I don’t think I’ve ever lost ALL respect for someone very quickly- and if I did I didn’t respect them much to start. There’s a natural human respect that is afforded to all who don’t otherwise lose that- and then there are respects based on aspects. I can respect the dedication or organization of say- a serial killer. I can respect the cleverness of a crooked politician. To lose ALL respect if either only have to have a passing respect for you to start- or only respect you on a single attribute and have that critically damaged. That said-
That’s still a hard sell. I might seriously lose respect based on an incident- but to lose ALL of it? If I have respect for you it was likely earned over time through consistent behavior. So it would seem to me, in all but the most extreme cases- that to allow myself to condemn you totally on a single occurrence weighed against a series of occurrences would generally be rash. The only real exceptions to this are what I consider true horrors. I don’t care who you are- if you rape a person- I will lose all respect for you. If you touch a child in a wrongful way- I will lose all respect for you. The sad part to me isn’t the loss of respect- but the fact such a thing happened at all. I will qualify that though and say while I might not respect a person who’s done certain horrible things- I do respect myself and I respect justice so I would still treat them by the minimum standards that self respect dictates.
A girl in my class who was really bossy (a caricature really, not letting people in her work groups say anything even though her ideas could generally be ranked from less than average to downright crappy) and one time yelled at a guy in front of everyone before morning class. She didn't do it to make things better (it was obvious given the circumstances and what she was saying), she was trying to humiliate him. In front of the whole class, within ear reach of other classes that (what a coincidence!!) were being taught by one of our teachers and our director (she was manipulative enough to have chosen that time specifically, however not enough to later be discreet about it). That really shocked me and I lost all respect for her.
She probably has some qualities as well but I don't know her enough to have noticed them, and now I don't want to.
After a lifetime of living with my abusive, narcissistic father, I asked him while looking him dead in the eye if he believes he never wronged me—and the answer was a simple “Yes, I do”.
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She probably has some qualities as well but I don't know her enough to have noticed them, and now I don't want to.