weight, everyone loses their mind
When in fact, height is way more difficult to change compared to weight if I don't say impossible once the guy's body has fully developed
Heightism isn't limited to men. I'm taller than most women and I've gotten shit for it countless times. We should work to together to defeat this shit instead of making it about one gender.
It’s a plight I’m sympathetic to, coincidentally, I don’t care about height. A certain ratio between partners is nice, for practical reasons of geometry, but it’s not a factor, just something to work around once you are dating and more intimate. That said, of course I would be all for it- height doesn’t attract or repulse me. Some people only like a large chest in a man or woman, some like butts or legs or a certain body type, narrow shoulders, wide shoulders, so on. While I don’t think we should make a certain height a social norm or beauty standard, I also think that individuals like what they like, and that’s ok because the whole point of not having a universal standard is that we all don’t look for one identical type of person. I think there’s a distinction between not finding a trait attractive, and refusing to date an otherwise wonderful person because of one trait you don’t like. But at the same time it is a persons right to choose what they like.
I'm 6'4", so I'm partial to tall women by default, I suppose; but it's not a deal-breaker as long as other important criteria such as personality, intelligence, morals, etc are met.
@keepsake- I appreciate that and am sorry it happened to you. I wasn’t trying to diminish that aspect of things, but that isn’t an issue of height as much as it is an issue of bullying. The idea that people who differ from a persons idea of what fits an expected “average” are somehow flawed, abnormal, worthy of derision or contempt is the cause of much suffering and discrimination. Working to change the way that people think and act is tough, but in cases like this worth it and noble. That said, my point wasn’t that it should happen, or that your experiences weren’t valid. My point was that it is a slippery slope and a fine line between modifying a behavior versus forcing a behavior. The word “defeat” sets the tone to me, defeat is to take sides and create barriers, then have one side win over the other, the victor imposing their will on the defeated. Changing views through cooperation versus through subjugation. The “defeated” must accept, the converted choose to.
@kakaburra ;)
A heightist?
Talk about girl's weight, everyone loses their mind
When in fact, height is way more difficult to change compared to weight if I don't say impossible once the guy's body has fully developed
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